Ok... well this might get a little long so I'm sorry about that in advance.
Anyway, Couple of things you should know is that I'm pretty sure I'm Gay, but if not at least Bi, my entire family is homophobic, I live in a small town which is like 90% homophobic, and I have only come out to 1 person, and they don't even live in my state. I hadn't been sure if I was Gay/Bi for awhile, but finally accepted it like a year ago.
Ok so, this year in June (20th) my grandparents took the entire family on a cruise for their anniversary. Well I live in Mass, and it left in New York, so we took a bus down to NY. There were two guys on the bus, (turns out one was my age, and the other is gonna be 15 next month) and just the way they were acting I kinda thought they were gay. So I thought that "Hey, here's two gays, going on the same cruise I am, best case scenario I finally come out to someone, who'll understand me, worst case scenario some new friends". Well I was too shy to talk to them, but finally (it was an 8-day cruise) on the 26th I talked and befriended them along with some other kids they were hanging around with. Now I found out that one of them was straight, he had a gf back home, the other never said anything on that topic. (Let's call the straight one Jack, and the other one, Cliff, just for confidentiality...) So one of the other kids I met (we'll call her Sue) lived in PA, and about 2 weeks after the cruise I came out to her (kept in touch with Jack and Sue on AOL, Cliff didn't have a SN). Now on the return to trip to Mass, we (Jack and Cliff's group, and mine) were on the same bus again, so I sat next to Jack and Cliff (who had known each other for a while, their dad's are best friends) but they were tired or whatever so slept most of the time and I just listened to my MP3 (and was constantly being annoyed by my younger cousin... ). At one point Cliff must have woken up, and was talking to his parents, and then I think he started crying, and his father said something like "Don't Worry about it, it's nothing to cry over." And then after that the father kept on making comments about how the ship that we were on was having a Gay Cruise in 2 weeks.
Now this did not make any sense to me, as Cliff's father seemed to be the "tough" guy, and he didn't say it in a slandering way or anything... Then (I think I'm just being way too hopeful here) I started thinking, hey maybe I just experienced a "coming out"... Now Cliff didn't have a gf (I found out on the bus) and I offered to hook him up with one of my friends, since it could work he only lived like 20 min. away. He however declined and was kinda quiet after that...
Now a month after the cruise... I think I'm obsessing = I mean I think I may have a crush on him... now this is totally new for me, I mean I realized I was Gay/Bi awhile ago, but never actually had a crush on somebody... I'm still trying to find out what "Cliff"s story is...
So what are your thoughts...? and thanks for reading all that and sorry for it being so long...
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Re:Is He Gay/Bi? (Warning: Long Story =)
Date: 2007/07/30 19:03
By: loh90
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yeah that was kinda complicated following all of that (and a lot of it was unecessary lol). but anyways, i think you should try and talk to "cliff". you still have his contact information? i don't know if you're out to him yet or not, but if you feel comfortable (and if you think he may be gay), coming out to him may not be a bad move. but only do it if you are ready to come out to him and if you don't think its risky (being that 90% of ur town is homophobic). that's my advice, just try to talk to him about it and see where it goes from there. maybe he is gay and he'll come out to you too and you will both have mutual support.
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Re:Is He Gay/Bi? (Warning: Long Story =)
Date: 2007/07/30 20:57
By: Deos
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loh90 wrote: yeah that was kinda complicated following all of that (and a lot of it was unecessary lol). but anyways, i think you should try and talk to "cliff". you still have his contact information? i don't know if you're out to him yet or not, but if you feel comfortable (and if you think he may be gay), coming out to him may not be a bad move. but only do it if you are ready to come out to him and if you don't think its risky (being that 90% of ur town is homophobic). that's my advice, just try to talk to him about it and see where it goes from there. maybe he is gay and he'll come out to you too and you will both have mutual support.
I understood that completely, and just wanted to throw my support in with loh. Do what he said. And all my luck to ya! I don't suffer from insanity... I enjoy every minute of it!
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Re:Is He Gay/Bi? (Warning: Long Story =)
Date: 2007/07/30 22:11
By: Artiste
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One thing I can say is... DUDE. You live in MASSACHUSETTS. Homophobia schomophobia. But what do I know.
ANYway. About "Cliff", he might be queer and uncomfortable to come out, he might not. I know when I was that age I dodged around conversations about sexuality. Music that people with taste are listening to this week:
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Re:Is He Gay/Bi? (Warning: Long Story =)
Date: 2007/07/31 20:15
By: FreddyHeckler
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I agree with what loh90 and Artiste said, and all I'll add is that you should get to know him well (if you don't) and judge from that. It might be good to try to become somewhat a role model to him - if that's possible. By the way, don't sabotage the relationship by not keeping up with him! All we see or seem, is but a dream within a dream.
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Re:Is He Gay/Bi? (Warning: Long Story =)
Date: 2008/05/01 00:23
By: sxcboy22
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hey
first of all aww i luv reading these stories lol
um go for it get 2 know him more nd then go from there dude
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And all my luck to ya! 
