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Date: 2007/10/10 01:59
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By: abitcompletelyexcellent
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I'm completely new to all this. Anyways here's my story:
Until last weekend I had told a total of three friends (all girls, why is it that I'm more comfortable with my girl-friends?). So I told my best friend Han last summer about my 'confusion,' as I put it. I told my twin sister a few months on and my other friend. Only one of them claimed to have guessed and they were all really supportive, which I am so grateful.
Anyway on Saturday it was the usual teen party blahblah had too much to drink and only remember very little. Turns out I had a wee heart to heart with C, a cool girl but possibly the biggest gossip I've ever known. So
S***!!
was my emotion, on top of the sore head was not a pretty sight. Trouble was I didn't know if people would care or understand or accept or make fun of or have nothing more to do with me. The worry was horrific and made me so depressed its not funny.
Last night I was at a friend's house with a big group of friends from school. I was so nervous I nearly didn't even go. It was really strange. I actually thought that I'd got away with it, and nobody knew, because everyone was treating me exactly the same as they always would have. Towards the end of the night there was a discussion about same-sex marriage and I was asked if I would ever do that. So they do know, and it doesn't make a difference. And that is the most wonderful feeling in the world.
Knowing that my friends can accept me, all of me, means that I can too. It has helped me come to terms with my sexuality and I am so glad everyone knows now, even though my coming-out perhaps wasn't the most graceful event!
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Date: 2007/10/28 17:01
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By: coley2k7
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vixen wrote:
My parents had just had a huge fight and I was certain they were going to divorce. I don't know what came over me, but I'd been wanting to tell my mother for a while, so I told her and my sister, SOO uncomfortable  She's happy because now she has a gay friend (and brother =p)
OMG lol same here i just had to tell me mum i couldent sleep it was like i just had to tell her i dint eat for 3 days  and dint sleep when i told her i feel sleep when she was going through the STD leture lol
Me: Mum ( this was at 5 am tehe)
Mum: what!
Me: Im Gay!
Mum: Adam are you sleep walking
Me: No
Mum: come here
Me: No
Mum: Just come here babe
Me: NO!
Mum: Ok i still luv u no matter what and i just hope you know what your doing
Me: I do
Mum: Do you know about STD's
Me: bye mum
LOL I aint told me sis yet lol
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2007/10/28 17:03
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By: coley2k7
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abitcompletelyexcellent wrote:
I'm completely new to all this. Anyways here's my story:
Until last weekend I had told a total of three friends (all girls, why is it that I'm more comfortable with my girl-friends?). So I told my best friend Han last summer about my 'confusion,' as I put it. I told my twin sister a few months on and my other friend. Only one of them claimed to have guessed and they were all really supportive, which I am so grateful.
Anyway on Saturday it was the usual teen party blahblah had too much to drink and only remember very little. Turns out I had a wee heart to heart with C, a cool girl but possibly the biggest gossip I've ever known. So
S***!!
was my emotion, on top of the sore head was not a pretty sight. Trouble was I didn't know if people would care or understand or accept or make fun of or have nothing more to do with me. The worry was horrific and made me so depressed its not funny.
Last night I was at a friend's house with a big group of friends from school. I was so nervous I nearly didn't even go. It was really strange. I actually thought that I'd got away with it, and nobody knew, because everyone was treating me exactly the same as they always would have. Towards the end of the night there was a discussion about same-sex marriage and I was asked if I would ever do that. So they do know, and it doesn't make a difference. And that is the most wonderful feeling in the world.
Knowing that my friends can accept me, all of me, means that I can too. It has helped me come to terms with my sexuality and I am so glad everyone knows now, even though my coming-out perhaps wasn't the most graceful event!
I duno mate i only told girls  and 1 boy but i was very drunk and fell down some stairs lol
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2007/11/08 20:21
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By: i am jake
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well heres my story. i told my mother about 3 monts ago. i had a total break down and i told her i needed to talk. so me and her went and drove around out in the country. well after i got everything off my chest that had been bothering me, i felt compelled to tell her. it was hard though she told me she loved me and sopported me. then she asked if there was anyone that i liked and a couple other things but they were really kinda awkward for me cuz ive never actualy talked about other guys i liked to someone this close to me least of all my mom. i dont think ive cried so hard in my life. though i knew that this was the first step of finally being able to have ppl know the true me. i am now faced with an even harder challenge and thats telling my best friend whos like a brother to me. i had never really had a best friend till i met him about two years ago and today not more then 5 mins ago i told him that i had some important things i needed to tell hm this weekends. so he said he would come over. at first i felt excited but now i feel afriad cuz if he cant accept it then how can i exspect any of my other friends to. im afraid that by telling him im goin to lose him. i know what kind of person he is and taking it the wrong way would be out of character for him and i know this with all my heart but at the same time i feel he has goods reason to hate cuz as open as me and him were together i kept this from him and it shows that i didnt trust him enough to tell him now. so is there anyone with any thoughts or some advice that could help me im not sure if this is the right place to post this and im srry if it isnt but i could plz use some help.
People who sin say this, "that they had to, to survive." People who sin say this, "it's too late now to stop." The shadow called sin dogs them steadily from behind, silently without a word. Remorse and agony are repeated only to end up at despair in the end, but the sinners just don't know that if they'd only turn around there's a light there, a light which keeps shining on them ever so lonely. A light that will never fade.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2007/11/09 15:44
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By: MadFan
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I've blogged and typed and everything my coming out experience, so I'm just going to make this one short and to the point.
Two years ago - Sat Oct. 27/2007 = I'm still living in denial and trying to change it in every way possible.
Sun Oct. 28/2007 = BITCH I'M GAY; I NEED TO GET ON WITH IT ALREADY! *listens to 'I'm Coming Out' for hours)
Mon Oct. 29/2007 = WAHEY! I'm still gay! I need to tell somebody.
Lunch that day = "Chloe, Sylvie, I'm so EXCITED!"
"About what?"
"I'll tell you later."
"No, what?"
"Later.  "
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After school that day = I drag both of them into a corner and say "this weekend I accepted my homosexuality."
Chloe = 3 second glare. "Awesome! Give me a hug." *I hug Chloe*
Sylvie = never stops glaring, but is happy for me.
Then I told my mom 20 mins later when I got home while crying, and she totally accepted it as well, after asking me if I was sure.
Well that's all so far. I'll come out to others soon, I'm sure.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2007/11/21 06:22
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By: MidnightApology
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About October 2005, I came out to my friends as bi. One of my friends kindly told a whole class of people so it managed to get around my year group in about an hour or two. People talked about it so much that my head of year found out and rang up my parents to tell them because apparently it was "school policy." Anyway, I denied it to my parents (so I don't know if they know or not).
I came out as lesbian some time later that year, which went down slightly worse. One of my friends screamed when she found out, and most tried to convince me that it was "just a phase." My whole year took the piss constantly as well, and still do.
I still go into periods of denial sometimes & try to force myself to find guys attractive when people make snide comments. But I'm kind of glad that I came out when I did because it helps me to accept who I am, even when other people don't.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2007/11/24 07:20
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By: lee9
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Well I wanted to come out very slowly and just tell a few family and close friends for the time being.....................but it fucked up big style 
Told me mam - she cried, denied etc. you know the score
Told me Dad - He got a bit aggressive before calming me down and telling me not.
Told me nanna - She said I cant be coz I had a fight the other day, play football and wont wear pink shirts. Bit stereotypical but she's old fashioned bless her.
Then we get onto mates. Now I was absolutely bricking it over me mates reactions. But I got some balls from the body shop and told two of me mates on MSN (one was my best mate, the other was just lucky to be on MSN at the time). They were both okay with it, me best pal being very interested (wierd bugger he is). But the other one was busting to tell somebody so held it in for a massive 3 days before asking me could he tell two other lads I hang around with. Didnt really fancy it at first but agreed under pressure. School came in the morning (well it didnt I went there  ) and by break time the whole school knew, which I take as a compliment to my popularity.........honestly.
But forget the fact that they spilled the beans so quick, the support from me mates was fantastic and not one could give a flying fishfinger. Not one person has give me a bit of grief and the news has travelled like the Queens in town.
Funny thing was, this other lad came out the same day. He told me the day before he was going to do it and was excited about all the attention...........which he got zilch and I got it all; he wanted the thunder but ended up being the fart in the bath.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2007/11/25 06:43
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By: Bubberts
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Whwn I came out, we were joking!!!. My dad and step mom suspected I wusn't strate, and always made fun of me, in a humorous way. I wuz sitting with my neighbor like 10 minutes later, and my little brother called me gay. I told him so wut, and he ran home screaming " mom dad bub's gay". Then they called me over, and my step mom wuz all extra supportive, while my dad just sat there and smoked 5 cigarettes, in like 10 minutes. The next day he yold me he'de b here 4 me if anyone gave me any problems, but he rarely holds up 2 his end of the bargain!!!( I cvame out july/8/06. I wuz 15 @ the time)
I've yet 2 tell my mom, I don't really wunt 2, cuz I'm afraid wut her reaction will b, but I'm half way there.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2007/12/02 13:37
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By: horcruxer
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I told three close friends one day at school on the first day of Year 11. A few weeks later, in a biology lesson, I wrote down the words 'I am gay' on a piece of paper and 'accidently' let the guy sitting next to me see it. or the remainder of that lesson, I got so many questions abou homosexuality and learnt nothing about plants.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2007/12/08 20:06
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By: GNR7600
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Mines posted as an article in this website. Check it out as "A Super Secret" in Robs Column (i think)
It is better to die on your feet than to live on your knees ( Ibarurri 1895)
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Date: 2007/12/08 20:15
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By: GNR7600
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Or so it was, I can't find it any longer. Oh well, its under my blog though
It is better to die on your feet than to live on your knees ( Ibarurri 1895)
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2007/12/11 10:04
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By: Sparky
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Hi all,
This is my first post and my first day out. It starts like this:
I organised a few time to meet my best friend (yes, who is a girl, I know... I'm a 19 year old guy and she's 21). Due to our busy work schedules we eventually decided on this morning. It would have been better earlier, because I kissed a female colleague at a party, which only confirmed that I way gay (that was the first time I've said "I'm gay" online . I felt absolutely nothing, no feelings or attraction, towards my colleague after our kiss.
Anyway, I couldn't get the courage to tell her at our meeting point (a coffee shop), it took a change of venue, a short shopping experience and we eventually arrived at a Church coffee shop (I know, the irony is killing me). I said "I'm gay (I trembled on the word "gay"). She thought I was joking at first, because I joke with her all the time. She then basically said she was honoured that I told her first, then she enquired as to why she has so many gay friends and then commented on the irony of me coming out in a Church coffee shop, next door to the actual Church...
Anyway she had to leave and she messaged me to say she would phone later, because she feels we should talk more. So now I'll wait for her call. I'm lucky to have such a wonderful friend. Now I've just got to tell my other friends and my family... wish me luck.
Keep well guys and thanks for all the stories, they definately helped me through the initial stages of my own personal coming out.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2007/12/17 16:45
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By: doodoosad
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kinda simple.
i got really close to my two bestfriends in the summer.
i told one in a letter. and she was HAPPY for me.
she wanted me to be gay for some reason hahah.
but yeah. she hugged me and blaaahhhh.
and then later on my mom confronted me because she noticed how i've been down and depressed and asked me if i was gay. and she knew all along.
she was fine with it. LONGGGG story short. i think i am lucky because every person i've told was COMPLETELY fine with it.
but yeaaahhh talk to meeee
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2007/12/25 07:12
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By: simmons247
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Ah Coming Out Stories
these are usually a barrel of laughs 
i first told one of my closest friends that i was gay and she was Very supportive
i then told another close friend, and another, and another till all my close friends knew
then i was out with my friends and a group of people one night and a rather drunk guy came up to me and said
"someone told me you admitted you were gay"
to which i replied "and proud"
and that was the day i started hating all my friends
so now i have new friends
but their official story was
"i lost my phone at a party, and you texted me saying something about you being gay, so its your fault really"
seriously?
so i spread rumors about them and told everyone their biggest secrets
Fun times indeed =)
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2008/01/13 13:22
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By: StalininLove
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It was a week before school started. I hadn't kept in touch with any of my friends because I was working and had gone on a month-long vacation to visit my cousins. Before that, though, I was dating my first guy. We broke up after he cheated on me and gave me scabies, I still have scars from them (eww, I know).
So anyways, I'm hanging out with the neighbourhood kids and we get to talking about what we did this summer and I thought that now's a good a time as any and said, "I got a boyfriend, he gave me scabies, we broke up. I'm bi, by the way and I have scars to prove it." All the girls were like "Oh, I knew that, you dress nice and watch Laguna Beach, of course you're bi." and all the guys were like, "Wtf, you like, suck cocks and stuff?" of course they were joking. I lightened the mood with a "double your choices, double your fun" and then I showed them scars, just to prove I wasn't kidding.
Then we ordered pizza, the guys and I played some hockey and the girls and I talked about who was hotter, Stephen or Talan.
All in all it was pretty good. The whole school knew by September and it's been great save for the few rednecks, but others stood up for me and so me and them pretty much ignore each other.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2008/01/14 15:58
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By: Inthedetails
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"But you once touched my arm, that means you can't be gay" my friends nice, but not all that smart.........
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Date: 2008/02/10 18:05
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By: RSco
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My story...ok, so the head of my school's GSA and I are pretty close...so one day he calls me and we talked for a little bit and he asked me, and I'm like "what the hell, there's no point in lying to him about it, his sister is a lesbian, so he'll be cool with it" So I told him and he was completely cool about it.
Then about a week later I was talking to his sister, let's call her B, on Im and in the middle of the conversation, I was like "by the way, I'm bi" and she thought it was pretty awesome. Since then we've become a lot closerand she's the #1 person I go to for support. She encouraged me to talk to one of my lesbian teachers-pretty much all the gay kids at my school have come out in her office, she's amazing. So I asked her if I could meet with her and she asked me what about and so I blurted it out. She said congratulations and gave me chocolate and helped me to come out to 2 of my friends.
So one of my close friends is pretty openly ok wiht gay people, and when I told her she was all "Im really supportive" and stuff, but, yeah, she's cool with it and nothing has changed between us. Another one of my best friends-I was more worried about her, because we've had to share a bed on school trips and stuff. I came out to her and she was really awkward about it for a little while, but now she's pretty cool with it and it's awesome.
So yeah, I know this is probably not so interesting, but it gets better. So, the father of the first 2 people I came out to works at my school, and is in the GSA. He offers a course on homosexuality and religion as an elective, and I really wanted to take it, but I was afraid of what people would say, as everyone already thinks I'm gay. I mentioned it to B and she said he might teach me the same stuff but privately and I could still get credit for it and stuff, so she was like "Can I tell him?" so I said sure. Then, after he emailed me, she was like, "Oh, by the way, he kind of already guessed" I asked her when and she said "back in the 1st trimester" and I was like  he knew for 4 months! So, finally, I was sooo fed up with lying to my best guy friend, who's pretty homophobic, and I was like "Screw it, I'll tell him anyway" So I did; at first he was pretty cool with it but he makes a lot of homophobic comments that really hurt, like: "You'll make out with a guy, and then you'll be fixed" and in one of my Jewish classes we were discussing the fact that you can't murder worship idols, or have sex with ppl you're not allowed to have sex with even if it will save your life, and he said "Oooh, Sara" I was like-i don't need to be reminded that it's against, torah, I'm perfectly aware of it. Then a little while later I came out to a bi guy at my school who was disappointed that i hadn't come out to him in person, he already knew, but was like "welcome to the club" before spending 20 minutes about this cute guy he has a crush on
Sorry, I know this was kind of long. hope the smiley's make up for it.
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"Be who you are and say what you feel-those who mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind."
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Date: 2008/02/14 07:12
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By: aloneintheworld
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Mines more of a halfish story i told my bestest friend lynsey and dora and amanda and stephen and gaige <- hottest friend eva !!! but anyway im nervous about tellin parents
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Date: 2008/02/18 14:36
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By: Who
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My story isn't too interesting, I knew I was gay for a long time, and made up my mind that it was time to come out so I told my best friend, and she was all fine with it, even though she is a little disappointed that she can't go out with me, but anyways, I was talking to this guy I like on myspace(he is gay) and between talking to him, I went outside and told my mom. When I got back inside, I saw that he said I should hold out on coming out as long as I can... She was fine with it, or so she says, but now all she does is occasionally beg me to give her a grandchild...
Interestingly enough my mom and I were just talking about it, and she has finally accepted it. She said,"Now I don't have one handyman, I get two."
The better story to tell, I was downtown with some friends, and we were in this food place, and we were talking about how a guy thought my name was Brian and I was going out with Brenda, and I was all, "No, my name is Chris, and I'm gay", and the lady behind me heard it and thought it was the big coming out, and she congratulated me...
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Date: 2008/03/18 17:13
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By: BostonJack
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If my mum cried, I would just absolutely lay down and die.
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