What are your views over age gaps in relationships
Date: 2005/11/26 18:12
By: hey_its_anton
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The concern over wide age gaps in homosexual relationships has largely stemmed from the stigma of Section 28 and its abolishment. During 2000 when the age of consent for homosexuals was reduced from 18 to 16, the major criticism against it was the hyperthetical situation of a 16 year old boy being abused by a 60 year old man. What we neglect to mention is that the age of consent for hetrosexuals has been 16 for generations, why did we never question the idea of a 16 year old girl being abused by a 60 year old man? Relationships are impossible to generalise, the law gives guidelines, but it must be noted that while some 14 year olds may have reached the level of maturity for a sexual relationship, some 19 year olds may not have! (and vice versa) Every relationship must be judged on its merits, and as long as the older partner has integrity and the younger, a solid advice base, then there is no reason why both partners can't bring beautiful things to the relationship, compliment each others experiences, and help build wisdom in the young, and give youth back to the older. These relationships can blossom beautifully, if cultivated in the right way. Plant your seeds.
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Re:What are your views over age gaps in relationsh
Date: 2005/11/27 02:04
By: Moo
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Relationships are impossible to generalise, the law gives guidelines, but it must be noted that while some 14 year olds may have reached the level of maturity for a sexual relationship, some 19 year olds may not have! (and vice versa) Every relationship must be judged on its merits, and as long as the older partner has integrity and the younger, a solid advice base, then there is no reason why both partners can't bring beautiful things to the relationship, compliment each others experiences, and help build wisdom in the young, and give youth back to the older. I totally agree. I fail to see point of the big hoo ha people make when their friend or relative tells them their partner is considerably older or younger. We're all different and cannot be judged by our age alone. I guess I'm so strongly against ageism in any form because I'm often treated like a child because I'm younger than most of the people I know, which seems odd since I tend to be far more mature than some of them. Still, time earns me the right to be treated as an adult.
When it comes to relationships, factors like age should not be a concern for abuse since anyone of any age can abuse someone, it does not rely on how old they are or how young their partner is. Nor does it matter if they're black, white, male, female or any other factor that shouldn't mean much, if aything, in such issues. The only concern I would have, if I had an older partner, is being treated like a child - which is usually only common in relationships founded on a subconscious want for a father/mother figure. Other than that, what is there to worry about, expect perhaps the old niggle of 'he/she may be more experienced than me'.
I've seen many happy relationships between people with a big, or considerable (by social standards), age gap and I'm all for it. Thinking that upping the age of consent will help prevent abuse is utterly rediculous. What about men and women who dominate through power and fear? They do not necessarily target younger victims, merely prey that is weaker than them.
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Re:What are your views over age gaps in relationsh
Date: 2006/07/04 18:23
By: tito24
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My friends aremaking a big deal becausemy bf is 2 years older then me (im 14)
wtf is their problem?? <-->People think that I've stopped lying... I've just gotten better at it.<-->
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Re:What are your views over age gaps in relationships
Date: 2006/07/17 14:29
By: the biggun
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i think u should b able 2 go out with hueva u want and not hav a problem wiv age differences 4 example i want some 1 older tha me so lets just say they can teach me da ropes
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Re:What are your views over age gaps in relationships
Date: 2006/09/26 06:47
By: TEC
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I think there is nothing wrong with it
as long as you love/like whatever
the other person whats wrong with that
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Re:What are your views over age gaps in relationships
Date: 2006/09/26 06:49
By: TEC
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I think there is nothing wrong with it
as long as you love/like whatever
the other person whats wrong with that
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Re:What are your views over age gaps in relationsh
Date: 2006/09/29 08:19
By: ximaginaryxlitex
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tito24 wrote: My friends aremaking a big deal becausemy bf is 2 years older then me (im 14)
wtf is their problem??
I don't see why they are upset about it. Two years isn't that much of an age difference. My limit is three to fours years older anything more than that, in my opinion, is wrong and a bit disturbing.
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Re:What are your views over age gaps in relationships
Date: 2006/09/29 21:12
By: boerseun
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"a 16 year old boy being abused by a 60 year old man."
Do I understand you right?
Do you say it is okay for a 16 year old boy to go out with a man of 60?!
If so, I do not agree, at all.
Okay, I cant speak from experienc3e, because I just started dating guys at the beginning of this year. But I went to gay clubs for a few weeks when I was 16 and EVERY man over 50 wanted to buy me drinks and 'get with me'. Not because I was a great guy, but because I still had a soft skin and didnt shave yet. They totally put me off the clubbing.
Since then I have had friends that is much older, but thats it.
How can the life goals of a 16-year old compare to someone that is 60?
I think 5 years is okay, but that also depends, because a 11-year old and a 16-year old will not work either.
Dont you think you should grow WITH the person?
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Re:What are your views over age gaps in relationsh
Date: 2006/10/12 21:27
By: vixen
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I don't see any problem with age difference. The legal problem with a couple having sex and one of them being underage, even if it's only by a year, then it counts as rape, at aleast in South Africa. Whatever, I personally wouldn't date anyone older than maybe five years, but that's my preference. I don't see how it is a problem, as long as there is mutual respect I guess
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Re:What are your views over age gaps in relationsh
Date: 2006/10/13 01:30
By: dragonking
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Well i dont think 14 year olds should be dating at all... like really you think its a big deal but it aint. You should pace yourself and do things as you get older cause if you do everything when your young well you just end up getting too old too quickly.
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Re:What are your views over age gaps in relationsh
Date: 2006/10/13 02:14
By: 2hot_2touch
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age difference does play a big part when it come to relationship. I personally would not even consider any1 under 15/16......due to the emotional, physical and intelligence variations. Thus the age difference for me is at most 3yrs at most at this stage of development. Inevitably you will both be at the same stage but could your relationship last that long? Shaun General Manager TheGYC Chat Service www.thegyc.com
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Re:What are your views over age gaps in relationsh
Date: 2006/10/13 07:50
By: tistria
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Post edited by: tistria, at: 2008/05/01 17:43
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