ok well this started in like the 7th grade. i told a bunch of these girls in my group of friends because i couldn't hold it in much longer. very little accepted.. and most of them treated me like crap. i really regretted trusting them. they're tease me and like make things really obvious. i was really at a depressing phase then. and then like their advice.. which was practically not even advice at all.. ruined my life. one of them told me to tell this guy how i felt. it was like a joke to her.. well it seemed like it. and i was naive. i felt huge feelings for this guy who would just give me these false signs of flirting and it really messed with my head. i reeally really started to like him. he practically asked me out on a date... even if there's like other people there. but when i was there.. it was just me and him and like it looked like he was kinda trying to impress me. he kinda just stared at me too. i was just really happy. but then like.. one day on the phone i told him how i felt.. and like he "pretended" to be cool with it and keep it a secret. but then like this was over the summer.. and by the time we went back to school everyone just stared at me and started whispering to each other and gossiping. i instantly felt really uncomfortable and had like a nervous breakdown. everyone started to treat me like crap after that. it was really my fault.. a lot of us were not even mature enough to understand what i was going through. it was really stupid of me.. esppecially since we were all like about 12 years old. today im still in the closet. a lot of what happened then was kinda "forgotten". or at least i think. no one really mentions it.. except for one jackass whom i absolutely despise. but yeaaa.. im a senior in hs and still in the closet. only my two best friends know my secret. im really confused and scared when to actually come out again. especially to my family. i wish it was easier.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2007/07/13 01:27
By: CutePeruano
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The first person I came out to was mii therapist, (kinda odd ) though he waz da onli one who I felt most comfortable tellin, because everyone else don't even knoe me lyk dat, no one realli has. Definetly ain't sumthin II wouldn't do until people start understandin me better.
Anywayz I told him a few dayz after my 14th b-day (still 14 now) cuz I promised to come out so. I waz tellin him how I'm so fed-up wit dizcrimination these dayz n wen mii friendz r dere I will b dere 4 dem. Then he asked me, "why do u care, so much wat other ppl think". I responded saying, "Because I feel in their place, I knoe how it feels to be different, to be an outsider, to be left out." When I said that it were more dramatic and then it were kinda quiet. Then I said, "By the way havn't been tellin u everythin. The truth is I'm...,"(I felt like I waz goin statter n I waz feelin realli shakie,"...Bi"
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2007/07/14 00:02
By: Quanie
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I read both stories, why would he slash you mind if you were bi, not gay. Isnt that a little easier on you? And to Reiko, i dont know your age now but im sure if you come out, people would be more understanding. 12, is a young age. Its transition from primary to highschool ^^
Lol when i cam out to my besties, erm one of them goes 'What the hell? Nup, you're not gay' I just stared. Another said 'Are you sure', Another one of my guys friend goes, 'I bet i can revserse you for $20'
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2007/07/18 00:00
By: tanman_sg
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First person I came out to was a girl that really liked me, about 6 weeks ago (I'm 17). A few people wondered why she cried for an hour at school. She didn't tell anyone, but was still so bloody needy afterward... I pushed her away and now it's a relatively cold relationship between us.
Two weeks later I told my two closest friends (guys), and they were really cool with it - I'd thought that one of them would stop talking to me as much and perhaps go quiet around me, but it was great. I've never been able to say in my life that I had really close friends, and it's such a relief that I can now. I don't even know why I was worried.
I managed to slip into a conversation with Mum that I was gay, over breakfast, not long later. She laughed and have me a huge grin, and we chatted for another hour. She's got gay/bi friends anyway, and I thought she might have said that she suspected me, but I guess not. We agreed not to tell Dad - there's no telling what he'll do, I just have no idea whatsoever how he might react. It wouldn't be that bad, but I want it to be good...
Overall, I'd say I had it pretty easy, but I did devote a lot of time thinking, and only came out after some very careful consideration of the company I was in.
Now, I just need a damn boyfriend!!
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2007/07/28 20:30
By: AidenA
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I made the worst choice in coming out, at least to my mom. should have known that if she is racist, sexist, and egotistical, she was probably homophobic. I chose instead to think that she would love me as her son no matter what besides the fact she already insulted me everyday. I wrote her a letter, ever since then I have been called a fag whenever her days was going bad, told I was going to die with AIDS cus I was gonna get "butt-fucked" as my dad sits there and doesn't act, you know why? He is bi and doesn't want people to know, I know because I guessed the password to his email...he still doesn't know I know. Lesson of this story: Know your parents before you come out. If they are like mine...don't, if they are great with gays and love you truthfully, go right ahead.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2007/07/28 20:30
By: AidenA
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2007/07/28 20:31
By: AidenA
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2007/07/29 02:29
By: aldiss
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well, my story starts with me coming out to my best friend, craig. he accepted it and said that he wouldn't tell anyone else. and so with his acceptance as my confidence i told my other close friends and found that they shared the same views as craig. i was thrilled. About a week later i was sitting in class when my mate matt told me that craig had told everyone in my year that i was gay. it didn't bother me that everyone knew, what bothered me was that he'd gone behind my back and started other little rumours about me involving another gay guy in my year. to this day i still hold a grudge against him and have been more careful about who i confide my secrets in. my mum found out when she walked in on me with an old bf with my tongue down his throat. Good luck & Keep smiling x
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2007/07/29 21:58
By: rokstar
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Sorry for such the long story. During the beginning my sophomore year, I began questioning my sexuality and I came to the realization that I am a lesbian, but I did not want to be gay and so i tried or forced myself to be straight. I spent countless months trying to convince my friends and myself that I was straight; that lasted until the fall of my junior year. At that point in time, I could not ignore my sexuality anymore; I cracked and I admitted to myself that I was a lesbian. To this day, I am suprised that it took me so long to figure out that I was gay because looking back it seems so clear and obvious. But that did not make accepting it any easier I spent many nights crying myself to sleep because I was gay and I was even more different than everyone else. I wanted everything to be easy in my life because I have struggled with many things and have been through more things than I could have dreamed. I live in the south where there are many close minded, conservative, George Bush loving, bigots and I knew coming out would be hard. After weeks of letting my secret eat me up inside, I finally told one of my good friends that I was gay. I knew that he would accept me and not judge me because he was gay as well; he also guessed that I was gay from my first day at school. As the weeks past, I began to open up and come out to more people with the help of my friend who could not keep his mouth shut and managed to tell quite a few people. Most people were accepting, but there were a few that were not and were uncomfortable around. They feared that I, being a lesbian, liked them and would hit on them. I did not care what they thought; I am me and they can accept me or reject me, but at the end of the day I am who I am and there is nothing they can do to change that. More weeks past, but I grew uneasy because I still had to tell my parents the big news and I was unsure of how my mother would welcome such information. On Monday, March 5, my mother forced me to go to church (I live in the bible belt) and so I went. While I was at church, one of the youth leader adults came over to me because I must have looked upset and asked me what was wrong. I cracked; I have no idea why I told that person I was gay, but I did. They basically told me the same old thing homosexuality is wrong and you can change with the help of god and they told me more bullshit. After that lovely lecture on how I am going straight to hell, I left and went home feeling like I was going to throw up. My parents are not idiots so they could tell that something was wrong; so I decided what the hell I will tell them. So we all sat down around the kitchen table and I sat there for a hour in silence because I could not get the words out of my mouth. It was like I was suddenly mute. But after the hour of silence, I finally said, "I am not straight; I am gay." My parents just stared at me both completely shocked. Though my dad was the first one to come to words. He told me that it did not matter to him and that he loved me. They both said that they loved me and were glad that I was able to tell them, but my mother had a really dificult time accepting it. For a week, she did not eat or sleep much because the fact that her oldest daughter is a lesbian crushed her dreams for me. She wanted to see me get married (which I still plan to do, but to a woman lol) and have kids. Months have past since that night and still the subject is not mentioned very much and my mother and I fight about it occasionaly. She wants me to stay closeted and not tell anyone because she is in denial. Lets just say that I did what felt right and now mostly all of my friends know. My mother has still yet to tell a soul that I am gay and she does not want me to tell my aunts, uncles, or cousins. She just wants to ignore it and she thinks that if I don't tell anyone that it will be easier for her to pretend I am normal. I am who I am and she can not change that and I think in time she will accept my sexuality. Once again sorry for such the long post.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2007/07/30 04:39
By: LordLust
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Well...some pretty interesting stories...
and here is mine... it was about a year ago...around this time, I think... my dad and I were watching a movie...can't really recall the name of it...
and at the end it said that we should all accept who we are and let others know where we stand, no matter what...then I asked my dad
"Dad, are you okay with gay people?" and he said yes, and then I asked him " would you be okay if I were gay?"
and he said it depends, so I told him straight away, that I had been discovering my sexuality, and I was certain I felt attracted towards my same sex... and that I wanted him to know... you should have seen his face, between confusion and tears... but he accepted it, though he is very strict about me telling my family, besides him, he's the only one who knows...
but I am certain I will tell the rest in due time... all my bloody family is so short sighted...^^
Guess it is relieving...all my friends know...and I am really open about letting ppl know who I am....
Markus
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
Date: 2007/07/31 20:17
By: Meggg
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Ordinarilly I wouldn't think that comming out to my friends would be that bad...we're all very close and supportive of eachother, and most of them are gold stars themselves, but where I live a lot of people tell all their friends they're gay or bi just because they think it's cool, and I'm terrified that if I come out to my friends they'll think I'm doing the same thing and they'll get mad and (even worse) ignore me. So I'm nowhere near being out. Only three of my very close friends know that I'm gay. Last month I was in the car with this girl who I've been completely crazy about for the past 7 months, and who's also one of my best friends (she's gay too). I had been working up the nerve to at least come out to her for the past few weeks, and I finally did it. It was the first time I'd ever said the words "I'm gay" to another person, and I immedietly felt more free than I had in a really long time. We had a really long conversation, and she told me about her experiences (she's been completely out for a little over a year) and she told me that she was proud of me for "graduating" and being ready to tell at least a few people so quick. I feel so blessed to have her, because I'm sure that having such a good experience so early on is going to make me a lot more confident when I tell others, because even if it doesn't go so well later, I know that I have people that love me who I can rely on to help me. I don´t know how I feel, but I hope you feel the same...
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) though he waz da onli one who I felt most comfortable tellin, because everyone else don't even knoe me lyk dat, no one realli has. Definetly ain't sumthin II wouldn't do until people start understandin me better. 
