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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/06/12 04:19
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By: White_Diamond
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I'm not the biggest fan of PDAs but as long as they aren't groping one another, I don't really mind. But I cannot stand heterosexual couples making out in gay bars. It's just a "look at us, we're "normal"" statements and I just feel like knifing them.
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/06/23 08:05
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By: Sweet16
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I've always been too 'afriad' to show PDA.
Society is still full of the older generation which were brought up to be intolerant to gay people.
The last time i showed PDA I ended up in a fight.
And since then it's just put me off it alltogether.
I mean holding hands i can do no problem but you just drawthe line at kisses or obvious 'groping' of eachother.
I personally believe that what you and your partner do, wether straight, gay or lesbian or whatever you want to call yourself should be between the two of you. And not introduced to the general public. Love is something you share between 2 people. Not the whole of society.
As far as my PDA goes, i was brought up to be, and are what most would see as a 'gentleman' - If you want a seat, i stand and offer you mine, i open the dfoors for you, even more sincere If i get you a drink i'l always taste it first to make sure its of a standard i wish to give to my partner. It's simple things like this which go un-noticed nowadays, even more so its just not even appreciated. Apparently love now is sex and physical contact. Whatever happened over the past 2007 years of mankind to warp the views of what love really is? I mean, Come on.
And as for 'letting your partner down' by declining PDA, well i feel if they really loved you as much as you or they think, they would appreciate your decision and not be put down by it.
Love, is a 2 way affair. It needs input from both parties involved, and more so respect for each. And if your relationship lacks or misses those fundamental issues, then i really think you should re-think your relationship, or at least make your partner aware of his/her mistakes.
You could say now i really do have room to talk, i've not been with a guy since my perfect one was taken from me in a car accident. But thats fate.
I'm just hoping I find the right man, and he appreciates my actions. Trouble is, easier said than done.
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/06/27 04:22
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By: randomname969
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I don't see a problem with it, well.. if it's two guys. I gotta admit it's pretty gross when your walking down the hall and you see two people like practically humping each other in the corner lol. But holding hands and stuff like that is fine by me, just don't go crazy
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/06/28 12:16
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By: newboi
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i don't think that there is anything wrong with it as long as you don't go tooo far. me and my bf hold hands all of the time. and yes it brings about a few stares, but such is life....they will get over it....lol
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/06/30 20:05
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By: Caffeine_Addict414
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I don't see anything wrong with PDA. Holding hands in public and maybe a quick kiss is perfectly fine. Just like major gropage and hardcore making out in broad day light is just too much, unless its dark out... thats fun 
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection)
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Date: 2007/07/04 22:18
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By: pogostickrider123
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i haveno problem with pda
ok i go tothe theme park near my house like every day with friends and i like to c ppl holdin hands an the acasianl peck.
but this is where i will get shot!
i think that making out in line or at a park or at areasturant is romantic like u dont care all u r thinking abiut is the other person!!
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/07/09 17:56
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By: jonezen_7777
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i think you should do wat you want and stop careing so much about wat others think. I do agree that it is a bit rude to make out in public. So I guess i agree with the general concenses here.
~J~
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection)
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Date: 2007/07/16 07:52
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By: saarkie
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i myself dont have problems PDA, but if i had a partner that did i'd understand and respect their choice and work through it with them if they wanted to have PDA. But i don't think that 'oh where i live is not accepting' should really be used as an excuse because its about where its apropriate and whats apropriate. That applies to any couple not just homosexual or heterosexual couples.
When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete, everybody will respect you.
-Lao Tzu
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/07/21 05:36
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By: Jupetta
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I'm 100% for it, I would love to display my feelings for a guy in public.
When I had my ex-boyfriend, he refused to hold hands with me once when we were at the mall... it really upset me.
Anyways... yeah, I'm for it. ^_^
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/07/21 17:35
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By: Owen05
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PDA has always been a big gray area for my girlfriend and I. After school one day we were holding hands in a hall way. A janitor approached us the next day and told us if she saw it again, she'd report us to the principal, who would then contact our parents. In other places we've been completely open with only a few stares as a consequence. It just seems to be something that you and your someone should discuss and make a decision about.
But frankly, for me. I'll never regret or ever take for granted a single time that I touched or looked at her, no matter who was watching. That's my PDA.
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/07/26 16:26
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By: Dan69
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I love being in physical contact with my man.. in public though, I'm too shy to go beyond a light kiss and holding hands or putting an arm around him as we walk.. I have a feeling, that if I were not a big guy, people would express some form of disgust as we walk by like this (seeing how many religious people are around this area.. >.< But as it is, they keep their mouths shut, and their hands to themselves.. So I am happy with what we do.
I wouldn't ever make out in public, I have once, and only once.. grabbed a handful of booty as we walked.. but only because he did it first.. and there was no one around at the time..
So yea.. Keep it reasonably clean, and I am all for PDA.
No those pants don't make your butt look big. It doesn't need any help looking big.
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/07/31 20:00
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By: FreddyHeckler
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I personally think its healthy to be open in any relationship, but, as with anything, there has to be some sort of line. PDA really depends on the circumstances. For instance, if you're at somewhere incredibly diverse with thoughts, (Oh, I don't know, school or any general social collision area, per say?) then it's probably best to do anything too extreme.
So, as far as PDA, what it really boils down to is the your judgment, your partner's judgment, and your general surrounding's judgment (if you even care).
All we see or seem,
is but a dream within a dream.
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection)
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Date: 2007/08/12 02:01
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By: josh_86
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If you get rejected, there's always an underlying issue.
If your significant other gets emabarrased by PDA's, approach the situation lightly. Talk to them about it. Find out exactly what it is that embarrasses them. It could be that they're not as comfortable displaying their sexuality as you are. I mean, I've never seen a straight guy with a PDA problem.
Try to slowly work them out of it. Start with small steps, like putting your hand on his arm every now and then. And be as patient as possible. Pushing them is definately not going to make them feel any better about things.
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection)
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Date: 2007/08/16 01:18
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By: xNonStopLovex
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I love PDA.
Holding hands.
Sitting on his lap.
Letting him wrap his arms around me from behind.
Hugging him tight.
Giving him little pecks on the cheek or even a passionate make out session.
I have absolutely no problem with PDA.. I mean.. We don't have to like make out or fondle each other... but I would be hurt if he refused to hold my hand...
PDA is assuring in some ways...
Like.. he's not ashamed to let people know he is gay and he loves me...
:}
Nothing matters after you've been hit so hard you can't feel a thing.
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection)
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Date: 2007/08/16 06:37
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By: nibonder
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If I were to get rejected for something as small as a hand to hold on to, I'd be so crushed. That would... hurt, A LOT!  But I could understand that some people aren't comfortable with being gay to the entire world. Unfortunately, in society, the first reaction for two men holding hands is either to cover the children's eyes or to yell "HOMO!"
In high school, it's a total "NO-NO". If two guys were holding hands in the halls, they'd get beef from the principal, not to mention all the talk from fellow classmates.
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/08/16 06:50
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By: Boxers_lover
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I am a fan of PDA, as long as they are relevant to the social situation... groping in the line to Disneyland may not go down too well (Be a good laugh though)
I would be totally cool if my bf wasn't into PDA, i may be a little confused he was out and it was around friends but i could deal with it. Of course in the long term i would love it if he was able to but hey love is between 2 people.
Steve
The above are just my ramblings so please consume with a pinch of salt
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/08/17 23:31
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By: grimangel
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It depends on the PDA, holding hands and kissing are ok but Im not about to pull my girl (not that I have one ) off onto a random couch and make out with her. Thats just the wrong place at the wrong time!
Only those whom have concoured fear can concour death
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/08/19 09:01
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By: Joe5150
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As long as the genitalia are left out of the picture, I have no qualms with PDAs...now, if two people (or more, for that matter) are making out in such a fashion that it appears as though someone's face has been eaten, that I might find a bit disturbing, and it's not something that I'd do myself, but holding hands, hugs, light kissing...fine by me....
I don't think I'd feel really put off by a partner's refusal to engage in a PDA, because it may not be something that they're comfortable with, and that's fine....
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection
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Date: 2007/08/19 10:39
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By: moros
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I'm happy with holding hands and kissing in public, I've unfortunately had a few comments, but they're mostly from bald drunk middle age men so I haven't taken any notice yet. Obviously I wouldn't do it somewhere where we didn't feel safe.
I don't really care what other people do...but as Joe said if genitals are involved then things start to get a bit icky...and face-eating's fine in private or out of the way but not in the middle of the street please!
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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection)
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Date: 2007/09/02 13:41
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By: dean
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ok, welll...
I love to be the guy who can walk through my city center and hold hands with my guy!!!
and a few months ago i had a bf who wouldnt even do that in the darkness of a cinema
and it hurt, me not being able to get close to him in that way..
him saying no, or pushing my away...
not even a hug goodbye was given.
I knew it would last, i need to be shown the love or whats the point of having a relationship...
Straight couples get to do that in public, so why cant i!!?  x
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