Watched the TV programmes, seen Will and Grace, Seen Todd and whats-his-name on coronation street. I'm still worried!
Is coming out as hard and as painful as people on the internet make out? I mean, do people stop talking to you, do they insult you, do you fall out with family members?
I think my dad know's im gay because he found my History cache for GYC, and he txt me later that night and basically said he didn't care, and that i was still the same person i was before. My mum, on the other hand, has loads of gay friends, but keeps giving me the "When you get married i hope your wife's as pretty as me", and i just wanna say somthing back like.. "Who, Oh, you mean, my PARTNER?"
Help meee! Regards, Jo xx
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Re:Is it really as bad as people make out?
Date: 2006/05/13 20:09
By: eversweet
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Coming out for me wasn't a big deal. I figure that I pretty much always was out, though I did tell people just to make sure that they were aware.
The only slight bit of fear of rejection or anything I had was that moment right before I told them. But you get that with everything - like you can be fine in an exam but that moment when you hand it in you're suddenly like... Oh God..
I'm sure your mother will be fine. If she thinks you're straight she's probably careful not to say 'partner' instead of 'wife', because a lot of straight boys, despite having nothing against gays will be rather offended if you imply that they mightn't be straight. I guess it's how we get a bit upset over people assuming that we're straight. ~Megan~
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Re:Is it really as bad as people make out?
Date: 2006/05/14 11:28
By: Both_Ways_013
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Whenever I came out to someone (i do this alot since we keep moving) they'd always be the same person. Not change not use Gay insults. Not that I minded. But where I am now I told someone and he told his entire family and he's an arrogant stupid ass now. I also have severe depression, (I'm manic woo hoo) So a show off and myself don't mix, considoring that I bottle up my feelings and open them allover the back of someones head. One bright day in the middle of the night two dead boys got up to fight. They stood back to back as they faced eachother they pulled out their swords and shot one another. The deaf policeman heard the noise so he came and killed the two dead boys. If you do not believe this lie is true you can ask the blind man he saw it too.
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Re:Is it really as bad as people make out?
Date: 2006/05/14 18:40
By: WingedAngel
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Well..it isint hard to come out to close friends even there there is always a slight chance that they may be a homophobic >.< If your uncomfortable coming out just take your time ^^
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Re:Is it really as bad as people make out?
Date: 2006/05/20 20:20
By: Guitargirl1350
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No. The first coming out is hard. After that, it's pretty easy. I'm not out to everyone, but the people I have come out to have taken it pretty well. The first time I came out to a friend I was so nervous I was shaking and almost fell over on the floor. But after that I came out to my cousin and it was fairly easy. Not as nervous. I can only imagine it gets better from there. Best of luck to you. But ifthere's a friend you KNOW is homophobic, you might want to put it off a while.
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Re:Is it really as bad as people make out?
Date: 2006/05/21 00:57
By: Springz
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None of my friends are homophobic, thank god, and most of the people in school aren't, (at least, i don't think so).
I've more or less come out to my one friend, Jason, but he's gay too so i guess it doesn't really count. He more or less told me in a discreet text message once. haha Regards, Jo xx
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Re:Is it really as bad as people make out?
Date: 2006/05/25 11:38
By: bababoo
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It's great, everybody loves you more because they know you can trust them.
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Re:Is it really as bad as people make out?
Date: 2006/05/27 04:21
By: theoneandonly
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Well, the first person you come out to is usually the hardest one. When I finally decided to come out to my best friend, I told her I wanted to talk to her and we went to her room. My heart was racing, I could feel myself getting warmer and warmer and I almost felt short of breath. When I finally got the words out however, it was like a huge load being lifted off my chest. Well, I guess it WAS a big load off my chest. Suddenly, I had one person in my life I didn't have to hide my homosexuality from! To sum it up, yes, it is hard, but it gets eaiser with time.
Derrick Derrick!
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Re:Is it really as bad as people make out?
Date: 2006/06/20 20:50
By: Jaggy
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It depends on where you live, who's in your social circle, how people near you feel about gays. KING JAMES THE GREAT
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Re:Is it really as bad as people make out?
Date: 2006/07/04 20:39
By: Springz
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Sorry, don't mean to bump this thread but i never said thanks.
I havn;t come out to my mum yet, but i'm planning. Hummm.. Lol My dad knows for deffinate, because he keeps making snyde comments when mums not there.
I'm gonna tell my best friends first, theyre both guys and i KNOW they'll understand. I'm going to tell them at the end of next year of school when all the un educated low lives have left and the understanding open minded people are left.
So, thanks guys!! Regards, Jo xx
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Best of luck to you. But ifthere's a friend you KNOW is homophobic, you might want to put it off a while.
