I'm from a small town, population 1100. I'm the only openly gay male in my town, and yet my coming out was no where close to the drama of others. I was about 14 (I'm now 20) Just starting grade nine of highschool. I had this friend from the city who I met every once and a while to hang out and fool around. Well one night said friend came over and spent the night, and we were found by my parents naked and cuddling the next morning. Nothing was said, my parents didn't care. No tears, no drama.
and now I have my current boyfriend over all the time and he's just one of us.

People take coming out to seriously to be honest.
If your parents disapprove that is their problem. Fear should not stop you from being yourself. Ever.

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Only my parents know. My mum found my gyc profile when i forgot to delete it from the history. She confronted me and all she really cared about was the fact I had a picture on it, nothing else. She was bloody supportive about me being bi! She told my dad and we've not spoken bout it since. I've got a gf anyway - so all's well!

well first of all, my story is pretty much complicated. I live in a really small town (7.000 people) in brazil. My parents are homophobic (my whole family is homophobic). So i've always lived in denial about my sexuality and ive always known about it (even though ive always had sex with boyfriends and stuff). 2 years ago i started to have panic attacks at school and i didnt know why they were happenin.. well at first i didnt even know what they were.. i thought it was stress or something. I went to several doctors.. each doctor said it was somethin different.. i found myself really lost since i didnt know what was happenin

1 year havin panic attacks, they went away without an apparent reason
thats when the vomits started.. they were terrible
i remember some weeks i would throw up like 3 days.. and each day i would throw up like 9 times if i didnt go to the hospital and take some injection. by that time i was kind of skinny so in addition i was losin to much weight!

9 months had gone and i didnt know why i was vomiting so much and reasonless

omg i found myself sooo lost i even thought several times of killin myself cause that way i'd kill my pain too.

i had already took all the possible tests and they came out negative so i didnt know what else to do..
thats when mum decided to take me to a really good psychologist. it was our very last hope

so somethin came to my mind tellin me that i should tell the doctor i was gay. at first i thought it had nothin to do with my panic and "vomiting" thing.

So in the very first moment i stepped foot into the psychologist's room i told him everythin and thats when i finaly got the nerve to tell him i was gay (tellin someone i was gay was a big deal for me since i've always lived in denial about it). So the first sentence that came out from his mouth was : "ur vomiting so much cause ur gayness wants to come out someway, but since u dont tell anyone, it is tryin to come out in ur vomits"

oh gosh i was shocked.. that makes sense! lol

so now i walked out the door with that "i have to tell my parents" feelin.

i didnt wait long, it was the same night i had gone to the doc and omg i was so fuckin nervos, my arms and legs were shakin i was prayin so much (it was the day i prayed most LOL) i knew i had to tell my mum first cause she seemed to be more supportive than my father. So she went to the bedroom to watch tv and i went behind her.. "mum, im gay" i said. omg she seemed so natural, she didnt say a thing for a moment. Then she said: no worries son, im still ur mother, ur still my son, ill always love u the same way i did.

then she went uptairs tell my father..

well this is my story, my problem with the vomits are now gone for 4 months and i feel so much better now that i told my parents im gay!

=]

bye ! wish u all guys luck comin out to ur parents

Well, I don't have one big coming out story, since I told everybody one-on-one except for my parents, who still don't know yet. But I have one story that I thought was particularly funny. I guess total there were five people that I came out to (I don't have too many people in my life) and most people I told just said all the "right" things. They said things like "Oh, that's so cool that you can admit that about yourself," or "Don't worry, I still love you." Which was great, really. But my favorite reaction came from my friend Jessica, who is also bi. I told her at school, while the teacher gave us a five minute break, and she just skipped right past all of the formalities and said, "Can I set you up with one of my friends?" She's such a matchmaker. She set me up with my now ex-boyfriend back in February, and she set up my other friend, too. Apparently her friend Sarah is an absolutely perfect match for me, but she hasn't gotten around to setting us up yet. I don't even really care about that, though. I just think it's funny that was the first thing her mind jumped to. Ah, friends. What would we do without them?

daqu wrote:

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Ah, friends. What would we do without them?

Agreed .

My story has both good and bad parts. i finally fully accepted that i was gay the beginning of my senior year in high school and one night i was with 2 friends working on a school project and i found out two of my best friends H and S were lesbians and dating. so that night i called H and came out to her, i wasn't scared or anything and she was like "Finally, god i've been waiting forever for you to tell me." i asked her how she knew and she said "it was the Dr. Pepper" . and after that i told my friend S and she also said she knew. so after that i slowly told my close friends at school and learned i hardly had any straight friends . so after that i didn't hide it at all and people just randomly asked me and i'd say yea.

that was the good part, as for my family... not so fun. so in my freshman year of college my uncle picked me up from college for spring break cause he was headed to where my parents live, so we were kinda talking and he mentioned he noticed i changed my myspace profile to private. (yes he is a snooping bastard and looked at my myspace.) i said yea i didn't want gross 50 year olds hitting on me. and he proceeded to say my orientation also changed to gay. i was like yea... so he said he told my aunt and they sill loved me and everything and i could trust he wouldn't tell my parents........ yea, right.

so i move back home for summer and my dad wants to see my sisters myspace for some reason and i tell him no cause thats just mean. so then he says, well lets see your myspace and where it says gay. i pretty much froze and was all. what? he asked if i was gay and i said yea, and asked how he saw my myspace (he is one of those guys who can't turn on a computer let alone use one.) he said my uncle told him (******* bastard!!). after that he started to be all, but women are so much better, men don't go together. how do they have sex? ....lol. yea he asked, no i didn't say anything. then he said the most offensive thing i've been told. "All gay men do is have sex and get aids." that put me over the top. i looked straight at him and was like "what the F*** did you just say? then i grabbed my car keys and left. i was headed to town and i called my mom kinda crying. and i just told her dad is an ass. she laughed and said yea. ^_^ ( i love my mom). then she noticed i was crying and ask what was wrong. and then i was like "you know i'm gay right?" she said yea. (she's the kind of mom that just knows without being told). and i asked her if she still loved me despite the fact, and she was all of course i do! and she wanted to meet me at the dennys to talk, and all she could say was my dad is just stupid. LOL!

thats pretty much it. but i learned one valuable lesson. NEVER trust my uncle, (i later found out he told everyone in my family, they just haven't said anything). i'm now about to begin my sophomore year in college and am out to everyone, haven't had a bad reaction cept for my dad.

I havent come out yet but when i do it will be like this...

Mum, Dad, Im Bisexual ....

"Oh Son! We kinda allready knew from all those guys you have brought back into your room during the night!"

"Now you just run along now, and Rememeber Always play Safe!"

Ok mum and dad !

Hahaha

MessageMe wrote:

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I havent come out yet but when i do it will be like this...

Mum, Dad, Im Bisexual ....

"Oh Son! We kinda allready knew from all those guys you have brought back into your room during the night!"

"Now you just run along now, and Rememeber Always play Safe!"

Ok mum and dad !

Hahaha

Sigh...I wish it were that easy...

My coming out happened to have occurred mere hours ago.

But first: @troyparkhurst, did you get to say "I'm the only gay in the village!" In a welsh accent? Lol!

Anyhow, I was walking down the street with my best friend, and I was all serious all of a sudden:
"I'm going to tell you something really serious, but you can't tell anyone, alright?"
"Yes, yes." he said. Then a few awkward seconds as I walk past a stranger's earshot.
"I'm gay," I squeaked.

He was a little taken back by it, I could tell because he kept asking if I was joking or not.
He took it fine, but bless his heart he was so nervous- he rattled off the names of a few other gays he knew in the school, and then I asked him if he was OK with it, he replied in a little high voice =P.

So then he started talking again- about normal stuff. It still felt strange, and I knew we were both thinking about it, but we managed a few chuckles before we went our separate ways.

I feel weird now though. I feel like I need to tell everybody else, and it is clouding my mind, but somehow I know that I'm not ready to tell everyone else.

Anyway, good to be out (sort-of) now!

i was 16 at the tym n my mates freind was flirtin with me on msn pretending to be my freind who i no then she asked if i was gay or anythin n i said yeah dont tell no one then i met this girl asnd thought soon as new year comes im telling everyone then i had it all over msn my sis seen it and ran and told the world