My parents had just had a huge fight and I was certain they were going to divorce. I don't know what came over me, but I'd been wanting to tell my mother for a while, so I told her and my sister, SOO uncomfortable She's happy because now she has a gay friend (and brother =p)
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I'm a wannabe raging homo... cause I'm really just a homo :|
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2006/11/10 02:27
By: Xander713
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Well my story is kinda simple but Here it goes ignore the errors my keyboard is old and sometimes the keys don't work. I had known i was bi for about 2 years and had decided i wnated people to start knowing, well my aunt katy (mom) and my couisn (sister) alexandria figured it out because they caught pretending to be a girl so guys would talk to me i know thats low but i didn't know what to do. Well i decided i was going to tell alexandrias little sister amethyst my other cousin(sister). Well that went okay she understood. Well finally i told my other cousin kim (itch-b) Well she decided to tell alot of people in our family it worked out okay. School was about over and i was telling my friend nikki about me being bi. She was okay with it even though she was a majoy christian. Well i made a mistake of writing it in a note and her cousin john got ahold of it. Well it got around to the whole school and i lost almost all my friends because of it. THe ones that stood by my side i knew where my real friends. We joked around about it and we had a good time. All my girl-friends kept asking me which boy was cuter lol. Neways its pretty much died down some people still give me trouble but thats okay. All my friends are by my side. Some people are okay with it now that wasn't okay with it. Well thats my story as you see. I find it humorous now. HAHA ~Xander~
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2006/11/11 09:53
By: E_Rogers
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Huh. Lots of interesting stories...too bad mine's kinda boring!
I've only told one person so far, by best friend, who happens to be bi, and not very shy about it. We've, like, literally known each other since we were in the womb, so that made things a whole lot easier to explain.
It was October 21st @ a football game. My friend brought another guy with her, so we were parading around the stands together. The only reason I was there, really, was to play with the pep band and annoy some homophobic bitch who thinks her shit doesn't smell. . . Anyways, the band has a break half-time thru 3rd quarter, so we went off and got food @ the nearest truck stop. Afterwards, we go into the highschool (which was open because of on-field bathroom troubles. . .) and start talking, say how much our football team sucks, (which they do) and decide to go back outside. Well, we get out there, and my friend and I start heading back to the field while the other guy goes back inside for the bathroom. I said "What would your reaction be if I told you I was gay?" and she said that she wouldn't care, she'd actually have a gay friend now. AND THEN -- she asked me about it. I kinda had that playful, lying-to-your-face look on, and said "no" and looked away. And she says "Ah! You are! You always look away when you lie!"
AND THEN -- silence. . .
She said "Are you really?" I don't lie to her, bla bla bla. . .
Wow. That's kinda lengthy. Not out to anyone else, bla bla bla. . . but I think my mother knows because of countless gigabytes of. . . stuff. . . on the computer, which is why I'm gettin' my own in December.
YAY FOR PERSONAL COMPUTERS!! . . . . AND BAGELS. . . .
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2006/11/16 12:10
By: chico
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Ironically, the first person that I came out to was the last person in the world that I even wanted to know that I was gay. He also happens to be not only my best friend, but also the first person that I've ever fallin in love with. Oh yeah! - Did I mention that he's strait. When I first realized that I was in love with him, I was blind to reality and convinced myself that I wouldn't feel this way if he couldn't feel the same way in return. As far as I was concerned, it wasn't a matter of if, but when. With as much love that I felt for him, I figured that we where already half way to "happily ever after" - But eventually your brain catches up with your heart and it's devistating.
Fear doesn't even begin to describe the feeling that I had whenever I even thought how he might react should he find out that I was gay. Not to mention madly in love with him. But one night at an away game at our rival school, I saw him with a girl and got jealous. I was being a jerk the rest of that night and he kept asking my what my problem was. The next morning he asked me how I was feeling and I said that I was tired.
"Yeah! - I'm tired of a lot of things!" He said.
"Oh yeah! - Like what for instance?" I asked.
"You know what I'm talking about?" He said.
"No I don't - Tell me?" I said.
"Um... you're the one who should be telling me something. Now do you know what I'm talking about?" He said.
"I think that you think that you do, but you don't!" I said.
"Don't what? - Know that you're gay and in love with me. PAAALEASE! - It's so obvious." He said.
So...that was that. I was "out" and were still best friends. Go figure.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2006/11/26 09:15
By: Caleb93
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Dang you guys have guts tellin your parents! Well I've only told two friends which took it really good. But...my parents thats the problem I'll probally come out to my mom but the rest of my family are like anti-gay except my mom and sister. Like for instance my mom has a brother(my uncle) names Chuch well hes gay and everyone in my family cept my mom and sister call him Aunt chuch cuz he is gay! so I don't really wan't that to happen to me so I'm probally gonna stick with my friends.
Well my friends took it so well! The first person I told was a girl I know named Ashley she is really supportive she was like "Dang Caleb I don't think anyone saw this coming(sarcastic)" it was funny we talked about boys and stuff for like an hour. The other friend was just like ok...cool? well I'm gonna wrp this up so cya!
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2006/12/05 03:54
By: takemeorleaveme
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The first people I came out to were the girls in my close group of friends. Me and two of my friends were sitting outide class working on some work (can't remember what exactly) and I just kind of said "Guys, I have something I need to tell you, I'm gay." They were both really great about it and said that they were happy that I felt comfortable telling them and then they gave me hugs ^^ I came out to the rest of my friends at my birthday party that year- again, they were all really great about it. Then came the hard part... Telling my boyfriend. He reacted a lot better than I thought he would, and we're still good friends. After all this I assumed that coming out to everyone wouldn't be a problem, unfortunately that wasn't true. Some of my other friends refuse to believe me no matter how many times I tell them, I just wish that they would get it through their heads.
Anyways, the real story that I wanted to tell happened about a month ago. I was going back to my old school to be a student facilitator for a program called Challenge Day, it's an anti-bullying program that works to break down the barriers that get built up between students. Because I had gone through some training to be a facilitator, I knew that we would do an excercise in small groups where we would have to finish the sentence "If you really knew me, you would know..." All that week I went back and forth about coming out. It was at my old school so it was possible that I would never even see some of these people again. I eventually decided to just see how I felt about it that day. The day came and I reached a decision not to come out, when it came to the 'if you really knew me...' excercise I didn't tell anyone that I was gay, I did however reveal a lot about myself that I had never told anyone. Anyways after that was done, I felt really close to all the people in my group, especially this one teacher. We were asked to partner off and I ended up with him. We were then asked to complete the sentence "Something I'm afraid to tell you is..." I was trying to come up with something to say since I had decided not to come out when something clicked in my brain- You idiot! Just say what you really are afraid to say. So I told him, and he gave me a hug and was really supportive. I still get all happy when I think about the fact that I came out to someone who before that day was a complete stranger.
Woah! Holy long post Batman!... SorryWhen the days drag on for years but the years fly past, live every day like your last.- Feeling Electric
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2006/12/12 07:25
By: xKorix
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This is kind of a long story; it took a while for me to come out. It also may be kind of confusing, I didn't want to use names. During grade 10 a random friend pointed out a guy she thought was cute. I didn't think much of it then, but during grade 11, I caught him staring at me on more than one occasion. I still didn't think much of it, but I started to really have feelings for him. Around the same time me and a friend K, were into an online game, there she made friends with one of her younger brothers friends who was openly gay. We also started to play together. The cute guy from school was graduating soon, and I knew at the time I wasn't brave enough to go up to him. I still caught him giving me looks. I don't know why. Anyways nothing happened there and he graduated but my feelings for him grew stronger. I had to talk to someone about it. It turns out me and the online gay friend used to go to the same school. I got to know him more. My friend K and him stayed up very late all summer playing the game. I was usually partying and came home a little tipsy. There I opened up to him completely, including my feelings for the cute guy from school. During the middle of summer I came out to my closest cousin. It was very hard to do. We walked all over the neighborhood the entire night just talking and laughing, but when the sun came up I knew it was time. He said it was totally cool, he was bi. During the end of summer I started to hang out with the online gay friend. I knew he started having feelings for me, but I just didn’t know what to do. I was very confused at the time. I read one of his conversations he had with a friend, but he forgot to delete one part. It said he loved me. We hung out once more sitting in a field watching a thunderstorm soaking wet in nothing but our shorts and t-shirts, before we got into a fight and stopped talking. The first semester of grade 12 started and I felt like a zombie. I don’t really remember much, just going to my classes and seeing all my friends, but not actually being there. My mind was always somewhere else. It went by in a flash and before I knew it 2006 had almost arrived. I had missed my online buddy a lot so I arranged with my friend…a sort of get together. We hung out that night and everything had gone smoothly. When I got home I unblocked him from MSN. I set up a meeting and around midnight we met in a park midway between our houses. We talked for a while. He said he still had feelings for me. I told him I did too. I pulled him close to me and I held him. After that day I had started my first “true” relationship. I had dated girls before, but it just felt unexciting to me. He told K and we were our own little clique. Eventually I told my best friend M. She wanted to know where I had been disappearing too all the time. I sort of stuttered it out, in tears. She gave me a hug and told me I didn’t have to be scared to tell her. She was also bi . I wasn’t ready for the feelings I would experience in a relationship and it turned very rocky. I didn’t know what to do. I told my mother just randomly one night. She also wanted to know why I had been acting differently and where I was disappearing too. She was mad. She yelled and screamed, called me names. The morning after as she was leaving for work, she apologized but said I should end it. A few days later he dumped me. I was shocked and I spent the next few weeks recovering and talking to a counselor. That was almost a year ago and to this day, I haven’t really told anyone else. They don’t ask, I don’t tell. But I don’t really care if they know anyways. I’ve gotten to know myself so well since then and I love the way I am, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2007/01/02 02:29
By: a_Palmy_boi
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YAY! I get to tell my story! Ohkies.... Well the first person i ever told was my x-gf, and that was to tell her y i broke up with her. She cried It was sad But then i found "The GYC" and it changed my life! (sounds like an infomercial lol, soz) But seriously, i found some guys from NZ and abroad and they helped me to accept what i was and to become comfertable with it. BUT, my dad then was looking through my history and found thegyc. Woops! So he didnt tell me that he had found it, but then one day he said "Lets go for a drive", so we went for a drive and he said "ohk we'll go down to the river". So i drove down to the river and then he said, "Lets go for a walk". So then (ur all probly REALLY bored by now!) we found a log and sat down. And he said, "So how do you feel about ur Mum and Frieda" (My mums lez), and i said "I think theyre good, genuine ppl who really love each other". And he said "ohk, so whats the gyc?" and i say "its a site for gay....youths." "Right, he knows", i was thinking. And then he said, "so what relevance does that have to you", he said [ he had said alot more, he just kept on hinting at the topic] And i said ".... For goodness sakes dad just ask me!!!" and then he said "ohk! Andrew, are you gay?!" and i said "YES!". It was funny. I explained to him that id known since i was about 11 and that above all, the ONLY thing he needed to remember was that it was NOT a concious decision that i had made. And that was it, he was ohk with it, said that it would take abit of getting used to, but thats normal really. And now, for the second family member! Well this only happened yesterday soo... For new years i went to Vinegar Hill, and on new years this is like GAY CENTRAL for New Zealand right, and i hadnt told my dad or anyone that i was going, i had lied and said that i was going to a party. So i go and have a REALLY good time (if you know what i mean lol) and i get back home and my sisters sitting on the couch, and she said "Andrew, what is that on your neck?!" and of course i hadnt looked at myself that day so i didnt know that i had a hickie! So then she said "So what was her name" and i said "Haha ummm.... HIS name was L****" [sesored for privacy issues]. And she was like "are you gay?!" and im like "yeah!" and she was like "oh, ur so cute!" and then she helped me cover it up so the olds didnt see. She was completely fine with it and so was dad, and im sure that my mum will be too. Well anyways! Congratulations if you made it to the end and THANKS for reading! Mwah Any interpretation of scripture that hurts people, oppresses people, or destroys people cannot be the right interpretation, no matter how traditional, historical, or exegetically respectable. There can be no debate about the fact that the church’s stand on homosexuality has caused oppression, loneliness, self-hatred, violence, sickness, and suicide for millions of people. If the church wishes to continue with its traditional interpretation it must demonstrate, not just claim, that it is more loving to condemn homosexuality than to affirm homosexuals. Can the church show that same-sex loving relationships damage those involved in them? Can the church give compelling reasons to believe that it would really be better for all lesbians and gay Christians to live alone, without the joy of intimate touch, without hearing the a lover’s voice when they go to sleep or awake? Is it really better for lesbian and gay teenagers to despise themselves and endlessly pray that their very personalities be reconstructed so that they may experience romance like their straight friends? Is it really more loving for the church to continue its worship of “heterosexual fulfillment” (a non-biblical concept, by the way) while consigning thousands of its members to a life of either celibacy or endless psychological manipulations that masquerade as “healing”? – Dale Martin I know its long, but ITS TRUE
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2007/01/04 03:35
By: PaulaF
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I was in Physics class when I came out to my friends. We were all working on a group project while we talked. Someone asked what we would rather do, date a girl or commit suicide (hey, it isn't THAT bad, even if you're 100% straight!), and I answered "date a girl, definitely, **** is hot!"
That was pretty much it. It was actually kind of fun I probably would've been scared, but I hadn't thought much about it beforehand, since I was just realizing I liked girls.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2007/01/04 04:37
By: lstthoughts8
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Not so Conventional Coming Out Tale...lol
This happened...January of my senior yr of high school (I'm now in my freshman yr of college.) I came home from a date with my ex bf on a saturday night, and was just generally paranoid as I usually am after dates when i'm around my parents. I was talking to my mother downstairs, when my father called me up to his room. He told me that he went into my room to drop off my wallet on my desk, and apparently i had left my computer on and had paused one of my porns.... I felt like an idiot as i usually turn that stuff off before i leave, and i didn't know what to say. I played dumb, not knowing what else to do. He was being calm and told me that he would love me no matter what and that I should never be afraid to tell him anything about me. I busted out in tears and my father took me into his arms and held me. In between my tears I told him that I didn't want to tell him because of how my grandfather had molested him as a child and wasn't sure if it had given my father a misconstrued outlook on gays and not being able to determine gays from pedophiles. My father started to cry as well and told me he would never consider all gay men pedophiles and told me that pedophiles are just sick individuals and of course he's not stupid enough to think all gay men were pedophiles. I told him I was bi-leaning more towards gay and said I'm sorry for not telling him. We hugged again and he let me go to my room.
The whole reason I didn't want to tell people was because of my father's molestation as a child. Once my father knew...I knew I could tell everyone. So over the next two weeks I told the rest of my family. First my sister, then my mother, and then my brother. All of them were extremely accepting and it didn't seem to phase them at all. After that I simply posted my sexuality on facebook and myspace and all of my friends knew, that didn't already know.
Coming out was one of the best decisions/mistakes that has ever happened to me. Being able to be completely open about who I am...is simply amazing and such a freeing feeling
The end of my coming out tale...thing...lol.
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She's happy because now she has a gay friend (and brother =p) 
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lol) and i get back home and my sisters sitting on the couch, and she said "Andrew, what is that on your neck?!" and of course i hadnt looked at myself that day so i didnt know that i had a hickie! So then she said "So what was her name" and i said "Haha ummm.... HIS name was L****" [sesored for privacy issues]. And she was like "are you gay?!" and im like "yeah!" and she was like "oh, ur so cute!" and then she helped me cover it up so the olds didnt see. 
I probably would've been scared, but I hadn't thought much about it beforehand, since I was just realizing I liked girls.
I felt like an idiot as i usually turn that stuff off before i leave, and i didn't know what to say. I played dumb, not knowing what else to do. He was being calm and told me that he would love me no matter what and that I should never be afraid to tell him anything about me. I busted out in tears and my father took me into his arms and held me. In between my tears I told him that I didn't want to tell him because of how my grandfather had molested him as a child and wasn't sure if it had given my father a misconstrued outlook on gays and not being able to determine gays from pedophiles. My father started to cry as well and told me he would never consider all gay men pedophiles and told me that pedophiles are just sick individuals and of course he's not stupid enough to think all gay men were pedophiles. I told him I was bi-leaning more towards gay and said I'm sorry for not telling him. We hugged again and he let me go to my room. 