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just putting it out there . . .
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Date: 2008/04/24 19:50
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By: flyingt
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ok, so I don't knw really what I want people to reply to this, I just need to spill it all out, I guess to make sense of it myself. . .
Ok, so i am 16, I have been bi/gay for probably about a year now? Yeah about that, so im pretty sure what I want, right now its a boyfriend, I don't know if its a want or need situation. I think its a want though, beacuase i wouldn't take just anyone if you know what I mean.
I've been looking for prob six months now for a boyfriend, and I have to say that finding gay guys my age in my town is like finding the right grain of sand on a three mile beach. Some guys tell me they have had over 20 boyfriends (if thats the truth i don't know), i say ok cool. But then I think to myself how the hell did they find 20 gay people?! But, I just let it go and forget. But yes, so I'm still looking, actually now I have given up, I have found a few people my age, but they are either a stoner, alcoholic, dropout or just a general dick. Its almost like they are just being gay to be rebellious, like it goes with their "look" or something.
I just want someone, and I don't know why I can't find them. People say, your searching too hard, "thats weird because your good looking" (which is another thing i hate, but thats another post), etc. So yeah, and I havent ever been hit on so i dont know whats wrong.
So yeah, reply, please. Just so I know someone has read this. Im not trying to sound desperate, this isnt an ad, its just me spilling how i feel.
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Re:just putting it out there . . .
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Date: 2008/04/25 03:00
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By: k_owen
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Whether those guys had 20 boyfriends or not, truth is that even you could have 20 or more yourself, but it’s not what you are looking for. You are looking for the right grain of sand, you could give up any time and decide to pick any grain of sand and date the stoner, or the alcoholic, or the dropout, but you know its not what you’re looking for cause as you said, not anyone would do, the same way not any grain of sand would do.
I understand, sometimes we all feel like giving up, but there’s no reason why you should. You’re still very young, there are still loads of other people to meet in time, and when it gets too hard to bare, all you have to do is to give yourself a break, leave all the possible tracks for any interested guys to find you, and just spend time with yourself, enjoy the company of your friends and loved ones and do anything which pleases you.
Although looking for the right grain of sand is frustrating and very hard, once you find it, you know that all the time you’ve spent looking for it was worth it if its what you truly want.
If we give up on what we really want, than what else is there left to hold on to? The world is a different place the moment we realize that nothing is too hard to find or accomplish.
Oh and btw, welcome to thegyc, a good place where to spill out thoughts 
love,
Keith
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Re:just putting it out there . . .
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Date: 2008/04/27 06:52
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By: meisinscotland
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I know how you feel there friend. Back in 2007 my life underwent some pretty large changes. I moved away from home at the age of 16, to a large city, into student accommodation, and basically started a new life. While moving to the city opened up many new opportunities -those including the prospect of meeting guys being multiplied tenfold- disaster soon struck and a few months after I was experiencing short but sharp manic/depressive phases. I eventually got myself sorted, but it's left a mark on me. I had a boyfriend in 2007, two actually, but certain things happened that after it I just didn't want to go near a man again. I was single for a whole year, despite this city is swimming with gay guys, until just recently I found someone again.
It takes courage to put yourself out there but once you manage that you will find things easier. For starters you've made a GYC account, which is a huge step towards possibly finding someone. It's a damn site harder any other way because unlike 'str8' people, we can't just walk up to someone and start interacting because unless you're very lucky, the man you're chatting up won't be a gay one!
Perhaps you might want to look into blogging to get your feelings out there. Sometimes I write incredibly stupid things in a blog and then regret it 5 minutes later, but, it helps either way.
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