Being a homosexual is hard for me. I do watch my parents like a hawk, looking for any evidence that they may be homophobic or judgemental about gay people.
I have seen my mother stare at a gay couple adding a comment to my father. Watching tv showing a homosexual couple in love, the look on my parents face is a digusted, horror look with hands to eyes to cover...
This has made me feel uncomfortable, depressed, and not relaxed. After seeing how my parents treat gay people, makes me treat my parents how they treat gay people in a disrespectable way.
They always wondered why i give them a hard time, it hurts me to see them hurt and also they hurt me to see their feelings on homosexuals as disgusting.
I always wonder how i would confront my parents about myself. And to think whether they would accept me, think different towards me as in push me away from them or still love me as the same child as I have been all their life.
But to say, Im proud to be a lesbian. My task is to confront my parents some day about myself when the time.
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21-09-2009 21:40
hay ya i was the same with my step mum and day we all went to church when i found out and i know how you treated them i did the same you can email me at
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15-07-2009 14:45
16-06-2009 23:54
i havent tol my parents of my sexuality because i am confused and afraid of what they may think ofme 
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24-04-2009 11:54
My dad's convinced that you can't be gay until you're 18, so I'm going to tell him on my 18th birthday. I reckon he'll be ok with it even though he's a part time preacher at our local church. My mum is a whole other story. She thinks it's a mental disorder, and feels sorry for gay people. She thinks there should be drugs for it like there is for autism and depression.
I guess I don't really mind them knowing, I just don't want to have to tell them. Also, I don't want my sisters or my brother to know, because they are all very homophobic, especially my little sister who is just like my mum.
I've always watched my family during tv programmes, but I'm rubbish at reading body language so I don't know why I bother.
I guess I don't really mind them knowing, I just don't want to have to tell them. Also, I don't want my sisters or my brother to know, because they are all very homophobic, especially my little sister who is just like my mum.
I've always watched my family during tv programmes, but I'm rubbish at reading body language so I don't know why I bother.
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21-04-2009 23:55
omg i do that too. my parents do the same thing but i dont think they really recognize my sexuality despite the fact i told them 2 yrs ago (i think they forgot). i actually ended up telling my parents i was bi unintentionally. i was crying in my room because i girl i liked and had been friends with just stopped talking to me. my mom was trying to figure out what was wrong and instead of lying and faking a random panic attack or something i came out. the next couple of days were so INCREDIBLY awkward and im pretty sure they thought something was wrong with me but now i at least feel better i told my family even if they prolly didnt take it seriously.
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20-04-2009 20:01
Hey there Laura!
i was reading your article and i think we have alot in common!
i am 16 years old and i also live in Australia and are going throught the same thing as you. My parents also dont support Gay relationships and often make comments when there is something on tv that puts the topic out there.
Everyday i try and look for reactions from my parents when we come across something to do with LGBT, and the reactions i seem to get from them are not good.
I have three brothers and they all think the same thing, as you can tell i havent 'come out' yet and i havent been able to tell my friends either from fear of being rejected and/or humiliated so i havent said anything but often raise the issue at times.
This leaves me no one to talk to about what is going on so it was good to here there is another in the same situation as me.
If you would like to contact me then i would be happy to talk to you!
Katie
i was reading your article and i think we have alot in common!
i am 16 years old and i also live in Australia and are going throught the same thing as you. My parents also dont support Gay relationships and often make comments when there is something on tv that puts the topic out there.
Everyday i try and look for reactions from my parents when we come across something to do with LGBT, and the reactions i seem to get from them are not good.
I have three brothers and they all think the same thing, as you can tell i havent 'come out' yet and i havent been able to tell my friends either from fear of being rejected and/or humiliated so i havent said anything but often raise the issue at times.
This leaves me no one to talk to about what is going on so it was good to here there is another in the same situation as me.
If you would like to contact me then i would be happy to talk to you!
Katie
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19-04-2009 10:04
When I told my mother I was gay, she told me my soul would burn in hell. Way to go for an eye opener. Haha.
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19-03-2009 09:54
OK UM ........ lke i really want to tell my parents im gay, but they re ike really hard core christians and really into the church and stuff, and really old fashion, they think its still 1951 lol, but all those things make it much harder on me .... i mean all my friends at school know, and i don't get picked on, except by the jocks but i just can not tell my parents. It would hurt them too much. And I know they wouldn't accept me ...... Ive decided to wait till im 18 and I move out
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11-03-2009 06:27
my god... well i thnk my father knows. he caught me watching porn 
. sure he got mad at me. but for watching porn. he did not say anything about me watching GAY porn. and he still loves me ALOT.
im sure my bro is not "straight as an arrow". i was very young and he was the first one i saw opening a website which had a pic of a naked man on top. but i didnt notice the addrsss.
my sis probably knows but i cant say bcause she is always cool with me.
but i m worried bout my mom. i dont think she even knows wat gay is?
. sure he got mad at me. but for watching porn. he did not say anything about me watching GAY porn. and he still loves me ALOT. im sure my bro is not "straight as an arrow". i was very young and he was the first one i saw opening a website which had a pic of a naked man on top. but i didnt notice the addrsss.
my sis probably knows but i cant say bcause she is always cool with me.
but i m worried bout my mom. i dont think she even knows wat gay is?
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05-03-2009 12:12
17-02-2009 09:59
how i came out to my parents wouldnt be what you call the most practicle way.
i was really depressed one day feeling that i was gonna explode if i didnt tell at least some1 i was gay. so i stole $200 from my parents safe and jumped on a flight to sydney (not that easy i had to wait 5 hours until i could find a flight i could afford).
the reason i went there was because my uncle was gay and i new he could understand. when i got there i talked to my uncle for hours. i go there at like 6 at nite and talked with him until it was sunrise.
the entire time i was there though i realised what a big mostake it was. i like hanging out with my uncle but i just wanted to be home with my parents and talk to them.
as soon as i got home i came out to my parents and my sisters and they were incredibly supportive (i do have three gay uncles and a lesbian aunty so they were pretty accustomed to it). ive never looked bak and i want to come out to my friends but i feel that i should wait till im 18 and finish school till i come out. schools are a brutal place for a queer!!
i was really depressed one day feeling that i was gonna explode if i didnt tell at least some1 i was gay. so i stole $200 from my parents safe and jumped on a flight to sydney (not that easy i had to wait 5 hours until i could find a flight i could afford).
the reason i went there was because my uncle was gay and i new he could understand. when i got there i talked to my uncle for hours. i go there at like 6 at nite and talked with him until it was sunrise.
the entire time i was there though i realised what a big mostake it was. i like hanging out with my uncle but i just wanted to be home with my parents and talk to them.
as soon as i got home i came out to my parents and my sisters and they were incredibly supportive (i do have three gay uncles and a lesbian aunty so they were pretty accustomed to it). ive never looked bak and i want to come out to my friends but i feel that i should wait till im 18 and finish school till i come out. schools are a brutal place for a queer!!
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07-02-2009 04:33
My parents don't really accept homosexuals, and I don't think I would come out to them anytime soon... 
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31-01-2009 01:12
i would just come right out to them if you ask me it would be a shock of reality to them so yah i think thats what i would do
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28-01-2009 02:45
My father promised to kill me if I was gay... now I'm an emotion wreck and angry at myself because I know I'm better than this... I accept myself.. why can't my father? I'm glad to say, though, I don't live anywhere near him anymore.
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14-01-2009 18:08
I am really scaed of ocming out to my parents. when ever a gay couple come on tv and kiss or even hug my mum flinches a little but my dad gets up and says " god that's discusting! cant understand 'THEM' at all" and goes to get a drink. it really hurts me inside and i done know what to do help....?
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14-01-2009 02:01
It might be hard and i don't blame you. When i told my mom i was bi it hurted me. She yelled at me and called me names and made me cry . And i will never forget what she said to me... " i will never raise a fagot in house, you can live with your father"... it hurted but i guess she is over the fact i am what i am and she has to get over the fact i am, just like your parents have 2. they may not like that fact that us in the world are bi, gay, transexual or w.e but they would rather be with us then see us leaving them because they will feel that guilt for making us stop talking to them. no matter what they will always love you. they may not show it but they will accpet that you are. 
. And i will never forget what she said to me... " i will never raise a fagot in house, you can live with your father"... it hurted but i guess she is over the fact i am what i am and she has to get over the fact i am, just like your parents have 2. they may not like that fact that us in the world are bi, gay, transexual or w.e but they would rather be with us then see us leaving them because they will feel that guilt for making us stop talking to them. no matter what they will always love you. they may not show it but they will accpet that you are. Registered
13-12-2008 14:30
All I can say is, be yourself, if your parents are decent human beings then they will love the same way as they always have. If they can\'t accept you for who you are then they are very bad parents. Luv ya xx
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06-12-2008 21:11
My parents forced it out of me that i was gay after finding out about me having a boyfriend. They were fine with the gay thing, just annoyed that I have hidden it and lied to them for so long. You should tell them, and if they take it the wrong way, to be honest they aren't good parents. They should love you for who you are, after all, you are their daughter. Good luck xo
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11-09-2008 22:56
13-08-2008 22:44
Im terrified of coming out :/
My mum and my dad are reallly homophobic! ='(
i always see my dad take the mess out of gay people on TV and in town and things, he always says things like "look at that bunch of puffters" and uses words like faggot :/
my mum thinks im gay anyway and she says shes fine with it, but ive seen looks she gives to gay couples and the constant evils she gives to my gay friend :/
so i dont know i dont think ill ever come out because ill let my dad down
My mum and my dad are reallly homophobic! ='(
i always see my dad take the mess out of gay people on TV and in town and things, he always says things like "look at that bunch of puffters" and uses words like faggot :/
my mum thinks im gay anyway and she says shes fine with it, but ive seen looks she gives to gay couples and the constant evils she gives to my gay friend :/
so i dont know i dont think ill ever come out because ill let my dad down
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16-07-2008 16:06
This is for all who are afraid to tell their parents. You know If your parents really loved you then they wouldnt judge you or look down upon you. They would accept you. But dont be affraid to be who you are. Its how you were made to be and you should be that person. I told my mum around february and she is fine with it. Even though my father cried when i told him the night i stayed with him he still loves me. But dont be afraid to tell anyone your gay. Im an open guy. I love who i am. And someone very close to me once told me. Be comfortable in your own skin because your not going to be happy or get anyone without being comfortable in your own skin. Who cares what people say about you if you tell everyone your gay. Half the kids at my school Mainly jocks hate me because their affraid of something new and different. I have learned top accept that because people are entitled to their oppinions. But just dont be afraid to be you. Thats what your on earth for is just to be you.
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01-07-2008 05:07
my parents are absolutely disgusted by homosexuality. They are hardcore Catholic, and I'm not speaking badly about the Catholic Church at all....but homosexuality is frowned upon. I personally still don\'t know how I feel about letting my self be gay.....but I\'m working on it everyday, and I don\'t see any way of telling my parents either. I hope it helps just a tiny bit to know that u aren't alone.
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28-06-2008 07:16
23-06-2008 21:22
my paretns are sketchy...i told them christmas 2006 and its still not stuck yet, my dad said he would never accept it but my mum said she's ok with it...
however its created a large gap in my life, im closer to my mum but im actually further than i was from my dad and when we do talk he always asks if i have a girlfriend yet...whne he knows i like men
but not all familly's are like mine, most are understanding and i wish you alot of luck in telling your parents!
however its created a large gap in my life, im closer to my mum but im actually further than i was from my dad and when we do talk he always asks if i have a girlfriend yet...whne he knows i like men
but not all familly's are like mine, most are understanding and i wish you alot of luck in telling your parents!
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23-06-2008 06:52
I wish you luck with that it is hard to go through but after that anything is possible
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07-06-2008 22:38
i am never gonna tell my parents that i am bi they are religious and have expressed their views on bisexuals in these words "so is he gay or is he one of these weirdo bi's who like a bit of both???" that hurt me alot and people keep saying that i sahould tell them but i am scared outa my head so any solution iseas would be good
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02-06-2008 22:28
Luckily my parents aren't like that. They're alright with homosexuality, if a bit conservative, although I'm still terrified of coming out to them. I can't even imagine what you must be feeling! My best friend was hideously homophobic. She used to curse under her breath when she saw a gay couple on tv and thought that gays should live separately to straight people. It was killing me inside for years.When I eventually outed myself to her, she threw up and she didn't talk to me for months. She's getting used to the idea of me being a lesbian now though. You never know, she might even accept me one day. It just goes to show that no-one can truly hate you for who you love- they just need time to adapt to the idea!
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22-05-2008 15:32
I must be very hard for you to deal with, it must add to the stress you are already feeling over this confusing time. I will never forget when i told my parents, i was basically in hysterical fits of crying. I thought they would react bad, i had heard then joking about gay people and using the stereotypical words such as "puff" and "queer" but i came out. I did it because i couldn't stand the strain and they accept me. They have been so supportive, of course they were shocked, i mean any hope of grandchildren has been thrown out the window. But with this in mind they still accept me because they love me, i am their son and that is all that matters.
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19-05-2008 14:17
my boyfriend felt the same way but he finaly told them. they reacted better than he thought.Registered
17-03-2008 03:47
God, that really sucks.
That is screwed up. I mean it is wrong no matter what, but it must really hurt since it is about who you are too.
It is disgusting to hear and see such prejudice and ignorance as this.
It can't be easy for you, but hold strong.
That is screwed up. I mean it is wrong no matter what, but it must really hurt since it is about who you are too.
It is disgusting to hear and see such prejudice and ignorance as this.
It can't be easy for you, but hold strong.
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05-03-2008 14:10
im srry laura i no how it feels 2 have parents like that. i always think it would be easier to have ur long term sweetheart with u when u come out. i wish the best of luck to u =)
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01-03-2008 03:49
i'm very glad that you are proud to be a lesbian. that is VERY important, you have to love yourself before your family can love you fro who you are. . fortunatly when i came out my mom was fine with it (and always knew actually lol ) but the whole thing about ur mom actually covering up her eyes is really immature, quite honestly. but whatever, i hope the best for you
. fortunatly when i came out my mom was fine with it (and always knew actually lol ) but the whole thing about ur mom actually covering up her eyes is really immature, quite honestly. but whatever, i hope the best for youRegistered
01-01-2008 09:03
please you are being very...... lax, just do it and be over it. Dont worry about their reactions, they seem like they would love u. U could ease them in with at first being bi sexual, that is by far the easiest thing to do. Let them acclimate then be lik " well i changed my mind, i am going full lesbo"
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29-12-2007 20:29
same problem here, my dad always says bad things about a gay couple, it makes it harder for me to come out.
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16-12-2007 02:56
Well my dad does that but its only because thats what society has told people to do. Your family will still love you the same way, they wont just not like you because you fancy someone? If you ever need to talk PM me :D xx cheer up.
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02-12-2007 01:46
03-11-2007 00:25
I want and dnt want to come out ive told 3 m8s and they took it well, but my dads a bit homophobic, my grandad wud do his absolute nut cause he wants me to marry and pass on family name, and my nan is perfect apart from 2 points her extreme racism to black people and her extreme homophobia which is silly cause her cousin is a lesbian,
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04-10-2007 16:43
Hmm... that is hard. My Family, or most of them took it really well when I told them that I was bisexual. I told them that 'Love is Love, and it shouldn't matter who you Love.' and Yea... but everyone but my Grandmother took it well.
She told me I was going to hell. *le sigh* However, afterwards she talked to me about it and things aren't as awkward as they were before they're still slightly uncomfortable.
If I were you, I would wait till I was out of the house to tell your parents if they're like that. Most people are understanding, however there are the select few that aren't... so if you are moved out of the house you can tell them, and weather they don't like it, or whatever they can warm up to it and I'm sure things will smoothe over well.
You're still their child no matter what, and I'm sure that they'll still love you the same.
She told me I was going to hell. *le sigh* However, afterwards she talked to me about it and things aren't as awkward as they were before they're still slightly uncomfortable.
If I were you, I would wait till I was out of the house to tell your parents if they're like that. Most people are understanding, however there are the select few that aren't... so if you are moved out of the house you can tell them, and weather they don't like it, or whatever they can warm up to it and I'm sure things will smoothe over well.
You're still their child no matter what, and I'm sure that they'll still love you the same.
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20-09-2007 21:56
20-09-2007 21:48
i think you should tell your parents because they love you and they will no matter what
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