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I need someone
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Date: 2008/05/04 09:07
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By: skidaddle
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well chatting online is one thing but getting to know someone/going out with someone/ to love someone is different
i know im not good looking, i never have been, i recently lost a lot of weight (which i wanted to do before but never could) after an operation and this gave me confidence that i never had,
but my problem is that no-one near where i live is gay, no one except for my family know i am gay,(if people other than my family knew i dont know how they would treat me) i didnt have a very good school life so friends i had, i no longer have contact with them , when my mum and dad go out to work, and i am on my own, that is it I AM ON MY OWN, and everything is starting to get to me, what im saying is, i need someone there for me someone who i can love and who feels the same way for me
but how ??
Adam
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Post edited by: skidaddle, at: 2008/05/04 10:05
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Re:I need someone
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Date: 2008/05/05 10:13
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By: k_owen
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We never look good enough until we learn to feel confident with who we are. I myself took a lot of time to learn something as simple as that. I lost weight, changed my style and looks over and over again, until in time I learned that it’s ok to be ourselves, cause if we are not loved for who we are, than how can we enjoy true love. It is when we stop trying to be someone else that we can be beautiful in our own particular ways. I’m very glad for you that you gained confidence, and you definitely should be confident about yourself.
I do know what it feels to be alone, but in a way loneliness is a choice, a choice we can all decide not to choose by having true friends. You might have lost contact with your previous friends, but it doesn’t mean that you won’t make new friends. Check out any groups in your area where you think there might be nice people worth knowing and just hang out. We meet loads of different people in time, some of them we’ll forget the following day, while others stay to leave their footprints in our life. You’re right in saying that the internet is very limiting, but it’s an easy way to meet people. Having profiles on sites like The GYC is a big plus, cause not only it allows you to meet new people (hopefully near you) but the users are gay as well. Although right now you can’t find gay people from your area, you might want to just put your profile on all the sites you may want to use and leave all the possible tracks for any guys who are in the closet to find you when they decide to look. The more people you get to know, the more chances you have of having your Mr. Right bumping into your life.
You will have someone to love, cause good things do happen in life, but they happen in time, and sometimes we do have to give time to time. What comes easily, we loose as easily, so we keep ourselves ready for what is worth waiting for and learn to make the most out of what we have.
No matter how unfair the present is, things may always feel better tomorrow and it can keep getting better day after day. Keep meeting new people, keep making friends, keep holding to your loved ones, and when there’s no one else around remember that you’re still not alone cause you can always spend time with yourself. We all need some time with ourselves to do whatever pleases us and maybe work on ourselves to always get better, cause the reason to keep holding on is to be found inside of us.
i hope i've been of any help 
love,
Keith
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