Not all too surprisingly, given the state of society, most people seem to be doing nothing but looking to catch the perfect looking model to have as a trophy regardless of anything that the person has in the faculties of mental intelligence or good personailty. Is there no one left that is looking for something more tangible?

It seems to be commonly accepted that looks can fade, give it time and we all lose the looks we have. Therefore why do people attach themselves to the physical? Have we really reached a point in which there is nothing that matters other then someones appearance, or in some cases the size of their wallet? Would people not actually prefer to be with someone that has more to offer?

I know I am putting this out there as a generalization that may seem unfair, not everyone is only after the tangible parts of people, but too many people seem to be; case in point since taking down the picture on my profile I almost never receive private messages from people I do not first talk with for some time in the main.

Any ideas on why people go for looks or if do you think people actually are looking more? I'd like to hear where you stand on it.

Hey,
What is in someones heart, without a doubt, is the most important thing to me. Looks are very much secondary. Ive had the same bf now for almost 9 months...and i would have NEVER started going out with him in the first place had it not been for his personality. I guess im somewut concervative or whutever when it comes to dating....we where friends for several months before we started going out....so i knew him pretty good to begin with.
Oh.....and you taking your pic off the profile......SMART! I had one on here before....and i got messages from random people all the time that didnt give a rats ass about me.....just wut i looked like...and that was annoying as hell. Plus, a dude harrased me on here forever.....so ya.....picless is the way to go....lol
Jordan

I would never want a boyfriend as a trophy. Goodlooking is something extra, you stated it too I read in Your ideal partner. Personality is most important tho, like how can you love somebody with a bad personality. It seems like in the gay world, lots of people only care about having the hottest boyfriend, but that just aint true . Just look at this forum and you see alot of people with great personalities, and as extras also good looking. So it does exist, but on your question, its probably just something human to want the perfect person, and in todays society looks mean alot I think. There alot of threads in this forum recently about how much love really means in the gay society, and if nobody cares anymore about something extra to the looks. Well for me its the other way around, I would like a great personality, and good looks are offcourse nice .
About ur pic, I dont know. People are tend to read more profiles of people who have pics up, like mostly people without pics, are those who come on for a few times, join the chat with sex requests and leave again. Also pics may say something about the person, I think my pic can show something of my personality already, and you might want to get to know more of it..
Just my views .

a little of both... the intital phisical attraction is what draw people to talk to eachother in most circumsatnces, but over all the prsonality is what makes a relationship work. If the person is unatractive(like me) you typicly will not take the initive to go get to know them. But, in the same stance if you go up tothe hottest guy on earth and he is a stupid ass a relationship will never exist.(unless your a celberty entirely differnt set of shallow rules there)

Toddius wrote:

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a little of both... the intital phisical attraction is what draw people to talk to eachother in most circumsatnces, but over all the prsonality is what makes a relationship work. If the person is unatractive(like me) you typicly will not take the initive to go get to know them. But, in the same stance if you go up tothe hottest guy on earth and he is a stupid ass a relationship will never exist.(unless your a celberty entirely differnt set of shallow rules there)

Whoa. Hint: Dont say you are unnatractive. (1) You are attractive; (2) its a common attention grabber, and a failed one at that.

I agree, looks are the initial attraction and then a combination of looks and personality is what sustains the attraction thereafter.

itsjordan wrote:

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picless is the way to go....lol
Jordan

While I [almost] wholly agree, "picless" members (on anything; GYC, MySpace, Facebook, Tagged, Hi5, Bebo,...) can also be cause for concern, especially if the age, loc. and interests details are "suspiciously" vague. That is not meaning to say yours are. I mean, I know several members on this forum that have either lied about their age/location/name, or a combination of all.

Also, you could use a more generic image with you in it as an indirect object, rather than the subject of the image. For instance mine has text at the the bottom and the rainbow colour. My image is one of the least high quality I possess.

edited April 17th, 2006

Says me who a few days ago took all my pictures down!<br /><br />Post edited by: Callum Fraser, at: 2007/04/16 14:13

Summ wrote:

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I would never want a boyfriend as a trophy. Goodlooking is something extra, you stated it too I read in Your ideal partner. Personality is most important tho, like how can you love somebody with a bad personality. It seems like in the gay world, lots of people only care about having the hottest boyfriend, but that just aint true ;). Just look at this forum and you see alot of people with great personalities, and as extras also good looking. So it does exist, but on your question, its probably just something human to want the perfect person, and in todays society looks mean alot I think. There alot of threads in this forum recently about how much love really means in the gay society, and if nobody cares anymore about something extra to the looks. Well for me its the other way around, I would like a great personality, and good looks are offcourse nice ;).
About ur pic, I dont know. People are tend to read more profiles of people who have pics up, like mostly people without pics, are those who come on for a few times, join the chat with sex requests and leave again. Also pics may say something about the person, I think my pic can show something of my personality already, and you might want to get to know more of it..
Just my views :).

Absolutely true.

More pic:&gt;More hits&gt;More chat&gt;/potentially more annoyance

No pic:&gt;Less hits&gt;less talk/suspicion.

Both situations have their ups and downs. Generic/low quality pics or a mixture work best

WELL I DUNNO... CALL ME SHALLOW BUT I GO FOR GUYS THAT LOOK GOOD TO SOME DEGREE... THEN I DECIDE WHETHER THEY HAVE A COMPATIBLE PERSONALITY OR NOT... BUT OF COURSE I WONT DATE JUST SOMEONE WHO IS LIKE THE BEST LOOKING PERSON IN THE WORLD IF THEIR PERSONALITY SUCKS... THATS WHY I SAID... 1ST IF THEY LOOK GOOD THEN I FIGURE OUT THEIR PERSONALITY... SO TO ME BOTH ARE IMPORTANT!!!

I have a &quot;friend&quot; (ie: someone to go clubbing with) and he's absolutely obsessed by looks. If you don't look like Brad Pitt- you haven't got a chance. It's a really sad state of affairs and it certainly explains why he hasn't got a boyfriend!

For me, I go for personality. I've never been so shallow as to go for looks. I'm not saying I'd date a 40-ton hairy guy but- as long as they have a nice heart, and they care about me- then I'm happy enough. I don't understand anyone who goes through life with impossibly high standards- because no one will ever match up to them.

I'm not about to pretend I'm not human. We are hard-wired, to a certain extent, to seek out those among us who are most &quot;attractive.&quot; Of course, recently, we have constructed (as a society) many of the notions of what constitutes &quot;attractive.&quot;

Things like hair/eye colour, teeth, etc. aren't really the most important things from an evolutionary perspective when it comes to choosing our potential mates. These are probably examples of qualities that we have been 'trained' to find attractive. I can, however, see how physical fitness would be a definite advantage in a potential mate, so this may well be hard-wired into our brains as a selection criteria.

Having gotten that off my chest, I will say that personality -- and particularly intelligence -- are extremely important for me. I am emotionally and physically attracted to the nerdy/geeky guys, so long as they're not the type with bad hygiene or poor social skills.

My boyfriend is a perfect example of the type of guy I'm attracted too: he's a bit nerdy (like me), funny, smart, and incredibly cute (especially with his glasses).