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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/11 13:03
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By: FREE_NEO
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well for me all i realy care about is personality in a friend but in a GF its that plus looks I dont have a problem making friends when I chouse to but as far as GF I am perpared to whate my hole life to get the perfict one. Rather than settle. As far as looks fading thats only partaily true if you start from around the beginning of puberty and take care of your looks you well have littel problem keeping them, lothans, soaps, diet and exresize. If somthing drastic happens you can repare it with surgrys though you well never look 100% the same but you well be good enough. I'm a Traqnsexual so I have done lodes of research on this.
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/11 17:59
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By: BavarianMW392
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I definatly think that both looks and personality come into play somehow.
Looks should come in at the start. It should shock you, amazing you. Make you stop. It should be music to your eyes, you should want to look more and more. When your eyes are done going crazy, you should dig deeper for their personality. If errors occur here, you definatly know things will not work.
SO basically, personality over-rules looks.
Personality over-rules because even though you may not be attrated to someone visually, their personality can definatly steal your attention. By relating to them, your eyes are not captures but your heart is. =)
With your hearts feeling, you instantly forget everything in front of you and the "this is my soul mate" takes in its faithful place. =)
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/12 08:29
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By: Boku
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If a relationship is a loaf of bread, looks are the yeast which helps things stay together, personality is the flour without which there is no bread!
Gosh, I am such a poet.
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/12 18:29
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By: dragon_14
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To put a new spin on this, I want to ask how important looks are to people, obviously everyone has some want of a combination between both looks and personality, and some of you have expressed it very well. But when if ever can having looks make personality irrelevant or the other way around?
Science has made us gods even before we are worthy of being men.
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/16 04:14
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By: brazilian_boi
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hmmm... thats a pretty good observation... at some point we all look for what is considered good looks in society and I would be a hypocrite to say that I dont but lets be realistic... doesnt everyone? I know so many that say that personality is more important than looks but even those people have rejected an invitation to go out with someone who isnt very good looking.
To be honest, on my part... in order for me to look at someone twice they have to be cute... according to my standards... and trust me... my standards of cute are different of what cute generally is... even my friends say that some people I like arent cute... but to me they are, so I guess it depends on the person. But yeah I guess people have to be cute for me to even bother getting to know their personalities.
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/16 12:50
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By: LostChaos
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for me, its about how he makes me feel. that usually means he has a good heart and that of course can mean he has a good personality. looks are nice, but if you cant hold a conversation then whats the point? thats my take on this.
id have to say that both looks and personality can override the other, depending on who you are.
Post edited by: LostChaos, at: 2007/04/16 12:56
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/17 20:06
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By: brazilian_boi
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well... i dont think either one makes the other one irrelevant... we all look for a combination of both... but like i said before... in order for me to get to know someone's personality... first they have to be cute at some degree... because you wont be attracted to someone's personality when you havent even gotten to know that person... but looks are what makes you approach a person to get to know their personality.
Now if we are talking about what's more important when you already know someone, then I will say personality 100%. I know some hot people that are jack asses... trust me... i already dumped a couple lol... but yeah 100% personality (remember this is given the fact that I already know the person, and for me to have even bothered to get to know them, they have to be cute)
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/17 20:07
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By: brazilian_boi
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well... i dont think either one makes the other one irrelevant... we all look for a combination of both... but like i said before... in order for me to get to know someone's personality... first they have to be cute at some degree... because you wont be attracted to someone's personality when you havent even gotten to know that person... but looks are what makes you approach a person to get to know their personality.
Now if we are talking about what's more important when you already know someone, then I will say personality 100%. I know some hot people that are jack asses... trust me... i already dumped a couple lol... but yeah 100% personality (remember this is given the fact that I already know the person, and for me to have even bothered to get to know them, they have to be cute)
Get my point?
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/17 20:07
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By: brazilian_boi
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well... i dont think either one makes the other one irrelevant... we all look for a combination of both... but like i said before... in order for me to get to know someone's personality... first they have to be cute at some degree... because you wont be attracted to someone's personality when you havent even gotten to know that person... but looks are what makes you approach a person to get to know their personality.
Now if we are talking about what's more important when you already know someone, then I will say personality 100%. I know some hot people that are jack asses... trust me... i already dumped a couple lol... but yeah 100% personality (remember this is given the fact that I already know the person, and for me to have even bothered to get to know them, they have to be cute)
Get my point?
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/18 09:34
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By: dragon_14
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brazilian_boi wrote:
in order for me to get to know someone's personality... first they have to be cute at some degree... because you wont be attracted to someone's personality when you havent even gotten to know that person
I both agree and disagree with this statement. I agree you don't walk up to a random straner that you do not find attractive an say "Hi, I think you have a good personality, let's see if I'm right." But there are case that you get to know a person's personality knowing they are not what you originally thought to be attractive, and you find them more attractive due to that; I will gve examples of a work relationship, or meeing through friends where the original intent is not a sexual or romantic relationship.
LoatChaos wrote:
id have to say that both looks and personality can override the other, depending on who you are.
I agree that this is the case, sometimes it is for the better, sometimes it is not.
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/21 22:52
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By: irrefragable22
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I think that the look is the thing that draws one's sensual attention to another, the thing that causes that uncontrollable tingle in your stomach... however, I think that if one is to engage in a meaningful relationship, the looks (or tangible attributes, as you say) become not nearly as important as the spiritual/emotional characteristics.
I would be hypocritical to deny that I place importance upon physical attractiveness. But how far is such satisfactory for a good, and meaningful friendship/relationship? In this regard, a balance of a good mind and a good body does it for me...
Another thing with regards to attractiveness; for me, good looks are good, but something that really sticks with me is charisma. Say, for example, you have a person who is not particularly 'good-looking' however, that person is sharp, witty, and has a healthy and engaging mind, that, in my opinion, can mean so much more than a good-looking, but dry and cold person.
Does that make any sense? 
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/21 23:03
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By: irrefragable22
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I think that BavarianMW392 hit the nail on the head quite appropriately there.
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/22 03:43
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By: CookieManRyan
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LOOKS
Because
I have the power to change personality 
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/04/25 09:49
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By: dragon_14
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CookieManRyan wrote:
LOOKS
Because
I have the power to change personality
I'm not entirely sure people can completely change their personality and not their looks. I was thinking that you can change your looks due to plastic surgery and working out etc. that does change how you look.
Changing personality can seem to be hard though, we get so caught up in a specific type of action that it does not just stop point-blank. Think of it as changing a habit of smoking, if you'v eever had to do that you know it is not that simple.
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/05/07 01:33
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By: blondeboy
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Its quite ironic that a site like this coudl have such a debate. Looks are not important in my book. I used to find sum girls ugly, den wen i got 2 know them i began fancying them, dat was down to personality! However i beleive that the gay community is mcuh more accustomed to "hot" peopel and it as a community is extremely different to a hetrosexual community. People go out nowadays lookin 4 hot guys.
First impressions, well u dnt tlk 2 sum1 wid out seeind em unless ur on somamt like ehre. so the idea of looks nt countin 4 much, isnt reali true. Becuz on here unless u have a picture and ur equally as hot as da guy in da "entrance lobby" main discussion den no1 really talks 2 u.
I agree dat "uglieness" can affect a personality. which i think is very wrong. People shouldnt Judge but they do. ITs da society we all live in, i believe freindship is the best way tos tart a relationship that way u can see their full blown persoanlity in bloom or if its tn so good withering. That way u can like sum1 and not reali know y and it wud probably last a lil onger to.
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/05/07 15:21
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By: danie_girl
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Looks don't matter in my book. I want someone who wants me most of all. I want someone who understands me, you I can love, who can love me, who I understand, who is a good person, and so much more. I do want someone I am attracted to, but if I found a person who had all the above qualities I would color myself lucky for the rest of my life, even if they weren't good looking. I find brains and pesonality so much sexier then any kind of physicla characteristic.
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2007/05/07 19:28
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By: Trentoness
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I try to look for both, but i mostly fall inlove with whats inside. Its not always whats on the outside, but i still have to be attracted to them, not saying that they have to be hot. Iv dated some not so hot ppl, but they where hot to me and i loved them
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Date: 2008/05/24 08:49
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By: Avatho
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I also try to go for both, but most of the time it starts off with the looks and then developes into personality. There has only been one exception to that, but he was straight  so it doesn't matter. Now I just focus on anyone who's caring and honest with me (personality). Looks are always a bonus
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2008/05/25 17:01
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By: dragon_14
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yay for old threads
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Re:looks or personality?
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Date: 2008/05/25 18:27
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By: samh004
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It seems there were a few questions throughout this thread. So not knowing which to answer, I'll just make a few comments on the general theme.
I find myself going more for personality these days, I've never had a problem with dating someone that's not a hunk, and I'm not particularly interested in muscles anyway. Sure, I can see a really hot guy and immediately wonder and want and lust, but I know that I probably wont get that lucky, and I needn't be that lucky either, as I know loads of guys that have amazing personalities.
Perhaps one of the advantages to meeting people online is that I get to know their mind first, explore who they really are before I see a photo, or before I meet them and discover the photo was taken 5 years ago and they don't look like that anymore
Personality is more important.
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