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Date: 2007/07/02 13:09
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By: Servega
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Naturally, I think parents who either disown, reject, or attempt to "correct" their homosexual children are ridiculous. It's highly doubtful that the driving force for such a reaction is religious; nowadays it's more of the shame or embarrassment that parent doesn't want to go through. What kind of parent is that?
If a parent is not prepared to accept who their child is, they weren't prepared to even be a parent at all.
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/07/09 15:27
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By: i03i98
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My parents haven't tried to "correct" my sexuality, but my dad told me that he thinks gays shouldn't exist, which is basically the mutual feeling in my family, luckily for me i lied and told my parents i was bi instead of me telling them i was gay, because i thought they'd be more excepting, but neither of my parents truly believe me, which is a big load of shit. My dad thinks i said it just for attention, and now he's trying to scare or something by saying that i basically should not exist at all. My mom simply doesn't believe me, she's to worried i'm gonna start cutting again to think about my sexuality, but i only started because my parents anyway.
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/07/19 20:11
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By: HeyBoy
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Reading these replies, I realize i'm pretty lucky. My mom recently approached me about it and I ended up coming clean to her (finally!); I had always been scared to tell her because of my perception of her negative opinion of gay people, that turned out to be purely ignorance, not having known a gay man in real life. I was so happy that she was accepting of it; she said that while she doesn't completely understand it and can't relate to it, she understands that I am gay, and that I am her son regardless, and she loves me gay or straight. My dad on the other hand, denied it, saying that is was just a phase and that I am confused about it; he likened my homosexuality to a changing personality. I took offense to it! Being gay is the one constant in my life, it's the one thing that I'm sure about, and for him to say that it's just a phase...I was really upset to say the least. We still haven't really cleared it up and discussed that fact that yes, I am gay, and I'm not going to be changing.
My advice to anyone thinking of telling their parents, is simply, to prepare yourself for the worst. I would suggest not telling your mom or dad first; I told most of my CLOSE friends before my parents, so I would be able to build up my confidence and assuredness in myself, and have a stable friend network to fall back on if things at home did happen to go badly.
It's a difficult thing, coming clean to the people who thought they'd known you for years, but when it's over, there's a sense of relief and self realization that is immeasurable. Regardless of whether or not your parents understand, accept, or even acknowledge (in my case) your homosexuality at first, or ever, to be true to yourself and stop living a falsity is on of the best gifts you can give yourself. Good luck, be safe about telling too! If you have a bad feeling about telling a parent or anyone in particular, bring a support member or just wait!
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/07/20 11:09
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By: jstalker
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Its kinda funny, and in a way i spose i feel lucky, but only living with my mum and having no contact with my dad makes it a little bit easier to handle, admittedly i still dont want to come out, and a couple of people have claimed that perhaps i dont need too being Bi.
Despite this what poses a problem is that soo few of my freinds know i am, and im more scared to tell them than i am my mum,
is anyone else like that?
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/07/21 23:09
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By: gianfrimd90
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my parents first noticed i was guy once when they found a gay story on my desk one day, and they send me to the psychologyst and stuff, and then one day when my father caught me cheking out some gay porn, he called my mom (totally embarassing) and he talked to me and he started to cry and said that he loved me but that why and that stuff, he is sort of all fashioned, and well i cried too but, it didnt work. LOL, im still here but i guess i cant tell him, i guess my mom could know but not my dad.
However, I told them it was just a phase I was goint through and now it was all right, but no... xD
A couple of friends now, some Bi friends and more and they are totally cool with it. And it is awesome to have their support, when we go out, we actually start checking the guys and its really fun
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/07/22 20:49
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By: philfry
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If sexual preference were a switch that could be toggled at will, I'd SO send one of my best (but unfortunately straight) friends in for the procedure. 
But sexuality isn't a switch, and these horrible facilities seem designed only to confuse and humiliate vulnerable people. The hypocrites and homophobes who run them would probably say that the gay community tries to "convert" straight people, when it's THEM who are doing the converting--by force.
The thought of these places makes my stomach churn.
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/08/31 01:58
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By: cokemachine
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I too hav been lucky, but thts only cos im never gunna cum out to my parents. I mean i ve told all my friends and any1 i meet as well cos i reli dnt mind displaying who i am. I display myself at home aswell... but i guess im playing the guessing game with my parents. Id hate to hav to sit them out and go tru the whole ordeal of every1 crying and saying i lov u and my throat closing up and having to choke the ''confession'' out. But if my paretns ever ask me ill just com clean and tell them. I no im being dumb cos my mums boss is gay for pete's sake but i hold firm to the belief tht its my decision and tht if my sister doesnt hav to com out about being st8 then i dont hav to about being gay.
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/09/12 15:09
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By: Bluefire15
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My dad keeps trying to squash the gay out of me by cuttinng off my resources to other gays. He scared my boyfriend into breaking up with me, he blocked the computer so I can't go to any support websites, he won't let me hang out with friends later than 9 pm, and he only lets me see my friends once a week. I got so mad at him when he took my friends from me I screamed at him and called him a pathetic ass hole who turned out like his loser father and that I hope he burns in hell for what he is doing to me. I ment it too. I despise my dad and I havn't spoken to him in a month. It seems harsh for me to say those things, but after he blocked my way with the gay community I was angry, but when he took my friends from me i loathed him more than anything.
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/09/13 05:33
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By: Iam_a_unique
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they may not have sent me to a facility but i have "counciling sessions" with the minister quit often he bring me anti gay books to read and stuff like that constantly telling me i'll go to hell its all very depressing ..... his favorite phase is " lesbian tedencies " ... he always ask are u still having lesbian tendencies ??? i always say yes but what im really thinking is i dont have lesbian tendencies i may have a few straight tendencies but im pretty much a full blown lesbian ..... anyways theres my story
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/09/27 04:56
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By: MichaelLefranc
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It hurts me that people find the need to treat others badly just because of their sexuality, to me it is as stupid as people fighting over religion...
Being gay is just a difference in preference, there is nothing "wrong" about it, and people should treat other Gay people with the same respect they would a straight person....
If anybody is going through any nasty stuff then feel free to send me a mail, i will try to help you in any way i can...
Feel Free To PM Me or random add me.
Or visit my Game: www.pimp-area.com
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/10/15 10:11
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By: Faysie
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well i realise how lucky i am really, my parents have accepted it, i think they would prefer if i wasnt but they sed tht they still love me n just want me 2 happy x
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/10/16 12:21
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By: fsudude2010
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Well for one thing, that stuff should be illegal because it is torture! I mean being a young person being gay is hard enough, then to have a bunch of people you dont know tell you it is wrong, and trying to "fix" you....that is tramatic. My parents do not know so i never had to go through that. If any of you did go through that im sorry*HUGS*.
Chris
--Chris
"A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is braver five minutes longer. --Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/10/20 10:58
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By: Faysie
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well i have a gf but my mum wont let me go n stay at hers anymore coz we r 2gether n is worried bout us sleepin 2gether! even if we do its not like i can get pregnant n i am nearly 17 4 god sake!!!
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/10/28 17:18
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By: coley2k7
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I think its wrong
If my mum ever did that id leave home and run back everyday for food and money lol
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/10/30 18:28
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By: Rehan
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Im actually scared of coming out to my parents because of the reaction they might have, im preety sure they won't be happy or ready to except it, so i'd rather keep it away from them and live my own life when im older. I know that if i come out, my parents would never treat me the same, its a scary thought to me because i wanna continue on with my education with no interference's from depression and thoughts that i would have to go through everyday. I already have enough on my shoulder and the thoughts of being gay, even though i have no control over it, i'd rather keep it solo..
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/11/15 20:04
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By: Lando
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Wow, I never thought parents could be so harsh on their own children!!
I am SO lucky for my parents, my dad when I told him told me to ignore any bad comments and that they don't understand, and my mum, well!! She started talking about how she wanted me to get a boyfriend and be happy, and they both said how happy I had made them by telling them, even though they had NO idea!
I love my 'rents 
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/11/29 05:46
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By: C_shan
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I first want to let you know that none of this is your fault, and your parents should be ashamed of themselves. I am fortunate to have everyone in my life accept me. I know that I am fortunate. I think that any facilities that try to "cure" homosexuality should be shutdown and the poeple who work there should be put in prison. I know that sounds really far left, but what goes on in those places is truly heinous.
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/12/01 18:33
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By: cheeto23
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Just remember that you are who you are.
NO one can change that.
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2008/01/06 20:09
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By: ElaineAlaine
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Well, I live with my grandparents, and I've yet to tell either of them. Honestly, I don't want to. Their EXTREMELY religious, and view it as an abomination. I love my grandparents to death, so I'm not going to tell them. I don't want our relationship to come under that sort of attack.
I might tell my real dad, since we don't hate that close of a relationship (more of a brother-sister thing) and he would probably be a bit better about it.
I have a tendacy to borrow my brother's clothes.
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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2008/01/11 09:31
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By: Odisey
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I know I will never tell my mom that I'm gay.In my country,i don't think so...
And that would probably kill her.She would think it's all her foult and all...
So I will yust go to college somwhere far far away and never come back...
...yea wright...
iFriend
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