Liv4Music wrote:
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I've always had this niggling feeling that I want to be straight, and I've yearned for it even more since coming to University. It's mainly because where I now live, Bognor Regis, is a predominantly straight town (in fact the only other gay person I know is my housemate!), which means there's not much of a chance for a relationship with anyone.
I've had no problem coming out to my housemates or to work, or to people at Uni. Most of them seem to take it at face value, in fact, some of the straight guys try to flatter themselves by thinking that I like them lol.
I came out when I was 16, at college, even though I always got bullied at school for being gay. I think I knew from an early age that I was different to the other guys. Coming out was really difficult, especially as it took me another 18 months before I came out to my parents.
Now I'm open about it, I still get that feeling of being alone. I don't seem to have met enough gay people to hang around with in Uni yet, which is a little depressing, but I'm sure I'll find some more in due course.
Anyway, long story short, yes, sometimes, I really do wish I could be straight, just because then, my parents wouldn't be so disappointed, and they'd be proud that I could "carry on the line" with my own family.
Sad, I know, but true.
I think you have touched upon an important point too. It really depends where I am. For example, when I am back home in essex, there are no people in know there who are in the same position as me. It's a very straight area that I live in with no where to go. Don't get me wrong, I love straight clubbing with 'the lads', but I also wish there was some place I could go to meet other people in my position.
At Uni however, I enjoy and embrace my feelings a little more, partly because I have a few gay/bi mates and I can chat to them about things, which really does help. I generally feel more comfortable with it when I am at uni and there are places for me to go as well, which helps.