I have realized i was gay since 7th grade, although i shoudl have known sooner, its all obvious now.

I came out to my parents about 5-6 months ago. First i told my dad who then subsequently told my mom. They don't talk about it really. My mom changes the subject immediately if it gets to anyhting gay. And my dad says nothign about it.

Althought initially upon coming out my dad insisted it was a phase which i knew not to be true. They assume it will go away with time and my mom seems very distraught by the whole idea of it.

So im not sure what i should do, how to convince them i am and that it's not a phase, and/or win acceptance from them both. Please provide any input

I have the same situation with my mom and sister. (My dad's clueless)

I just continue to have my own life the way I want it to be. They don't necessarily approve but they don't restrict me in any way.

As long as your parents don't try to stop you from dating other guys go ahead and do it. Your parents should come to the realization that it isn't a phase.

well i must tell you your situation is far from bizarre. my parents (being abnormally nosey) found out that i'm gay by looking through my computer when i was in the 8th grade (so i was 13/14). they confronted me about it and addressed it as an "issue" that the family would "work through." little did i know that this meant for the next six months i would be going to a church to talk to a pastor about why it's so bad to be gay. well that didn't work too well and i think my parents gave up on that idea when they finally realized i had no interest in entertaining their ideas about homosexuality. for the next few years, it's been much of a "don't ask, don't tell" policy, although my mother couldn't help but ask me everytime i mentioned a guy if he was gay. "oh i have to go to so and so's to work on a project for school" -"who is he? is he gay? do you like him?" blah blah blah. well a few months ago, i was dating a guy and i told my parents and they were fine with it. just give it time. it took my parents 3 years to accept it.

Ugh, a longer road than i had hoped for. Well, it's not that i didnt expect it. At least my parents didn't do the whole "sin's of homo-sexuality" crap to me. Although my mom does ask whenever I mention a guy if he is "Weird" which is our *family* word for gay.

I have not tried yet, i hope they do not though.

Ah. Don't worry, you're not alone in this. My dad flat out didn't believe me when I told him. It's not even that he cared, he just didn't believe me. Still doesn't, really. But then again I'm too straight acting for my own good, which probably doesn't help.

If you want awkward conversations with your parents, I can top the whole religious morality thing. How about your dad talking to you over dinner and going.

"Ahem. Nick, it's probably time I told you about certain...um...experiences I had when I was your age that might prove to you this is all just a phase."

Smiley's can't express how bizarre that moment was, but this one comes pretty close.

I hope they accept it though, man. It's not good to keep things tucked away like that. Take it from a WASP. We know a thing or two about ignoring the elephant in the room.<br /><br />Post edited by: Beatle, at: 2007/12/10 14:12

honestly, do they really need to be convinced? as long as they aren't beating you or something, just let them deal with it, at least that's how I'd deal with it

if it's neutral, why change it?

Same thing happened to me...So I ended up coming out about 3 times they still don't believe me, or atleast my mom doesn't. At this point I just don't even talk about it I shouldn't have to spend my life trying to tell them something I've already told them more than once...

Same thing happened to me...So I ended up coming out about 3 times they still don't believe me, or atleast my mom doesn't. At this point I just don't even talk about it I shouldn't have to spend my life trying to tell them something I've already told them more than once...

Hey, unfortunatly, I think this is just something you're gonna have to wait out. I'm sorry I was in a similar situation a while ago, but it did eventually pass. It can take many months for your parents to adjust to the fact that you're gay and that this isn't a phase. I guess, maybe, just don't bring it up for at least a couple of weeks, and give them some room. I think I know how badly you feel you want to talk about it with them, and my guess is that you want them to aknowledge this big fact in your life. So I would say give 'em some time; they'll talk eventually.
It's not the ideal alternative, but- If you really would like to talk to someone about being gay, are you out to any of your friends, or anyone else at all? Maybe you could talk to them about all this?

Lol, and about your mom asking 'Is he gay?', that'll probably past too. My mom did the exact same thingl every girl I met, she freaked and asked if I liked her, and if we were 'together'. So... yeah, that's just part of the adjustment process. If you feel up to it, you could try to educate your mom, if it bugs you, that is. Like next time she asks, say &quot;Is every new friend you make straight?&quot; Of course, she could just say yes, but you get the point? Show her that you're OK with being friends with straight people, and not just other gays :-] Good luck!