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Date: 2004/07/16 22:02
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By: hamishrp
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Anyone got a coming out story?
If anyone has a coming out story, we want to hear it..  
Mine...
Quite simple really.. I wanted to go into town and visit a gay bar, with my then future boyfriend. So being 15 and stupid, i made up a hugeeeee cover up story involving Jonny and a friend he wanted me to meet. lol - yeah right!
..Surprisingly she didn't believe me and i ended up telling her that I was gay after much questioning about this friend of a friend.
She cried 
But anyway, she insisted to tell Dad ASAP which was nice of her, so at the dinner table the very same day (note: i didn't get to the gay bar) she told him. He was amazing and so supportive!!
Mum was awkward for a while.
And that was that really, and now we live with the "understanding" that i don't go to any gay places. Both parties know of course that this is entierly un-true (especially me).
Anyway what is your story?
Hamish!
Top Dog,
THEGYC.COM
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Date: 2004/07/16 22:47
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By: Paris
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This is taken from my journal, you can kind of make the story from this entry:
Anyways...last night I left the letter for my parents to find in their room. My mum sat and read it and then went down to my dad and i just layed in my room scared crying and then after 15 mins they came and hugged me and reassured me and we spoke for like 2 hours more or less..everythings fine they love me all the same and support me even more then before! They were a little upset, but thats expected but I can't believe how nice about it and the wonderful things they said. Like, they want me to feel able to speak my mind and bring people home and not feel afraid too, they'd rather meet who I'm with then worry whom I'm mixing with. I could write loads on this but I cant im like all excited/coming down from nerves etc. So basically it's all really good, its gonna take a while to settle before it all sinks in. But I'm incredibly happy that 'weight' has been lifted and I can be myself.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2004/09/18 22:59
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By: Kalas
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Mines the usual story you tell one person, they tell everyone for you. But some of my friends were really open-minded and supportive, others not so. They're not really friends anymore.
Telling my parents was alot different. I came home from school one day and basically cracked over the most stupid thing. My parents offered to send me to a therapist for all the stuff I was going through. And then they just said they didnt care that I was gay. I was they're son and that they kinda knew for ages. That was such a relief 
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2004/09/27 00:33
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By: Benny
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God. I jus typed all of mine and then it disappeared. Dammit. I dont really have a full story, really a half one. My sister asked me sumtime in july out of the blue, she was like,' Are you gay?' I said yes as fast as possible and she was like,' Kool. I was worried cos if u were(are) then you wouldn't have ne1 2 talk to it about'. So I went from there told 2 of my best friends and they, again were very supportive, asking loadsa questions. Then a mere 2 days ago on Fri nite I told another friend and she was happy and said, 'I don't mean this to sound horrible but I dont care, it's not an issue with me'. And here I am. The dreaded parental confession lies ahead of me and I'm so nervous. What I'm supposed to do or say i have no clue, my sister jus says tell them when you're ready. Which is about as much help as broken hair straighteners. But they must have some idea, well they havent asked yet. Note 'yet'...
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Date: 2004/09/27 00:43
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By: Benny
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Don't know why this posted 2wice. Oh well... Here's a picture of my eye...
Yup, I'm wearing coloured contacts. Why? Sheer vanity.
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Phew!
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Date: 2005/02/19 00:45
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By: Benny
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Yay!! Okay...OFFICIALLY out. Parentals, siblings, friends...my cats It's all...gravy... whatever that means. Phew, and what a goddam relief?! I don't what the whole build-up's been about, the parentals are great with everything; Dad almost started to cry, Mum kept saying, "Your still my son!! That's all that matters!" - I swear 'bawl-your-eyes-out' worthy! lol
Oh I'm so....like happy! *calms down* I feel lucky that I've had it good and I encourage everyone else. I know it seems like you're just hanging on for the right time but...I've just asked myself tonight, 'Will there ever be a 'right' time? Now was better than never. Go with your heart and trust your instincts, whatever kind of mixed up crap they're telling you
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out to sis & cousin/bff
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Date: 2005/07/22 18:27
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By: Freakishhh
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Hey guys, i posted a while ago with the subject "part coming out / part panic". I wanted to say that i finally was able to come out to the cousin i mentioned in that post. She took it so well. I am so proud to call her my best friend in the world!!! In my panic during the days leading up to telling her, i told my sister because she knew something big was up with me. She was very uncomfortable about it, but she took it alot better than I thought she would. Strangely, my republican-central cousin took it alot better than my own sister did. W/e.
So here's how it went down with my cousin:
I had been struggling with the decision to tell her for weeks because i assumed that things were going so badly for me all around and nothing else could possibly make me feel worse. I had nothing to lose so i started asking her "cat-on-the-roof" type questions online like "what do you think about gay people / gay marriage" and "do you know any gay people" and things like that. She responded rather well so I decided to say I had something big to tell her, but it had to be that weekend in person. So she came to my house and we were sitting together, alone, watching cartoons in the study. I told her I'd been thinking for hours how to start the convo, so she said just go ahead. I said something like "well, you know how there are straight people, and gay people...well..im not the straightest person out there, but i dont just like girls". I went on to explain that i was bi and she was very concerned that i looked like i was going to cry. I told her i was just scared but I was ok now that i knew she was ok with it. Because, truthfuly, if no one else accepted this about me but her, it would be ok by me as long as i have kirstie. all she said was "you know what this means, right?" and i was like "what?" so she smiles and says "well just have to go to college in Mass. now!" and we laughed and laughed and had a great time as usual!
-T0r!
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2005/07/28 04:30
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By: cubanpunk09
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well.....glad to hear all the disney stories but mines more like a paperback novel by tim eggeryton
well put it simple i told 3 very good friends , and all was good the first one took a while to get used to it, he was like are you sure? you always seemed well straight to em, the second never said anything, and the third thought it was a gift from heaven to have a friend that was even slightly gay (thank god) then somehow the topic came up at lunch and the stupid people constantly eavesdropping looking for gossip assumed I was gay and told eveyone (i'm not gay i am bi), from that point on i'm never alone in public i've had to get reinforced windows and fire is now my best friend (burning lots of letters so no one would ever read them)..as for my parents...well let's just say I haven't told them...they never bring it up but i think my mother is suspicious cuz whenever my best friend comes over (he's sixteen) she ALWAYS "reminds" me to get the extra bed out for him i wanna tell my mom very badly but i'm afraid of how she'll take it on herself, not on me, and how i should go about it, i will prbably wait till i am out on my own making a steady income on my own to tell her as far as school i have four years to go till college (maybe even three if i play my cards right) so it won't be TOO hard, it just sometimes you want someone there to touch and talk and just be with and i have yet to find that hereprobably never will in this small town
"the brave may not live forever, but the cautious do not live at all"
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2005/09/05 22:34
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By: dragonking
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Mines a Bit lengthy IT was orginally an english assignment!
ou hear lots of stories of people coming out of the closet, some more interesting then others. Though mine is one of the more dull ones it taught me a valuable lesson. For a while now all my friends had started to place an increasing amount of pressure on me to find a girl friend. Little did they know or suspect I had no intentions of going out with anyone from the opposite sex. I had no interest in the female sex. I had friends trying to set me up with people, people who I knew and people who I didn’t know. Though every time this happened I managed to weasel my way out with out revealing my most well kept secret. After a while I got to the point where keeping the secret was becoming more of a challenge everyday and so I decided it was time to come clean.
I wasn’t too sure on how to go about it though. Like should I come straight out, or shall I just tell a couple of people at a time, or could I tell someone and wait for them to tell everyone else so I could avoid the discomfort of telling every individual person myself. After coming to a final decision on the topic I waited for the perfect opportunity to bear my deepest secret. I decided it would be best to take it slow so first of all I would tell my best friend and only my best friend. After three unsuccessful tried I finally worked up the courage to tell him.
It was on a Friday afternoon one period before I had English my last class for the day. I was sitting in the music room and my Matthew was testing me on my knowledge of intervals. He was sitting in front of the small, badly tuned up right piano with a large smirk on his face knowing that he has found a way to get me to give a wrong answer. I was sitting at the table next to the piano diverting my eyes as so I would be unable to cheat and this already unfair contest. Badly distracted by me working out the best way to tell my best friend that I was gay severely diverted my attention away from working out the right answer. I sat for about twenty minutes playing along with his little game working up my courage. Finally I gathered up every last bit of courage I could scrounge. I could hear the words I was about to mutter in my head, goose bumps started to poke their head up from head to toe I after about ten seconds I was complete covered in them. A small sweat broke out. It got more uncontrollable as the moments leading up to the inevitable drew ever closer. My mouth dried up like a puddle in the Sahara desert. I couldn’t string two words together and then I froze. I completely froze in terror. I sat there in my paralyzed state for what would have been about five seconds however from my point of view it was like an eternity. Then through the small breaths I managed to catch I muttered “Hey man, I’m coming out of the closet… I am gay.”
Matt burst out into an uncontrolled laughter, dismissing the one action that scared me more then anything I had every seen or experienced in my whole life. Feeling open and vulnerable I tried telling him I was and it wasn’t a joke, but he kept dismissing everything I said. After that I gave up on trying to tell for the time being, he managed to get a hold of his laughter and bring it to a halt, then he span back around on the chair he was sitting on in order to continue his testing. The following Monday, I talked to Matthew again about the fact I was gay. This time I got the message through. Though it was odd I felt no fear, no discomfort and most of all no vulnerability. Slowly I told more people but only friends and close ones at that. Family and other people where still out of the question. I had neither the confidence nor self-esteem to tell them. However, I knew that one day I would have to confront them. Though by that time I had told more people and realized it got easier with each person I told. My confidence grew the one fear I held in the ordeal that I would be ridiculed and hated for my ways started to disappear as people only showed acceptance. The world I had seen in Books and T.V. shows where gays where hated and beaten had not existed here. Society was changing before my eyes and I had not noticed. This new view on the world boosted my confidence and allowed me to open the doors of my prisons with pride and ease. Since then I have told everyone close to me friends and family and have been giving nothing but total acceptance.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2005/09/10 21:05
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By: evil borg2
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Ok, here's my story.
My parents have always known, from what they found on the computer...  . I told my best friend, Amanda, at lunch one day, and I was amazed she took it so well, because she's Catholic. That was freshman year, and I didn't tell anyone else until a year and half. I was accepted to tams, and so I was leaving school anyway, so I just decided to tell everyone one day. (I'm a very spur-of-the-moment person) Most of them were cool, and those who weren't, I just forgot them. But since people took it so well at my old school, I decided to be open here, and I love it. I'm part of a gay group, with about 4 gay guys, 3 fag hags, and our very own fag stag. I love those terms. Sure there are people here who don't accept me, but they're part of a minority, and I don't need them anyway.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2005/09/22 00:04
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By: Wecker
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Heh, my story? Easy one there. I told one girl at school, who in turn told others, and before I knew it, it was all around school. Imagine that.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2005/10/02 15:00
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By: The Animal
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I came out to different people in different ways. Some people I came out to without even trying to.  This is my favorite accidental-coming-out story. And this was with my bestest friend of all time, who is very Catholic.
We were discussing on the phone this girl Kaitlyn, who spreads all these rumors about me, including one that I`m a lesbian, which I`m not; I`m bi.
Me: ...and she STILL thinks I`m a lesbain.
Kathryn: HOW old is that rumor?
Me: About 2 or 3 years. She can`t let it go. I mean, HELLO. There`s a difference between a lesbian and what I am! (Thinking: Oops.)
Kathryn: I know.
Me:  You...know what I`m talking about?
Kathryn: Yeah.
Me: O.O (Thinking: Oh, dear.) And...you`re okay with it?
Kathryn: Why wouldn`t I be?
Me: (Too shocked to say anything else)
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Date: 2005/10/02 19:58
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By: zombified
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All my life my mom had hinted at the question. Well i had a girle frien for two years and one day just couldn't take living a lie anymore. I broke up with her but wouldn't tell her why. I thought me being gay would hurt her way more than just a break up. Well i eventually told her and we have been the best of friends since. Actually we have gotten alot closer as friends because of it. After our break up we still hung out and my mom couldn't undertsand how we were such good friends after we broke up. Of course she knew why but just needed me to tell her. One day after coming back from the store she locked me in her car and asked the question. She said" I don't understand how you can be such good friends with ****** after you broke up with her". I told her it was easy because we had a mutual understanding of eachother. Then she said" I need to know are you gay if so i still love you if not i still love you". Thats when i burst into tears and said yes. Ever since that day the realationship i have with my mom is a million times better than before. We openly talk about my life and i don't have to filter any of it for her, acctually i try but she wants to know it all. The greatest thing is that she will never judge me and i allways have someone to talk to.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2005/10/03 09:54
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By: Trulymauri
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Erm, forewaring mine can be abit depressing. When I fiirst came out it was to one of my best friends ashley, because, well she wanted to go out with me. BUt soon after that someone got ahold of one of our notes, and began black mailing me to the point were i got so despret to avoid them that i came out to everyone. After nearly everyone regarded me as if i had the plague, even some of my closets friends, I spent alot of time crying. After a while thing s got better and i thought it would be alright, but in a fight with my mother i did the stupids thing, i told her just to shut her up, which to a larger whirlwind. She threw everything she could after me till i was tired from running and dogging that i couldn't stop her from destroying my bedroom. When she was done she asked why i had made such a huge mess, and that I should clean up right away.
After that things have never been the same, she says she's forgiven me, but when ever I do something she's deemed 'gay' she goes into a speech on how we're all hell bound pigs. Well thats my story, and sadly there won't be a happy ending, at least not for 2 more years when i can move out.
 *feels like crying again*
The proud to be origanaly me, Mauri C!
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2005/10/03 09:54
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By: Trulymauri
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Erm, forewaring mine can be abit depressing. When I fiirst came out it was to one of my best friends ashley, because, well she wanted to go out with me. BUt soon after that someone got ahold of one of our notes, and began black mailing me to the point were i got so despret to avoid them that i came out to everyone. After nearly everyone regarded me as if i had the plague, even some of my closets friends, I spent alot of time crying. After a while thing s got better and i thought it would be alright, but in a fight with my mother i did the stupids thing, i told her just to shut her up, which to a larger whirlwind. She threw everything she could after me till i was tired from running and dogging that i couldn't stop her from destroying my bedroom. When she was done she asked why i had made such a huge mess, and that I should clean up right away.
After that things have never been the same, she says she's forgiven me, but when ever I do something she's deemed 'gay' she goes into a speech on how we're all hell bound pigs. Well thats my story, and sadly there won't be a happy ending, at least not for 2 more years when i can move out.
*feels like crying again*
The proud to be origanaly me, Mauri C!
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Date: 2005/10/30 17:19
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By: bjoernclausen
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OK, here's my story:
Well, I knew I was gay from around 11... Just knew, you kinda know what I mean... But I first came out at a scout's meeting when I was... 15... Which is a bit more than 1½ year ago.
So, at the meeting, I was sitting in a group of girls, all my friends, and we joke around about things and stuff.. Can't remember quite in which relation it was, but it came to a point where I said "Oh yeah, and I'm gay". And even though we had been kidding around, the others could tell, I was telling the truth...
And of course the first thing that happened, was trying to figure out who from my class I liked. My best friend was in the group, and she mentioned all the boys' names one after another, and when she hit the correct name, she could tell from my face that it was it!! (And I do not believe I changed my face at all!!!)
Anyways, after that night I just kinda began coming out to everyone else. When on MSN the same evening, I told one of my classmates and told him to spread the word, and the next day in class, I told all of them in a lesson. That gave them the opportunity to ask all the questions they wanted to, and I never regretted to do it that way, cus it kinda avoided rumour-spreading...
So last thing: My parents... I was out to my Dad first... We were watching a television program on Drag Queens and my Dad made some negative comment on the gay society in general, and I said to him, "So you despise what your son is?" and I just walked out of the room quietly, leaving him to think of what I said, lol... He never really commented on it, but I guess he's OK with it.. He was completely fine about my boyfriend and all, so it's all good.
And now: My mum (as my parents are divorced). It was at a restaurant about a month after telling my Dad.. I was with her and her then boyfriend, so we were having a good time and all, I though I'd tell her. And then I did. At first she didn't believe me, 'cus I hadn't been with someone at that point (or well, I wasn't telling her, lol), but after a while, I told her that I was serious, and she believes me now. She pretends she's positive about it all, and I really really apreciate that, but I can tell from her voice when she asks about my boyfriend and all, that she just pretends to be positive on it. She's not negative at all, but she definitely doesn't apreciate that I'm gay. Although, I really love her for respecting it, cus that shows that she cares about me.
So I guess that's all for the coming out-thing! For those of you who actually read this far - any comments? 
- Bjørn...
If you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and then make that change.
Michael Jackson - Man In The Mirror
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Date: 2006/01/09 23:21
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By: Jayjay234
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when i came out to my best friend of four years (each of which i had been completely, head over heals in love with him), he kept saying, "u swear on our friendship, and on my life that u r gay" and stuff like that because he didnt believe me, and i almost started crying, and just kept saying i was sorry for not telling him, cause we have slept in the same bed before, and things like that, and he is all about being honest all the time(but i never once tried anything on him), and then he said, "Don't u ever say sorry for being gay, if that is the way u r, never let anyone make u feel bad, and i will love u no matter what!" i couldn't imagine a better way to have someone react.
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2006/05/27 04:34
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By: Coo_Coo_Kawaii
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Ive told 6 friends, four of them were wierded out for a day and then okay the next. One of them didn't really care at all and said I was still the same person. The sixth one was probably the funniest. He didn't know what bi meant (he thought I liked animals and stuff like that) and my friend who was helping me was more nervous than I was. All of the 6 friends I've told ar okay about it now and things are getting better but I wanna tell my mum and dad but don't know how. Aaargh!
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Re:Got a coming out story to tell?
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Date: 2006/07/08 02:01
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By: the biggun
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hyaz just thought about tellin y'all bout me coming out . i havnt told my parents yet but i told my best friends(theyre all girls)!they were all angry at me caus wiv some other guy i pertended to like straight porn! and they hate porn !so on a skull trip on a canal boat i was wiv them they were alll bein mean u no puttin in sarci comments and soon i had all ready tried to tell dem i was prtrndin but dey diddnt believe me but i finally craked i sat emily down and said i wasnt lookin at porn and i'll tell ya the real reason y! people started runnin past so i rote it down "i dont ancie girls" to which i walked of the next day sas said ep had told her and wasnt shore if i ment i was gay or not i said i was gay sas just went really!next was anna hu smiled and hugged me to death! so i went 2 bed feelin quite gud but wen i woke up sas and ep started askin me personalquestion and kept wisperin 4 awhile but i kinda left dem alone 4 awhile and theve gotused 2 it! its so much betta now but im not tellin my parents!
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Date: 2006/08/31 04:49
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By: Cute Bi Guy
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Well, where to start? I realized that i was Bisexual in the 8th grade, or atleast thats when i started to accept it. I guess that i've always known subconciously. But anyways, i had no problem telling friends at all. I knew that i picked good friends bc they all accepted me.
Now, to the parents.  Well, i didn't particuarly come out intentionally. Basically, my aunt (being the sneaky bitch she is) found my myspace and saw that i put that as my orientation. Then she picked me up from my friends and pulled the car over in some vacant parking lot and started crying. Making ridiculous comments and such, and I was getting madder and madder. She did not handle it good at all. Honestly, if i wasn't stoned out of my mind, i would have slapped her and left. But i didnt so, yeah. Long story short, i just told her that i was full out gay just to get it through her head that i liked boys, because to be truthful, i like them more than i like girls. She of course passed this iformation to my gparents.
(i live with my grandparents)My gma said that she'd love me no matter what, and my gpa is totally cool with it too although he thinks that "i shouldnt give up on women until i had one." So yeah, theyre pretty accepting, however they are still in denial of it all.
So yeah, Thats my little story. Not a pleasant one to go through (i didnt come home for a day and a half at the time) but i think that it was well worth it.
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