Hello GYC I've had a crush on my best girl friend for the longest time. She had absolutely no idea, and for the longest time seemed to be crushing on a guy (total jerk). But lately it seems like more than what we have already, there'll be cute little unnecessary touches from her, like randomly hugging me or touching my face. If I put my arm around her she leans closer, and we've loosely held hands before. At a crowded sleepover at our friends' just two days ago, we slept in the same bed without question.. I'm confused. She hardly even talks about sexuality anymore, and isn't dating anyone, but I've seen her express interest in a guy tons of times. I don't know if what's been happening to us recently is because she's lonely and needs friend-support, she's just realized she's gay, she's closing her eyes and pretending I'm a guy whenever I put my arms around her, or she wants us to go out. This is like a dream come true having her be this close, but I want to know what's going through her insane mind and whether or not I should try anything.
Don't want a face-slap-dyke like the last time. Rejection seriously hurts.
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Re:How cuuuuteee
Date: 2008/04/17 07:11
By: meisinscotland
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Wtf. You just posted the 666th topic in this forum
Eh, the GYC is being slow right now so I'll come back and make a thought out, logical reply, um, later...
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Re:How cuuuuteee
Date: 2008/04/17 15:07
By: Spazztic waffle
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I is satan lulz. Thank you?
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Re:How cuuuuteee
Date: 2008/04/18 01:03
By: meisinscotland
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Ok so... let's break this down. The easiest way to get thru any situation is to break it down. That's how computers do it so...
Spazztic waffle wrote: Hello GYC I've had a crush on my best girl friend for the longest time. She had absolutely no idea, and for the longest time seemed to be crushing on a guy (total jerk). But lately it seems like more than what we have already, there'll be cute little unnecessary touches from her, like randomly hugging me or touching my face. If I put my arm around her she leans closer, and we've loosely held hands before.
I don't mean to disappoint you but that's quite normal for girls of your age to do. I've seen it many times. Stroking of hair, touching of faces, putting makeup on each other... you get the picture. Girls're like that, guys tend not to be. Doesn't mean they're in any way shape of form oriented 'your way'.
At a crowded sleepover at our friends' just two days ago, we slept in the same bed without question..
I've done that many a time before with my friends. Again, it's nothing too out of the ordinary. Only douchebags in the school playground scowl at that. If it's a warm place, with a blanket, called a bed, and it gives you a kip... most people will take it. I know I will.
I'm confused. She hardly even talks about sexuality anymore, and isn't dating anyone, but I've seen her express interest in a guy tons of times. I don't know if what's been happening to us recently is because she's lonely and needs friend-support, she's just realized she's gay, she's closing her eyes and pretending I'm a guy whenever I put my arms around her, or she wants us to go out.
I think this is just wishful thinking here. Sorry to say it but I think you're taking a peanut and seeing a giraffe. Or... something to that extent. From MY point of view, there's really nothing out of the ordinary.
This is like a dream come true having her be this close, but I want to know what's going through her insane mind and whether or not I should try anything.
Again... I think a lot of it is in your head. If you have suspicions, ask. You could also use it as an opportunity to come out to her. Make yourself vulnerable! If you came out to her, and she too was of similar orientation, she herself has nothing to lose. It's the way we work - in order to get something out of someone else you often have to give, and put yourself in a position that could be somewhat dangerous. And when I say position, don't get any ideas!
Don't want a face-slap-dyke like the last time. Rejection seriously hurts.
If that means what I think it does, then neither am I into stereotypical limp-wristed guys. I'm as much a 'guy' as any straight man and I don't see why being gay would change that... rejection hurts but people move on.
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mind and whether or not I should try anything.
