I think relationships with large age gaps can work and can be a positive thing, we can’t choose or decide who we fall for and why, it just happens and in some cases it could be somebody a lot older/younger than ourselves.

I’m not saying it’s always a good thing, there are limits which I think should be respected, like being in a relationship with somebody too young or too old as I think for both parties its unfair (and a little icky), lets say for example an 18 year old guy is dating a 45 year old guy, I don’t think that would work as well, they may be madly in love but there are other factors to consider, how it’ll effect their lives in the long run if the relationship stretches out for years, it won’t be fair. What if the younger one wants some things relating to youth and the older one wants other things because he’s older? It just won’t work.

And even if they don’t happen to have those obstacles it won’t be fair on the younger guy as by the time he’s 36, the older guy will be 63, getting quite old and it may not be fair on the younger guy, it may force him to grow up a little too fast when maybe he’s not ready to. In my view a ten or maybe fifteen year age gap is okay (though being sensible), but going beyond that is stretching it a little.

dragonking wrote:

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Well i dont think 14 year olds should be dating at all... like really you think its a big deal but it aint. You should pace yourself and do things as you get older cause if you do everything when your young well you just end up getting too old too quickly.

That is true...

To think young teens and even pre-teens are dating is just wrong... I didnt even know what sexuality WAS at those ages

I totally agree. I haven't had a younger boyfriend, but I've had crushes on 14 year olds.. I'm 17. is that wrong? No, age is just a number.

i wudnt date someone over or under 4 years older than me.

ben x

I don't know, Personal thing reall but depends on how large the age gap is...

16-20 <--okay?
16-26 <-- hmm?
16-32 <--- I don't know, slightly concerning why the older guy would go for someone so young?

I prefer older guys myself (nothing you can do if you find someone you really like though), although 17-20 range

2hot_2touch wrote:

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age difference does play a big part when it come to relationship.Thus the age difference for me is at most 3yrs at most at this stage of development. Inevitably you will both be at the same stage but could your relationship last that long?

I totally agree with you!!!

The largest age-gap I can stand is 15 years. You know, it might be fun to be in a relationship with someone more mature than you are

Age Gap's don't really bother me but then I'm 22 and i look at things rationaly but i dive into them. Age gaps are in general ok-ed whe your older but if it was like a 15yr old going with a 22yr old then people starting giving them funny looks not to mention the local Fuzz would be asking some questions.

In the end it come down to legality but i think if you love each other then it doesnt matter the age difference. Love will conquer all even age

Love knows no boundary -- race, age, gender, etc. Age gaps aren't a bad thing, unless they're due to ulterior motives (i.e. marrying an elder man for his fortune). At any rate, as long as both people in the relationship are happy, I see nothing wrong with it.

I have no issues with people dating people considerable older/younger than themselves. I think if you love someone who could see yourself loving someone then its fine. But for me personally I wouldnt date anyone super younger than me. Im 19 and i think i could possibly date a 16 year old but then i think what everyone else would think about me, I know thats a bad way to view things. I shouldnt care about what others think but I do. Ive been intimate with a 35 year old man and i wouldnt do that again. I think maybe for now 26 would be the oldest i would idealy go for. But if i find love then well good for me and F**K the age gap!