I beleive that as long as both parties are able to make a mature decision about having sex etc then its fine. SO, that obviously means that people under the age of say 12 or 13 shouldnt be having sex, period. They dont understand the repercusions, nor are they able to completely detemine whether it is a smart move (having sex) physically, mentally or emotionally. so, if the older person is just taking the younger for advantage (ie for their youth and immaturity), then it is wrong. Else, its ok

I think that age gaps arent normaly an issue, when they're relativley small, for some reason it makes more of a difference when you;re younger. I think that 4 years for a 13 year old is slightly on the large side. i mean, i was woried what people would think of me when i went out with a 16 year old [im 15]]. i think you should be careful, if you turn 18, have an experience then his parents find out, you could be in a hell of alot of trouble. I think that you should keep it on a non-sexual level until it is legal, so im sorry, but if i were you, my boyfriend would have 5 years to wait.
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Sorry to be completely off topic, but OMG this post has been going for ages. I just logged in for the first time in a while and thought that this topic had been brought up again, only to find to my surprise its the same old post. Thats just plain awesome.
Way to go Morgan (i think it was Morgan, cant be bothered to check) for having such a long successful post!! hahaha (one and a half years nearly i think).

age dont matter

its all good as long as u sue protection

See.. I'm very different with most of you all on this matter.

I think age matters, but only until you're out of high school.

I mean, there's nothing socially wrong with it at all. If two people who are years apart in age are in love with each other, then, by all means, go for it. The thing is, a friend of mine put something very VERY clearly to me. High school is the time of self-discovery. It's a time to learn about yourself.

Even when high school is done, most people still are confused about who they are as a person. A Freshman is not gonna have the same life experiences and maturity level as a Senior in high school. I mean, yes, the Freshman can be very mature for his age, but there are just those walls that are just very difficult to climb at such a young age. Me and my boyfriend are two years apart in age (me being the younger) and there are already those huge maturity boundaries. I mean, yes, I am rather mature for my age as he says, however, there are just some things that I'm gonna have to learn in time and I thank God for giving him the patience to deal with me .

Once you're out of high school, however, I think most people have discovered a good portion of who they are as a person, therefor, age gaps can be a little more leniant.

When it comes to young sexual encounters, I really don't think it's right until you're age 17 or even 16. The thing is, high school shouldn't be about pressuring yourself to have sex or have a boyfriend/girlfriend. It should be a time to be with your friends, shape your circle of close friends, and squeeze in relationships here and there to learn what you like and don't like in a partner, so that that way by the time you reach college, you know what you want in a life partner.

Sorry for ranting, but that's my view.

It depends on who you are and where your at . Different ages means, been through different things, doing different things, Intellectually different, so on. That can affect some relationships, even though it wouldn't seem like It all the time, It probably would. If you really like the person, then theres nothing wrong with it, theres nothing wrong with It In the first place - Just things to consider. I'm 15 (16 In November) and I'd only date people a year under me or 2 year above...

Whats the point about lying about your age?

Me believe if both people (of differing ages) be honest and caring of eachother, and the relationship NOT be based on sex then it be a natural human emotion. The sexual part will eventually grow out of the emotional ties. Taking advantage, force, manipulation, trickery and/or dishonesty be not acceptable. "Attraction" be uncontrollable human trait - however, "behavior" be totally within yur power (if not inspired by some sort of drugs including alcohol). Age differences promote greater responsabilities - specially for the older and/or more experienced participant. True caring and love be proven everytime the word "no" be respected and not challenged or questioned. As with all relationships - "Trust" be the foundation. Age then becomes irrelivant.

I quite agree with you!

In my opinion, age is just a number. As long as you both genuinely love each other, and no party is taking advantage in the relationship, then you should carry on with the relationship as normal.

Age is just a number - it's the person inside that counts.

Age...A number...Maybe for some. For me, I'd like to have someone no more than a year or two older or younger. I guess do what you do but watch out about telling fibs,,,it could come back to haunt you.