My dad is like that too. Even tough I'm str8 when I'm watching gay movies or tv shows he starts yelling at me and saying that I'm not a normal girl, cause normal girls don't watch gay tv shows or movies and do not talk to gay people. Sometimes I even get grounded because of that. And when he starts saying those things I start yelling at him too cause I think I have the right to watch whatever I want and have gay friends and talk to gay people. I hate when he starts judging my friends and saying "omg, that guy is your friend? he is so gay, you shouldn't talk to him" It's really annoying. He knows I'm str8 but I think he is afraid I become gay just cause I watch those things and I have those friends. I wish he didn't say those things and that he didn't yell at me because of that.
The administrator has disabled public write access.
Re:Gay as an Insult from your mother!!!!
Date: 2007/04/15 01:30
By: danny1989
Status:
Hey ive never had that, but im sure it was a slip, just a saying, glad everythign is ok now
The administrator has disabled public write access.
Re:Gay as an Insult from your mother!!!!
Date: 2007/04/16 03:11
By: biboy04
Status:
my mom can be a real bitch. in the first 3 or four months after my brother told my mom i was gay, we would get into fights daily. her favorite spiked comment was "y don't you go get fucked in the ass and contract aids and hepatitis C and just die off!!" it hurts. but, my mom, not having sex for the last 17 years (LOL) gives me mucho ammo. my usual response is "at least ill get laid, your just pissed off because your fat and ugly, and all guys want you for is your money!!!" usually, the next day, my mom will ask me if i really meant that, and that would start another fight that usually ends in her crying. but you know, i know she loves me, but it makes me feel good that i can hurt her just for a little bit like she hurts me. I tell her it hurts, and her response is "well isn't it true?" i tell her to "fuck off and get laid". god i hate my mom sometimes, but you know, you cant help but love your parents, no matter how much they hurt you with words. because thats all they are. Words.
The administrator has disabled public write access.
Re:Gay as an Insult from your mother!!!!
Date: 2007/04/16 04:31
By: quirky84
Status:
my mom just chokes on the word, unable to bring herself to mention it.
It's like Harry Potter and that nasty word you must never utter. God forbid.
The administrator has disabled public write access.
Re:Gay as an Insult from your mother!!!!
Date: 2007/04/19 07:50
By: The Muid
Status:
Toccata wrote: My parents can be really hurtful sometimes without even knowing it (well, they don't know I'm gay yet, but it still hurts). Like for example, my dad absolutely hates gays, and whenever there's a story on the news about gay rights or anything he stands up, curses and storms out the door and he's miserable the rest of the day, and mom doesn't really mean to be insulting, but she sometimes is, like she accepts homosexuals, but believes that they shouldn't "prance around in fruity parades all the time" and not make it publicly known. and whenever a news story about gay rights comes on (which is quite often now in Canada) she screems (in shock) and changes the channel really fast. And just today, I found out that they actually know the family of one of the guys I like from school, and they were making fun of them too, which hurt even more. I know mom would accept me if I came out, but I don't know how she would react to it, and if dad ever found out, it'd be like dropping a nuke over the house lol. I'm thinking of coming out just after my 16th birthday (in march), but I don't want to wreck the relationship I have with my parents. Any advice? (sorry for the long post)
Hey Toccata, dunno if ya told your parents yet, but my advice to you would be not to. I say it because, by the way you describe them, they wouldn't be very pleased about it at all. I'm mincing words, sorry, I'll be frank. They would probably fucking die! I've never heard of anyone being thrown out of their houses and by law that can't happen til you're 18, but it can become VERY uncomfortable. I regret coming out as I've since been hounded about where I've been, who I've been with or what I got up to (though I haven't been with a guy since last summer). And these are very liberal, accepting parents. I hate having told them and while they've never used the word "gay" or any of its derivitives to deride me, they have stopped me from things like sleeping over with friends in a hotel or somethin because I'm gay and they say "We don't want you gettin AIDS". That hurt, thinkin I'd sleep with random guys. If ya haven't done it yet, don't. Either way, good luck, and don't worry - just 2 more years til you can leave for good that suffocating, horrible atmosphere. All the best,
Diarmuid "And what would be practical, to get married? And move to the suburbs? And become a home-lovin', child-raisin', God-fearin' imitation heterosexual? And for what? So that I can become another dead soul, goin' to the mall, droppin' my kids off at school, and having barbecues in the backyard? That's *their* death. Not mine. I'm a cock-sucker! I'm queer! And to anyone who takes pity or offense, I say, "judge yourself." This is where I live. This is who I am. "
Brian (US version of "Queer as Folk")
The administrator has disabled public write access.
Re:Gay as an Insult from your mother!!!!
Date: 2007/04/23 13:02
By: x_sapphicpoems
Status:
My mother is usually the one I can count on to not use "gay" or any form of it as an insult. However, I have a fourteen year old brother and a freakishly homophobic step-father. I haven't come out to any of them yet (but that's a long story), but it's still horrible to think that they see my way of life as a bad thing or a joke. Sometimes though, you just have to move on. Not every one understands what that does to people. Too bad, huh?
The administrator has disabled public write access.
Re:Gay as an Insult from your mother!!!!
Date: 2007/05/04 09:46
By: Jenks
Status:
hehe my mum is gay obviously not gay enough to have had me but she is now and the insults she comes out with just make me laugh i havent told her i am gay yet but she kinda knows i think since she told me that a while ago and i just didnt say
The administrator has disabled public write access.
Re:Gay as an Insult from your mother!!!!
Date: 2007/05/08 09:43
By: charlilake1991
Status:
people use the word gay and expect me to be offeneded by the use of it when its simple im not then there is a rele bad silence i mean its not like its a direct insult AT me or anything. I love being gay its not my life but its me but i dont like the way the situation becomes awkward even my sister makes remarks constantly but like alwyas sayin no offence just to remind everyone im a lesbian its not something that slips the mind.. anyway sorry if its irelevant just seemed along the same lines
The administrator has disabled public write access.
Re:Gay as an Insult from your mother!!!!
Date: 2007/05/14 06:50
By: natstar
Status:
I haven't actually told my mam that i'm bisexual. When she found out that my Aunt was a transexual she banned me from going round to her house and doesn't even acknowlage her existance.When my mam iswatching tv if there is two members of the same sex kissing or even holding hands she will change the channel. She is Really homophobic. I don't know how to tell her or how she will react. My friends know i'm bi and are cool with it but my mam is a completely diifferent story. Does anyone have any advice on how i could tell her? Any advice would be grately appriciated.
The administrator has disabled public write access.
Re:Gay as an Insult from your mother!!!!
Date: 2007/05/16 19:41
By: GACKT
Status:
My family makes fun of gay people all the time... I just kinda tune it out.
The administrator has disabled public write access.
Re:Gay as an Insult from your mother!!!!
Date: 2007/05/24 01:40
By: djandy1990@hotmail.com
Status:
I must say though, when my sister gets angry with me (shes 11) , and doesn't get her own way, its all... "oh so your Gay" (she doesn't know about me) and usually I brush it off too, but sometimes it just gets to me a lil bit (not often, just sometimes)... my parents know, but I get where some of you are coming from with this.
The administrator has disabled public write access.
Re:Gay as an Insult from your mother!!!!
Date: 2007/05/27 20:15
By: Moonlight
Status:
Urrr *first post yay!* Idk.. in school everything that isn't cool is considered gay. Like... if someone is a class clown people say "stop acting gay" or "that guy's a fag". But when we say it we're not even talking about that kind of a gay lol. When we say gay it means you're wierd. But umm Idk i hate being called gay or fag even if the term doesn't have any negativity But i dunno if i'm gay or not lol It's actually really complicated T^T but ummm uhh ... what was i talking about? Oh yah! Mom! haha. My mom calls me gay for watching anime. She says asian men are gay because they look like girls and dress feminine. It's true though lol. An american wouldn't understand it :/ *lives in korea*
The administrator has disabled public write access.
I know mom would accept me if I came out, but I don't know how she would react to it, and if dad ever found out, it'd be like dropping a nuke over the house lol. I'm thinking of coming out just after my 16th birthday (in march), but I don't want to wreck the relationship I have with my parents. Any advice?
But i dunno if i'm gay or not lol It's actually really complicated T^T but ummm uhh ... what was i talking about? Oh yah! Mom! haha. My mom calls me gay for watching anime. She says asian men are gay because they look like girls and dress feminine. It's true though lol. An american wouldn't understand it :/ *lives in korea*