1. Never come out in an argument or to hurt someone
2. Never come out in a moving vehicle.
3. A person is more intelligent than a group of people, come out to people one at a time and somewhere private.
4. People who are ignorant may say things initially that they don't realize are painful to hear. Remember that they are simply unaware and in a state of surprise.
5. They may already know.
6. Coming out in drag is a bit much (unless you really have the right shoes...)
7. People have to deal with 1) the issue of homo/bi/trans stuff and 2) you as a person 3) the combination of the two since you probably don't fit the stereotype they have about gay peeps.
8. Be sober
9. Don't have your lover with you. This is not "Let's Make a Deal" more surprises are not good.
10. Be ready for them to need time and space to think about things before any discussion takes place.
11. Be ready for them to drill you with questions that may or may not offend you (see #4)
12. Sometimes it's easier to read about an issue than to admit you are uneducated. Have a book, pamphlet, phone number, or other resource that can be called when you aren't around.
13. It is your life to live, you only have one, and the bottom line is that you are going to continue living as a gay person no matter what their reaction is.
14. It may not be a bad idea to have smelling salts handy.
15. There are people who will never be supportive no matter what is said.
16. If your audience had that deer in the headlights look, don't make any quick moves.
17. Breathe. (seriously)
18. No two coming out experiences are ever the same.
19. Don't plan on doing anything else for the rest of the day/night.
20. People will need a lot of time, for the most part, to really think about things.
21. Always have an escape plan. You may not need it, but if you do, you won't be surprised. Have a place to crash for the night, and money you can get to in case a worse case scenario does occur.
22. Have resources for you to call, you need support, too!
23. Just because you come out to someone once, doesn't mean you won't have to do it again, and again, and again...
24. Do not try to answer questions about Richard Simmons, Rosie O'Donnel Keanu Reeves, Tom Cruise, Richard Gere (or the Gerbils), Oscar Wilde, the Spice Girls, Bert and Ernie, or anyone else.
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Re:24 Coming Out Tips
Date: 2006/10/10 00:12
By: ezefly
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wow this as realy good adivce some of the things never came to my my mind
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Re:24 Coming Out Tips
Date: 2006/11/05 06:41
By: Robert89
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2. Never come out in a moving vehicle.
This one quite amused me. The tips are good, I may be using them sometime.
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Re:24 Coming Out Tips
Date: 2006/11/05 07:03
By: B3@u
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Robert89 wrote: 2. Never come out in a moving vehicle.
This one quite amused me. The tips are good, I may be using them sometime. Yeah, it'd have to be my favourite one too MySpace | beaugiles dot net | last.fm
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Re:24 Coming Out Tips
Date: 2006/11/25 13:56
By: hotchilliboy
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Thanks, i think you've covered basically all the tips i can think of to.
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Re:24 Coming Out Tips
Date: 2006/11/25 14:59
By: Kangy
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Thank you, this is quite helpful. I'm planning on coming out to my parents (my friends already know), but I dunno how and when >>>KANGY
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Re:24 Coming Out Tips
Date: 2006/12/20 15:46
By: Carten
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ha thanks for the tips hey. Im sure they are gonna come in handy later on
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Re:24 Coming Out Tips
Date: 2007/01/05 10:49
By: x.sadstars.x
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what will we do without your tips??
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Re:24 Coming Out Tips
Date: 2007/01/11 00:13
By: co.mayo
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wow those tips are awsome . the tip bout the moveing care was funny . but some of the tips i would never have thoght bout adn all 24 give u alot to thiunk bout . co. mayo.xx
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Re:24 Coming Out Tips
Date: 2007/01/15 14:55
By: gracefulwanderer
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wow good tips i might use some of those
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realy good
Date: 2007/01/17 04:05
By: deathy
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it was good but i still think im gana wait a year...or 2
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Re:realy good
Date: 2007/02/25 23:13
By: randy B you cant beat me
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[size=4][/size] sweet tips
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sweet tips