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Re:problems with PDA (Public Displays of Affection)
Date: 2006/09/21 13:00	By: boerseun	Status:

As I page through all the pages on this site I notice that many gay guys have a problem with “closet cases”. And I am sorry for generelising, but I have noticed it from my gay friends as well.

I am not a closet case, well not exactly…

Let me say it this way: I don’t have a problem with being gay, but I don’t feel the need to “Out” myself at this stage of my life.

Yes, I am attracted to guys and no, girls have never crossed my mind, well not sexually. But if people ask me if I am gay or bi I say: “I am André.” Why do I have to put myself in a category?

So, why do I have to come out of the closet? I told my mother that I am attracted to men, but that’s where it ended. I go to gay clubs, but there are too many guys there who just want to fool around, so I just go to party.

If I was straight I would not go around advertising it, would I?! Why do I have to jump out of a closet and proclaim to the world that I like men?! Why can’t I just be? Be whatever. Be André.

My gay friends do not believe me anyway when I say I like boys; they say I am too straight. How can I be too straight?!?!

Because I don’t know who designed my shoes?!
I like watching Rugby, soaps are pathetic; I love having a braai instead of a French salad; I don’t use body cream and I don’t shave (or wax) my body hair. I shave with a electric and I don’t cleanse and tone; I don’t wear make-up, unless I have to when I am on set (film). I have never thought about how I would look in my mother’s dress and I don’t take hours to decide what shirt to wear. And I take pride in the fact that I am a old-fashioned gentleman. I will open the car door for you, whether you like it or not. And I will call you to ask you what you are thinking at that exact moment. I want to be the first thing on your mind when you wake up and the last thing you think about before you go to sleep. I am a man.

I am a hopeless romantic, I get hurt over and over, because I fall in love to easily, but I don’t care, its part of life. I will stand up and try again. I don’t like watching Romantic Comedies, because I study film-making and they are all so predictable; but I like holding someone while they watch it.

Why do gay guys (again: sorry for generalising) want me to be different?! I have not introduced one of my boyfriends to my family. Not because I am not a family man and not because I am ashamed. My family is my life, so when someone comes along that appreciates and loves me for who I am, the chances are good that I will introduce him to them. But why do I have to tell my family if no boy (of the 2 semi-serious relationships I’ve been in) has sticked with me long enough to give love a chance?! It only makes sense to introduce them to someone who is important to me and that I am important to. If my mother sees that the guy I am with adores me and doesn’t want to stop kissing me she will be happy – I know it.

So, in the meanwhile I will go on searching, without wearing a D&G belt. Is that so bad?

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