that hurts me to read: i once read a book on homophobia and it talked about the nasty, awful things that people who were openly gay had endure. They were to be 'corrected' by getting sent to certain camps or having to go to certain religious meetings etc and i felt sickened by it. my family know nothing of my bicuriosity and they never will. my mum would be funny about it but cool, the rest of the pack would disown me or accuse my mum of 'turning' me like this by not putting me in a church school or sending me to church. it makes me wanna be
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2007/03/24 01:01
By: Jalpeonic
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Reform camps and religious repetition, all but methods to brainwash a person into believing that they are wrong, and their lifestyles hold no form of validity. I think it's wrong. People should always follow their hearts and what they truly believe in.
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2007/03/27 15:54
By: marcus_arilius
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What alot of people fail to grasp is that homosexuality is not something that can be "cured" my parents had me prayed over trying to have the "spirit" cast out but that obviously didnt work. but i think its ridiculous how some people think that by torturing they can turn someone straight i've heard stories of reformitories in mexico and im so glad that while my parents are conservative pentecostal nuts, they're not that crazy. iMark Xcore
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2007/04/06 10:33
By: danie_girl
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when I came out to my mother I thought that she was okay with it, even though she wasn't thrilled with the idea of having a queer daughter, but when my girlfriend came out to her parents they freaking flipped. They sent her away and made her go to this all christian school, and tried to cure her, like it was some sort of flesh-eating virus. We still kept in contact through her brother, who understood, but a few weeks ago, I stopped getting letters. She was my first love and she killed herself. She took her own life after a visit with her parents. She told them that she wouldn't change, that she couldn't, and that she loved me, a girl. Her dad beat the shit out of her, and then said that she could work as a whore on the street because he wouldn't support some "god-forsaken dyke" She was raised learning that family was everything, so she killed herself because she meant nothing to her family. Recently my mother has been getting religious and introduced me to an "ex-homosexual" who basically told me i would burn in hell if i didn't change my ways like he had. And do you want to know what my Mother said. she said "See honey, there is still hope for you, you don't have to end up like that girl. It is for your own good, I just want you to be happy and healthy in the eyes of the Lord." I about killed my mother. And I still think I might.
Sexuality is not something you can cure, it isn't an illness, and I hate when parents are like that.
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2007/04/11 19:19
By: JoEy15Mass
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thats like u being on drugs and then sending you to a rehab center...
Hello mom and I'm GAY! Its ok we can fix you... "you can fix me" im not a fucking car or something" im your son... ahhh Duh? lol
people dont make since.
dramaqueen17 wrote: im wondering how other people feel about parents trying to "correct" a childs sexuality. Either by sending them to a residential placement(like my parents did) or by any other sick and twisted way that they can think of. If you were sent to a facility, you can share your story here and get some advice on how to cope with the problems it caused you.(if it caused any) or you can give others advice who have been in your situation.
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2007/04/12 03:44
By: 75ddrk
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drummer86 wrote: coming from a country like Cyprus, where being gay is not just frowned upon, but you are considered as a curse to the family, a disgrace to the people who ever knew you and a mental psycho in need of treatment, i can share some knowledge. A friend of mine, one of the few ones in Cyprus who has the balls to join the Gay Community, now 25, told me this some months ago as we were talking. He comes from a little town in the suburbs of Nicosia, the capital of Cyprus. He realized he was gay at the age of 14, although he was not flamboyant and you would have never guessed he was gay.
He came out to his friends at the age of 16, and the word was spread around enough that his folks found out. Their actions were the following:
1. Tried to talk him out and convince him that he is not gay, and he cannot be gay since he had girlfriends before
2. Tried to blame it on the fact that he had a pound or two more weight (really, not even overweight, just had some fat), and took him to a dietitian, so that he can lose weight and be interested in girls. The result was that he lost weight but -of course - did not change his mind.
3. They took him to a psychiatrist, not even a psychologist, because they believed that with proper medication and some medical care, he would turn straight!!!
4. When nothing worked, and saw that he was gay and as gay as one can be, they decided to take him to church, and instead, they called the priest to come to his house and perform exorcism on him as if he had been possessed by some kind of demons!!!
After all that, they had to accept his sexuality, in the end. Only thing is... he accepted to undergo everything coz he was enjoying all the procedure.
I think thats amazing, how they would go to such lengths to 'cure' their son of his homosexuality. I've seen a few TV shows about gay guys actually going to correctional places like that, because they don't want to be gay. It was just digusting. I've never been really big on family, and my sister didn't really care at all when I told her. My mum told me to wait so I could make sure, and I did for about a year, and then when I told my dad, he told me to do the same thing. Most parents just don't understand what you're going through, because unless one or both of your parents are gay and lesbian, they're not going to be familiar with those feelings. But even if your family isn't accepting of it, there is an extremely supportive gay community waiting for you with open arms, and thats a nice feeling to have.
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2007/04/13 09:18
By: blackninja
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My parents are millitary*praise bush!* and religious *GO god*Not that I mind being christian but they belive gay is a choice and they can be "cured".Then the spout the bible suff which I always retaliate with saying hey that also means I can sell my sister to mexicans!!or white plp...Anyway they think the camps are great and I went there for journilistic study for the marraige amendment in VA.It was terrible the boys and girls their looked half dead and sligtly crazy.Only a few look okay and the preachers there looked like nothing was wroung.Kinda like the south park episode..Anyway thoses campes are kinda a death trap.
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2007/04/14 23:34
By: charlilake1991
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i think its a bit sick really if they have such a problem with it and expect you to change why dont they be supportive and be gay or bisexual or whatever... im not saying thats right either but maybe suggesting u changing is absurd as them changing maybe that might help to see how ridiculous it is. You are only a heterosexual not terminaly ill....
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2007/04/14 23:42
By: charlilake1991
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my mum said she accepted it but there are times i notice when the conversation takes a "turn" and suddenly is cut off short and she makes comments like when i was buying stuff to do my nails she asked if i liked guys now i was like its not what u buy..... and she asked bcoz i was gay did i want to be a guy and i mean she just assumes thats stereotyped lesbians are basically boys with different bits
but i like doing my nails and shopping but i like girls as well cant u have both? but in general my family have accepted it pretty well and i had read a load of stories of how coming out was bad as u could be beaten and disowned and i was so scared so when my mum guessed i was quite relieved so i feel sorry for all u guys who have a bad time coming out just remember whatever your going through at least ur honest and a better person 4 it
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2007/04/22 16:07
By: alfie92
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my mum checked what i have been doing on internet and she found gyc (and some other stuff...) she just came to me and asked me if im gay, and she told me that she dont care if im straight or gay, im her son and she loves me anyway. i told her im not gay, but its nice to know that she accepts it, im not ready to talk about it with her yet, but i dont think that would be so hard if i decides to tell her. i havent seen my dad in almost a year, he is not a important part of my life and i dont think he would like to know im gay...
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2007/04/27 12:04
By: firedragon
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My mom did the same thing to me (looking on my computer) and instead of saying i love you the way you are she just said that i was going through a phase and that i could really consider liking girls and stuff and that i should go to the school counsellor and see if we could fix it! before that i was totally fine with me mom but since then i havn't really gotten along with her. i said that i went and talked to the counsellor (of course i didn't im perfectly fine with me being gay...) and that everything was fine and now i dont want to even tell her because i know that she will look at me differently and wont respect me as much.... well that was my little rant....
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2007/05/05 17:40
By: water_weaver
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This is sick. It's sick, and it's wrong, and it should be illegal as hell!!
I once heard a story where a parent actually hired some people to kidnap her son, and basically beat the hell out of him until he became straight.
YOU CAN'T BEAT PEOPLE STRAIGHT, THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS.
It's stuff like this that makes me want to punch stupid people in the face....Ever seen a purple monkey? ... Yeah, me neither.
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