When i told my mom she just looked at me and said, "It is just a feeling and you can change your feelings". Then she had said that I couldnt tell anyone without asking for her permission. I was like no, and so I told most of my friends, not yet telling my step mother, father (homophobic), and my sister (a little confused about it). So my mother doesnt let me go anywhere or let me talk to anyone for too long and tries to keep me from telling other people.
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2008/01/14 20:49
By: falcon456
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My parents say that they be okay with whatever i am and whatever i do, but sadly i don't think that applies to my sexuality. Coming from a religious family, i'm scared comming out, no matter how many times my parents say they will be okay to this, i know i'll be hurting them so much and it kills me, being their only son doesn't help.
I've tried so hard to straighten myself, but in the end i found out that it's alot better for me to accept it, if it takes myself awhile to, i wonder how much more my parents.
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2008/01/25 12:35
By: Werewolf505
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My parents keep trying to tell me that I cannot be gay/bi/whatever-it-is-I-told-them for all these stupid reasons and its like... I'm sorry but your opinion on the matter isn't going to change me, whether I want it to or not. The only thing they have succeeded in doing is making me too scared to have a boyfriend because last time I did, they found out and went a little bit psycho at me. Which doesn't sit well with me because it further accentuates my already present feeling of a ) alienation from my family, and b ) loneliness in general from lack of love.
They also try to stop me from spending too much time online, because they know I come to a site (namedly this one, but they don't know that) and I talk to other guys, etc etc. Every time I mention the name of a male friend (the vast majority of guys I know in real life are straight) they will give me this accusing look as if he is my latest subject of affection...
Lay off already!!
Parents need to learn that they can't just snap their fingers and BAM, the gayness is gone..although I know several people who would take advantage of that if it worked.
Post edited by: Werewolf505, at: 2008/01/25 12:49
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2008/01/26 16:53
By: its that one: Dan
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I don't understand why parents would put there child through that - fair enough if they didnt agree with their childs sexuality but if i was an unaccepting parent i would still prefer my child to be happy...
My parents were rather ignorant about gays..but I gave them a good telling off heehee - i think nowadays people just have to get on with their own lives... (:
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2008/02/02 12:06
By: Exovedate
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My mom says she accepts me and such. But then she always trys to make me feel bad by saying how I'll never know the love of a child and such.
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2008/02/07 16:04
By: Tessen
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I would tell them...if they weren't paying (going to) for my college education. Secret keeping has seriously stifled me...but I tell myself I can hold out till i at least graduate lol... Sometimes I wonder if there are other paths that allow for less dependence on parents...I honestly don't care what they think, but they do have the upper hand. Its sad really, how religion/society controls people.
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2008/03/25 17:24
By: White Houses
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i was sent to counseling and then a psychiatrist because she thought that being gay is wrong. she still thinks it is wrong. i mean even tonight she gave me the speach on how god doesn't except gays and that i am going to burn in hell. im single, lonely, and lost. parents suck
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2008/03/28 14:49
By: rad55667
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Shit you guys have it bad, luckly my parents aren't religous, however gays were the butt of nearly every one of my dads jokes, including a lovely one where he stated that if i ever came out he would only pretend to be cool with it, and call me a fucking poof behind my back. The weird thing being my dad isn't homophobic, he has gay friends and shows them plenty of respect, he just tried to make it clear he wouldn't accept me as being gay.
However i came up with a plan which was somewhere between asserting myself and being a complete pussy, i came out, let my mother know how pissed off i was with what he was saying, and how i was quite ready to knock him unconsious, she told my dad, but i made her wait untill the day before i was due to fly off around the world for a gap year trip, so by the time he found out ther was no time for him to try and convince myself that i wasn't gay. So i gave them six months for it to sink in while i tried to save the rainforest, got wildly drunk, took lots of drugs ,had lots of sex, then decided to grow up.
I've been back a couple of weeks now and my plan seems to have worked, its far to late for them to have a problem with my sexuality, im a hell of alot more adult, well adult enough that i understand much more about who i am, and no longer wan't to punch my dad, and he no longer makes any jokes about gay people.
Sorry theres no real moral to that long and pointless story, cos not everyone can run away from there problems for six months, but baisically, if you have a problem with your parents, know that its your life, and eventually your gonna have to assert yourself and let them know that if you have a problem with me, you can fuck right off cos im proud of who i am.
Well that be a more ideal statemnt
I know for most people its more complicated than that, i could tell them my feelings, but then ran away during the hard part where you have to live with them as they try to accept you
Sorry if you just wasted five minutes of your life reading that pointless story
Meh, it killed time writing it
P.S. Once you do manage to come out, and everythings fine and dandy, life really starts to become so much more fun, so its worth it, and you don't want to become one of those 40 year old closet homos, you all know them, and i certainly wouldn't like to be one.
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2008/04/05 16:50
By: fearthyself
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Rad, your really lucky when it comes to parents. when I tried to come out to my own parents they threatened my life and I was almost kicked out. then they tried to convince me that it was only a passing thing, even though it's been three years since then and I have luckly convinced them that I was straight. Also to have had the opportunity to get out into the world and escape from your problems while having fun really helps with the matter as well.
Post edited by: fearthyself, at: 2008/04/05 16:51 i'm emo i'm goth i"m gangsta i'm preppy i'm not my parents i'm not you i'm me!
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Re:Parent Trouble
Date: 2008/04/06 18:59
By: memmer66
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Saval wrote: I think its natural for your parents to be worried, Mine where. I think its more down to the fact that they think your going to get bullied or teased or generaly put down rather than pure spite not wanting any gay children. Although i guess in some cases parents realy cant stand having a gay child. wich is realy sad.
My parents do it because of religion, apparently the Bible wasn't written by God's followers it was "from God's own mouth." And my mom, the b*tch she is, actually told me that if I decided to be gay she wouldn't hang out with any friends cause she couldn't handle it I was so pissed off you wouldn't believe, so right now my parents are living with a lie.
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2008/05/02 16:38
By: k13322n11185s
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It's actually natural for parents to be concerned at first if their kids come out. With all the discrimination aginst LGBT members, parents do not want their children to face it. It is that, and personal prejudices, that cause some parents to try and change their child's sexuality. But a parent shouldn't try to change their child's sexuality, but should accept them and support them through all the troubles they will receive. The attempt at changing leads only to alienation, pedophila, depression, and possilby suicide.
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Re:parent trouble
Date: 2008/05/11 07:24
By: biteme56
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I think its really freakin retarded. You can't "fix" being gay because its not a problem or disease. People just don't understand. You should'nt try to change or fix who someone is.
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I was so pissed off you wouldn't believe, so right now my parents are living with a lie.
