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Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2007/10/22 11:33
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By: Prettyful.Rainbow
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I know that everybody has both masculine and feminine traits, but when i say this I'm thinking more about the stereotypical guy/girl roles in a relationship.
I myself am quite feminine and girly as a person, though in a relationship I would take the more typical "male" role, as in opening the door for her, paying for the dates, surprising her, being romantic and always being there for her and protecting her. I would then want to be with a more feminine and girly girl (which sadly leads to more crushes on straight girls  ). I also kinda see it as, why would I be gay and love girls the way I do, just to be with a girl that acts like a guy anyway? (By the way, that could be understood wrong and some people may get offended, and i didn't mean for that. It's just a personal preference and opinion)
So, the question: are you more masculine or more feminine in a relationship? Which of the two are you more attracted to? The same or different?
I also really want to see how many people (if any, and i do know of some) that are more attracted to someone similar, ex. masculine+masculine, feminine+feminine & very balanced+very balanced (neither have a more dominant masculinity or femininity in a relationship [split the bills, open their own doors, equally protective of each other etc])
- Larese
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2007/10/25 09:58
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By: Iam_a_unique
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im full out les ....ok so if u look at my pic u can totally tell that i as they say were the pants in the relationship .... i love to be romantic and surprise them, protect them, and just be there when they need someone and i totally like the fim girls which there are plenty of bi or les but i always fall for the straight ones and i dont know why (in fact the love of my life is straight and shes wonderful she just wont leave her bf for me) what is is with us and the straight girls is it just cause we cant have them??
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2007/10/25 14:59
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By: titojtd
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Well, I'm straight acting by nature, and I'm generally attracted to other straight acting guys. In a relationship though, I would be more comfortable in the more feminine/passive position, but I could also take the other role. I would also be very comfortable with a guy who's in the middle between butch and femme, like I am (aka "splitting" everything).
"Try not. Do or do not, there is no try."
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2007/10/26 13:08
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By: expo86
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I too am pretty straight acting, and I too am attracted to straight acting guys. However, I almost always imagine myself the so-called "man" in the relationship, but really it depends on who im dating. I might be comfortable with the feminine position if the guy was really manly, or if we're about the same I could so totally see myself constantly switching roles. For me, it's more about the guy I'm dating then a preference that I hold about myself
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2007/10/26 20:13
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By: Kingy_boi
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I am straight-acting, I act what guys like, I am both masculine and femimine. I am a tall guy, with big hands, feet, muscules and can kinda be very aggresive, but I could never see myself being the one with the "pants" or what ever the hell you call it, I feel very comfortable being passive. Also I have only had crushes on straight guys, I have this idk, turnoff on gay guys 8P kinda weird
If you get three glasses of water and put different food coloring in them they come out with many different colors; but its still the same old water isn't it? Make the connection? -DJ Prince Paul
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2007/10/26 21:48
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By: waverider
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Im generally straight acting - to the point that some ppl are genuinely surprised when they find out im gay. I don't go out of my way to advertise that im gay, but then i don't hide it either. In a relationship i take the leading role, make the decisions n stuff, but in the bedroom im like totally the opposite. (All together now.. "Ahh bless his cotton socks") lol
Im not attracted to the seriously butch straight acting guys at all. (They scare me lol). Or the camp-as-tits-stab-u-with-my-lipstick-then-fix-my-makeup-and-omg-i-messed-up-my-hair queens neither. So i guess it's just the sorta normal acting gay guys that catch my eye that i go for, or "balanced" to quote Prettyful.Rainbow
Post edited by: waverider, at: 2007/10/26 21:53
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2007/10/28 18:25
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By: Contraband42
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I think it's kinda funny that some guys say that they are straight acting and they surprise people when they find out they're gay. when I hardly act straight at all and people are surprised to find out that I like girls as well. oh well, we're all special. anyway, I like guys who are slightly less feminine than me. Those big muscled guys with they're sports and beer drinkin' and such. They aren't exactly my type. I like guys who like to hold me, and don't mind being held.
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2008/03/01 20:14
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By: Envy_274
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my honest feelings on it are, i can be any role. but im most comfortable with the one im with being the man in the relationship. i mean, its just nice to have someone to rely on and stuff. im not extreamly femmy but i have my moments where i just want to be "cute" if thats how i mean to say it. like... *smugges face* i dunno... *sigh* i just... like to act cute insted of manly all the times.
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2008/03/03 00:30
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By: MooYak
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I wouldn't know how to be passive if I trained for a year.
Definitely more masculine. Not really the brutish imbecile kind of masculine, but rather I am measured and restrained in my actions and emotions. I'm too independent and solitary to be passive or dependent upon another person, it simply isn't in my nature. Everyone that knows I'm gay was rather shocked at hearing so, which surprised me. They all thought I was asexual, haha. I am somewhat cold and withdrawn in person when not around close friends (or drunk  ) so it's not unlikely I'll just spend my life single, which is a prospect I'm learning to accept and develop into an advantage.
Post edited by: MooYak, at: 2008/03/03 03:17
"Where we have strong emotions, we're liable to fool ourselves." - Carl Sagan
Link to American Psychological Association's page regarding homosexual relations.
http://www.apa.org/releases/gaymarriage_reso.pdf
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2008/03/03 03:02
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By: Kanae
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Well, I've only had the one relationship and I tryed hard not to fall into the less masculine role. My boyfriend at the time had told me he'd broken up with a guy who admitted he was "the woman" in the relationship. So, I adapted a bit of a playfully "I'm a man!" persona, wereby I fought him for "dominance", though really just because of his personality type he was really in control. In my lastest romantic forrays, however, I think that I have tended towards dominancy. I act a little Obi Wan-ish: altogether far to understanding and always with wisdom to impart. I think I'd call myself balanced. If anyone asks which I am in the relationship, I always reply "I'm the other man": I think that's accurate. I think I respond more to what my partner is like than anything else.
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2008/03/03 03:03
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By: Poison_Mushroom
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I prefer the masculine guys but not if they are too masculine. I like people to be in touch with there feeling because if they bottle them up, I'm screwed. I never talk about my feelings without being forced to....
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2008/03/04 03:03
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By: GaryP2008
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I prefer masculine guys, mainly because I have only ever been with masculine/straight acting guys. I socialise mainly with straight guys, and straight girls so I've never really experienced meeting a really camp person.
Myself, I am usually straight acting but can be camp after one too many drinks.
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2008/03/04 14:53
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By: Manz
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Hey girl,
Don't worry hun, I totally get ya. I mean, I'm in the same sorta position as you are. I'm kinda feminine, but in a relationship I would defiantly be the one wearing the pants... I'd do all those exact things you wrote. I also understand what you said about always falling for the straight ones. Dammit! lol. I do the same thing every time.
And to answer you last questions, I;m actually attracted to the same sorta type as myself. If we want to get specific, 'Chapstick Lesbians'. I dunno why, but I am... 
Hope that helps.
-xox-
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2008/03/08 16:00
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By: RobStewart
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Like many of the above posts, for me it all depends on the guy I'm dating. It's also about his physicality aswell. If I'm the taller, bigger guy, I'd instantly (and happily) assume a dominant "man's" role, however if I'm the smaller in stature then I'd quite as easily be passive - this wouldn't stop me being the romantic, door-holding, date-buying type though!
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2008/03/23 21:00
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By: xmike991
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feminine guys send chills down my spine...
saying that, i 100% prefer guys who act like guys.
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2008/03/30 06:17
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By: CaidenSTFU
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I don't mind slightly effeminate guys, but the girly girl ones who moves like they've got something irremovable stuffed in their anus and make complete tits of themselves in public piss me off. 
I behave like a normal guy should, though on certain occassions, I act like an emancipated fairy. 
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2008/04/05 21:44
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By: swimmer93
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like most said it depends on the guy i dont really care i cann be both ^^ but i do seem to take to being the guy more.
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2008/04/08 11:57
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By: murka
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i'm not femme at all, but i do have my moments where i prefer to be passive and cute also...
i dont think id ever be the manly man in a relationship, as i like to look up to someone and kind of be protected (although i can fend for myself for the most part and am also pretty protective)
basically if i had to pick im right in the middle but still pretty sensetive
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2008/04/10 16:54
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By: RFaunus
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I'm in a state of increasing feminity. My voice is getting extremely soft and a little bit higher pitched, just kind of 'female,' if I may use the word -- I'm becoming an uber pacifist, insisting on not using violence... I've always been very sensitive, though I've been crying my eyes out over certain things recently, and even the music I'm writing is becoming very quiet and gentle.
Kinda becoming an ultra-fag, I guess.
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Re:Masculine or Feminine?
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Date: 2008/04/12 06:49
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By: meisinscotland
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waverider wrote:
Im generally straight acting - to the point that some ppl are genuinely surprised when they find out im gay.
Me too.
Departed...
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