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Re:parent trouble
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Date: 2007/04/12 03:44
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By: 75ddrk
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drummer86 wrote:
coming from a country like Cyprus, where being gay is not just frowned upon, but you are considered as a curse to the family, a disgrace to the people who ever knew you and a mental psycho in need of treatment, i can share some knowledge.
A friend of mine, one of the few ones in Cyprus who has the balls to join the Gay Community, now 25, told me this some months ago as we were talking.
He comes from a little town in the suburbs of Nicosia, the capital of Cyprus. He realized he was gay at the age of 14, although he was not flamboyant and you would have never guessed he was gay.
He came out to his friends at the age of 16, and the word was spread around enough that his folks found out. Their actions were the following:
1. Tried to talk him out and convince him that he is not gay, and he cannot be gay since he had girlfriends before
2. Tried to blame it on the fact that he had a pound or two more weight (really, not even overweight, just had some fat), and took him to a dietitian, so that he can lose weight and be interested in girls. The result was that he lost weight but -of course  - did not change his mind.
3. They took him to a psychiatrist, not even a psychologist, because they believed that with proper medication and some medical care, he would turn straight!!! 
4. When nothing worked, and saw that he was gay and as gay as one can be, they decided to take him to church, and instead, they called the priest to come to his house and perform exorcism on him as if he had been possessed by some kind of demons!!!
After all that, they had to accept his sexuality, in the end. Only thing is... he accepted to undergo everything coz he was enjoying all the procedure.
I think thats amazing, how they would go to such lengths to 'cure' their son of his homosexuality.
I've seen a few TV shows about gay guys actually going to correctional places like that, because they don't want to be gay. It was just digusting.
I've never been really big on family, and my sister didn't really care at all when I told her.
My mum told me to wait so I could make sure, and I did for about a year, and then when I told my dad, he told me to do the same thing.
Most parents just don't understand what you're going through, because unless one or both of your parents are gay and lesbian, they're not going to be familiar with those feelings.
But even if your family isn't accepting of it, there is an extremely supportive gay community waiting for you with open arms, and thats a nice feeling to have.
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