I've come out to most of my friends on msn but i haven't told anyone face to face.
everyone is comfortable with it, but i feel i should have approached it someother way. Is it a good thing to come out to people on msn?

can anyone help he with what i should do?

Personally I think that coming out on msn, by letter or by text message basically anything that isn't face to face is not good. If it works for you then ok, but I have not and will not do it, lol.

For me after years of keeping it all in, taking to my friends about it, letting them actually react with emotions and being able to hug them after was really important. Telling my first 2 or 3 friends I almost couldn't get the words out but going through that, getting it out, being happy and accepted is awesome, its a real confidence booster that makes you feel really happy about yourself. I think msn would kill this. The emotions you experience are part of the whole coming out process, why dampen them?

does that mean what's done is done and i can't do anything else?
I've felt that i've missed a big part of the coming out experience

I told my first few on msn, it was the only way I felt comfortable. I really wished I had told some of them face to face though (even if it would have meant rugby tackle like hugs). It was great when I started telling people face to face although by that stage it wasn't so much telling as revealing. My advice is use msn to build up some confidence, but once you've told a couple of people you should start trying face to face.

Well, I came out with a letter to my mom.. and she told my family for me. And I came out to my friends by myself.

I work like this:

Take me for who I am, if not, **** you, you're not worth my time!

So MSN, completely acceptable!

Anyways;
Later!
Kyle

First of all mate, coming out is coming out. How you do it is up to you. Well done for actually doing it and just think, it can only get better from here.

I first came out on msn then told everyone else face to face. everyones situation is different and you should only do whats comfortable for you!

aldiss wrote:

I first came out on msn then told everyone else face to face. everyones situation is different and you should only do whats comfortable for you!

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True to that! True to that.


Kyle

Ive come out to two people, as it were, the first was a female friend of mine who was at the time the closest i had to a close friend. I told her on MSN (Actually, invented a stupid ask each other question game deliberately to get her to ask me...)
In hindsight, it was a mistake. Because we never addressed it face to face, it feels like an elephant in the room and as such we've drifted apart.

The other person I told was a (very) open bi/gay dutch guy ive only known online, told him on internet too... That was fine, mind you. But thats a different relationship.