Ok this is driving me up a wall right now. So me and my friends are getting into an argument. They think that it's your choice to be gay or straight and well I'm more than positive that it's not. So can I have some opinions on this or some web site to back up my thought because thats the only way they will believe me. Thanks so much people!!!! MYSPACE myspace.com/metalhead416 AIM Gamepr0140 "Just hold my hand I'll take you there Your pain will go away" DEMONS & WIZARDS, Fiddler On The Green
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Re:Born or Choice
Date: 2008/04/26 08:08
By: titojtd
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For me at least, it was definitely not a choice. I think that it's at least genetic in origin. "Try not. Do or do not, there is no try."
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Re:Born or Choice
Date: 2008/04/26 19:30
By: MarcusCicero
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I think homosexuality is either present before birth or develops very early in life. I get upset whenever I hear it's a "choice."
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Re:Born or Choice
Date: 2008/04/29 17:16
By: a_dumple
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Yeah...for me it definitely wasn't a choice. You can't choose to whom you'll be attracted just like you can't choose whether or not you'll like cake. I like cake, but I was never like "I'm gonna start liking cake now".
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Re:Born or Choice
Date: 2008/04/30 02:16
By: connorflynn
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I think it depends on what you class as being gay, perhaps being attracted to boys is something you're born with, but actually dating/having relationships/sex with boys is a choice. So if finding males attractive makes you homosexual, then I think its a born thing, if you think that living a 'gay lifestyle' is what makes you homosexual, then I think its a choice.
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Re:Born or Choice
Date: 2008/05/16 11:43
By: Sk8rBoi
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Having people around me who seem to fool themselves thinking that being gay is a choice, it gets to me. Because to be honest I don't think anyone would choose to live a life first in secrecy then in ridicule and embarassment (that is on the part of families and the others). I agree with the some of those that say that its probably genetic or from early life. I ended up snogging one of my best friends when I was 6 or so and "gay" never ever came up so... InexplicablyTheCutest
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Re:Born or Choice
Date: 2008/05/16 12:44
By: canadianlifestyle
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For me at least, it was definitely not a choice. I think that it's at least genetic in origin.
ditto!
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Re:Born or Choice
Date: 2008/05/17 14:57
By: Skibobby
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I diddnt choose to be attarcted to guys if thats what u mean. i reckon its generic, and thats why in the news recently its cropped up and evangelicals are being forced to change their views as as they say genes are god given so.
Yeh, i was born with it
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Re:Born or Choice
Date: 2008/05/21 02:32
By: nath_aus
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haha, ur all gunna hate me for this but.. i dont think ur born with it. i agree with the perons who said ur attraction is involuntary, but ur actions in relation to ur feelings are total choice. i think its also the environment ur brought up in and ur personality. i mean im CHOOSING to accept the attraction to both sexes and say im bi, but that because my peronsality is telling me that i am who i am and my parents have always said be urself.... even if my dad is a massive homophobe lol
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Re:Born or Choice
Date: 2008/05/21 11:29
By: meisinscotland
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MarcusCicero wrote: I think homosexuality is either present before birth or develops very early in life. I get upset whenever I hear it's a "choice."
^ ^ ^ ^Agreed,
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Re:Born or Choice
Date: 2008/05/21 11:30
By: meisinscotland
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nath_aus wrote: haha, ur all gunna hate me for this but.. i dont think ur born with it. i agree with the perons who said ur attraction is involuntary, but ur actions in relation to ur feelings are total choice. i think its also the environment ur brought up in and ur personality. i mean im CHOOSING to accept the attraction to both sexes and say im bi, but that because my peronsality is telling me that i am who i am and my parents have always said be urself.... even if my dad is a massive homophobe lol
Well said.
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Re:Born or Choice
Date: 2008/05/21 13:56
By: nutritionfacts
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I'm not sure if you are necessarily born with it, but I do know, at least in my case, that it was not a choice.
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Re:Born or Choice
Date: 2008/05/23 15:36
By: iGabe
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I guess for a lot of people, it was never a choice. And I do get flustered when people think it is. Carrying out homosexual acts is debatable as a "choice," or at least we should define what that means. If you want to dress up like a flower and parade down the street, that's totally fine. But if you want a relationship of trust and love, then we all have the same 'options' as heterosexual people.
I think the Nature/Nurture debate should be explored more, because both hold little water in arguments, but it's the only two we really have to flock to. I think everyone can connect the dots throughout their life to attribute their homosexuality.
