Ordinarilly I wouldn't think that comming out to my friends would be that bad...we're all very close and supportive of eachother, and most of them are gold stars themselves, but where I live a lot of people tell all their friends they're gay or bi just because they think it's cool, and I'm terrified that if I come out to my friends they'll think I'm doing the same thing and they'll get mad and (even worse) ignore me. So I'm nowhere near being out. Only three of my very close friends know that I'm gay.
Last month I was in the car with this girl who I've been completely crazy about for the past 7 months, and who's also one of my best friends (she's gay too). I had been working up the nerve to at least come out to her for the past few weeks, and I finally did it. It was the first time I'd ever said the words "I'm gay" to another person, and I immedietly felt more free than I had in a really long time. We had a really long conversation, and she told me about her experiences (she's been completely out for a little over a year) and she told me that she was proud of me for "graduating" and being ready to tell at least a few people so quick. I feel so blessed to have her, because I'm sure that having such a good experience so early on is going to make me a lot more confident when I tell others, because even if it doesn't go so well later, I know that I have people that love me who I can rely on to help me.

Ordinarilly I wouldn't think that comming out to my friends would be that bad...we're all very close and supportive of eachother, and most of them are gold stars themselves, but where I live a lot of people tell all their friends they're gay or bi just because they think it's cool, and I'm terrified that if I come out to my friends they'll think I'm doing the same thing and they'll get mad and (even worse) ignore me. So I'm nowhere near being out. Only three of my very close friends know that I'm gay.
Last month I was in the car with this girl who I've been completely crazy about for the past 7 months, and who's also one of my best friends (she's gay too). I had been working up the nerve to at least come out to her for the past few weeks, and I finally did it. It was the first time I'd ever said the words "I'm gay" to another person, and I immedietly felt more free than I had in a really long time. We had a really long conversation, and she told me about her experiences (she's been completely out for a little over a year) and she told me that she was proud of me for "graduating" and being ready to tell at least a few people so quick. I feel so blessed to have her, because I'm sure that having such a good experience so early on is going to make me a lot more confident when I tell others, because even if it doesn't go so well later, I know that I have people that love me who I can rely on to help me.

I'm still not completely out to everyone but it would not be wise to do that at my school most likely.There is a ton of homophobes around here and there are no out gay guys in my school either.Other than that I will start at the beginning I guess.One day about 6 or 7 months ago,I was talking to a friend over yahoo messenger.He had asked me for a link to a pornographic site and so I googled it and gave him a link.(By the way,my friend's father is a computer guy so he knows practically everything about them.)And so,a few days later,I got a call from him and he told me something that I really did not want to hear.He said that his dad checked his router history and saw that he had been on some pornographic sites.So he went and checked through every one of his yahoo and msn messages and searched for links to sites to see if any one gave him any.He saw me on there and told my friend to tell me that I had 1 day to tell my parents that I go to porn sites.(Even though I normally do not even look at pornography,however I do go to a few gay pride sites like glsen and stuff like that.) And so I told my friend I really did not want to do that because if I told them that I go to "Porn" websites then they would want to check the router history and then they would see that I have been to gay pride sites and find out that I am in fact a queer.Once I told him,he was like,"You are just making this up so you won't get in trouble and my parents might reconsider aren't you?" so I said, no I am not..I am gay and I always have been. He was very suprised at me because I do not act like the stereotypical gay guy and thats what everyone is used to seeing from television and such.And so he asked if I was gay one more time for real,and I once again told him yes.I then made him promise that he would not tell anyone no matter what,and he asked if he could tell his parents though because it might convince them not to make me tell them.I said yes so he went and told his parents that I was gay and thats why I did not want to tell them because they would find out,and they said they did not care one way or the other and I still had to tell my parents.So later that night I sat down with my mom and dad in the living room when my 16 year old sister (which is the only one out of my three sisters that still lives with me) was not at the house.And I said,"Mom,dad,I know you won't like what you are about to hear me say to you,but....I'm gay.My dad just sat in the chair and looked like he was confused and thinking and stuff and did not say a word at first.My mom on the other hand was angry and sad kind of.My mother said stuff like,You have had girlfriends so you cant be gay!Then I said,Yes I am mom,I have always known and always have been.I can't remember everything she said but she said some stuff like,Well thanks for telling me so I won't have to lie anymore.When someone would say something negative about you I would always say,Well at least he isn't gay.And now I can't say that anymore because I would be lying.That doesn't seem very hurtful but a lot of the stuff was.My dad then said,You aren't gay.You just can't be and it is just a phase and you will get over it.After that I can't remember much.I do remember I went to my room and locked my door and listened to what they were saying.I heard stuff like,And he was our only boy.And that I was messed up and stuff because I am gay and an Athiest.My mom also said that me and her won't be together when we die then because I'm gay and stuff.After that my mom wouldn't even speak to me for a few days.My dad was upstairs for the rest of the night because I guess he wanted to think about it or something.I do not think that they told anyone else because they said that having a gay son is not something to brag about or talk about positively.So coming out to them,and one of my best friends,and one of my best friends parents was not so great.Mostly my parents though.After I told them I was gay and all of that stuff happened,I pretty much cried myself to sleep for the first time in my life.I felt as if I had just completely failed them and that I would never be accepted and such.As for the friend of mine who knew,I trust him with that secret and he hasn't ever told anyone besides his parents.He is a very religious guy actually and I was suprised that he didn't hate me.But he stuck with me like a true friend would,even though he tends to try to forget that I am gay but he did better than I expected still.A few days later than all of that,my mom would speak to me again and I also got introduced over yahoo messenger to my friend's cousin who was a girl and was almost my age but like a month younger.She was from California and we started talking after my friend put us in a conference on yahoo.We talked for a couple months and one night we were talking over the phone about people we used to date and our crushs and stuff.She told me that there is only one person that she has had a major crush on for a few months.So I asked her who it was and she responded as,If I tell you...Do you promise you won't get freaked out?And so I said yes I promise,and she told me that she liked me.I told her that we could never date and not just because of the very long distance but for another reason as well.She did talk to like 3 other friends of mine from my town but I trusted her so I told her the main reason is because I was gay.She said,"What?Your kidding me right?" and I said, No I am completely serious.I am gay and I always have been.She couldn't believe it because,just as my other friend thought,I act way to straight to be gay.I told her I was completely serious and I wasn't just saying it so I could put her down easily or because I didn't want to date her,but because I was really gay.I made her promise me as a friend to never tell anyone from around here that she talks to or anyone who talks to anyone who goes here.She promised and she never told anyone.After that,I came out to two of my close friend who are both girls and I hang out with practically every day at school and go crazy with during school too.One of them I told and she took it kind of hard.She couldn't believe it because she said after all of the stuff we have said and did together (No sexual meaning just so you know) along with the way I act and talk,there is no way I could be gay.And she knows me way to well and there was just no way I could be.After a day or two,she came to accept it and said it's alright and we will still be best friends either way.And she swore not to tell anyone.The other girl I told and she didn't believe me for 3 weeks!She said I just couldn't be because I do not act it at all and all of that crap again.It sure did take her a while to believe me but she did eventually.Actually just two weeks ago she said she believed me.The next person I came out to was one of my friends who moved to a surrounding town from my town.She was suprised as well but kept it a secret and also said she would keep an eye out for other gay guys at her school since there aren't any that anyone knows of here in my town.She also has not mentioned me being gay to anyone.A few days later I came out to one of my best friends who is a guy.He was very confused and before I told him,I had set up a plan for my friend from California to ask him if he thought anyone was gay that he was one of there friends from here since he talks to her as well.He guessed and he guessed me last.He ever put a homophobic friend of mine and his before he put me out there as a guess.I trusted him more than anyone,but I was worried about what he would think of me after words.Since some guys stop socializing with gay guys once they find out they are gay,due to the fact that they are afraid of people thinking that they are gay or that a gay guy would like try to put a move on them or something.I trusted him though,and I wasn't sure what would happen,but I wanted to tell him since he was one of my closest best friends.So the next night I called him and I told him I was gay.He took it way better than I would have ever thought anyone ever would.He just said,wow really?And so I told him yes and I asked him if he wouldn't tell anyone and he promised me he wouldn't.I told him I was suprised at the way that he took it because I never thought he would take it so well.He told me that one of his aunts is a lesbian and he knows that I can't help it if I am gay but my orientation doesn't change my personality or anything.I am still me either way.I was more confused then the person I came out to so I started laughing about it kind of.After that I was a bit more comfortable with my orientation thanks to my friends because I thought I would be a total society reject and be hated and stuff if anyone knew but they proved otherwise.About one month later when school got out,I told another one of my friends who moved to the same surrounding town as the other girl that I told did.She was,like everyone else,suprised by it.She promised not to tell anyone though and she said we were still friends,gay or straight.After I came out to her I also told one of my other friends who moved to a town that is about one hour away from here.She trusted me and told me that she was bisexual.So I told her that I trusted her to as a friend and that I was gay.We promised not to tell anyone and she even said that she knew a few other gay guys near me that she thinks would like me.That one was only like 1 week and 3 days ago.I can't wait to talk to her next because I am excited about hearing about who she thinks I would have a chance with.Thats all of the people I have came out to up to this point.But things have changed some since then.That guy I came out to first of everyone,I barely talk to him anymore because he has gotten really into computer technology along with sports,he is still a friend though.The girl from California,me and her talk all of the time now and we are really good friends who help each other through life as we keep on going.Her school is pretty wild from what I have heard.My 2 friends who moved to the same surrounding town,they are coming back here this year for school so that should be exciting.And they are getting some of their friends from that school to keep watching for other gay guys for me.My best and closest friend,him and I are still awesome friends no matter what happens.And I know I can trust and rely on him for anything.As for the girl that moved to a town that is about an hour away...I'm still waiting for her to get online and give me the update on these gay fella's that she thinks would be into me.The girl that took 3 weeks to believe me about me being gay,we have argued some because she is religious and she thinks it is a choice but we will still be friends either way.As for my parents.....They still don't accept me being gay...They act as if I am straight and talk about when I have a wife someday and stuff.They just can't seem to accept me for who I am,but I just deal with it because I understand that not many parents would want to have a "gay" son anyway.They will just have to learn to accept me though if they are going to because one day I am going to get married.And it is going to be to a guy,not a girl.So they just have to learn to deal with it too.I bet I rambled quite a bit in this reply to this post,and sorry if I did.And also sorry if it is kind of boring lol,but thanks for reading if you did.Later.

I can barely remember my coming out experience. The only things I remember are in this video I made. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P_3ggJ9b4f8

Well... first off let me start when I first got hints that I was gay...



I was a lad of 11 years at the time, just fresh into 6th grade. I was basically your average tween... dorky clothes with Pokemon and Yu-Gi-Oh on them... personality that would make YOU feel smart.. not doing my homework etc.

I had a few close friends back then that I had known from years previous before that. Well we used to go to our friend Gage's house and do the whole WWE home wrestling thing. I all of a sudden got this feeling of preference for the men species(hormones are Fing crazy at times) and I had no idea what it was... I didn't even know what sexual preferences even meant at the time.

Fast forward 2 years later...(now in 8th grade)
I met a girl named Tori, whom fell in love with me at first sight(haha, dramatic much...) I thought I liked her, because I was always raised to be straight. We started dating, and then eventually became boyfriend/girlfriend for a year and a half.

I started to think to myself "Do I actually love her? I don't feel a need or want to be with her at all"
The same day she wanted to have sex with me. I almost vommitted at the thought(but secretly) and I had no idea why.

These feelings kept passing through my head and I eventually broke up with her. I was so distraught that I thought I was bi(which I never really was) and That it was just Tori I didn't like... but I was very wrong.

About a few months after...(now in freshmen year at highschool) I figured I was indeed gay having no want of sex from the female species... so I got with a boy. He was about 14(my age at the time), and toootally handsome, funny, romantic etc. This was the point when all those 'feelings in my head' from before all vanished, and it actually felt right to be kissing and loving this boy.
My mom never found out about it...and I eventually broke up with him because he cheated on me.

Fast forward to a year ago.... (now 15) This was the year when I started to come out to everyone. I told my mother first... who says she's 'cool' with it, though she denies it and still calls me bi...
Then I told my sister, who was so accepting I was brought to tears.
Then I told my friends(who already assumed I was gay)
And lastly I told my foster mother, foster aunt, foster brother, and my Dad(real dad)
My dad's case was the worst. Not because of what he said, because of my own thoughts. He totally denied it at first "No you're not gay..." then he's like "Well it's probably just a phase, you're only 16(turn it in two weeks) how would you know?"(yeah he still hasnt gotten with the times that Teens have sex too)
But what he said next I was totally unprepared for and it was unexpected: " Well son, I don't know if this is a phase or not, because I don't know how long it's been going on. But I just want you to know that I love you, and I love you even more now because you had the courage and trust in me to tell me you were gay, and I'm proud of you for being my son"
Once again, the tears welled up in my eyes, it was really heart warming. So that is all that is to that story ^.^

kay so i'm copying and pasting my comming out story because it's awefully long. xD


"So this labor day weekend, we decided to go to San Diego.
To be honest, I REALLY didn't wanna go. I mean, it's the first week back from school. my schedule isn't hectic or anything, but I mean...I really just wanna have time to be lazy.

So we go to San Diego and get a hotel. We didn't leave from the hour until about 5 in the afternoon, because we can't get out of the house at a decent time. We got a hotel. The hotel was slightly crappy, but it was decent. We got there, dropped our shit off and left for Seaworld.

We got there and found out that we couldn't use our Fun Cards because it was a black out day. A BLACK out day. Just another example of the MAN tryin' tah put da black man down. Psh.
So we went back to the hotel. My parents and my little brother fought over the TV turner, and we went to sleep.

The nest morning, we had to go to another hotel. We ended up going to a double tree. As we were walking in, I remembered the 820 pages of pure fashion sex that was recently bestowed on my mother, VOUGE. I asked her if I could borrow it when she was finished. She said "why?" and then i said "well, there was a guy at CSSSA that did fashion designs and I'm really interested in doing something similar". She snuffed and said "you and me have to have a serious conversation later on". She didn't say it in a mean way, but in a very funny almost sitcommish punchline kinda way.

See, my parents don't know that I'm gay. YES, I'M GAY-for those of you who haven't figured it out. IT'S VERY OBVIOUS.

anywho.

So it was late and my brother and my Dad wanted to go to the swimming pool. When they were gone, I started talking about my hair. Since I've gotten my frohawk, my parents have been really iffy about me having it really large (which it isn't). So I was combing it down. I randomly asked her if I'd look okay with white hair. Because I've always wanted to have white hair and I love it when young people have it. XD. LOL. Then out of no where, my mom goes

"Matt, I want to ask you a...personal question"
"Um...." as I lotion myself "what is it"
"Do you consider yourself a homosexual teenager"
and for a minute there, I had to process exactly what she was saying. I mean, she said 'homosexual teenager" and not "are you gay". So I'm like "betch, say what now?"

And I was lotioning myself so of course I said "let me finish lotioning and I'll answer you"

You don't STOP me in the middle of my lotioning and then ask me a serious question. PRIORITIES.

so anyways, I tell her. I told her I always have been gay. I've always known I was gay. I've never been attracted to females. I've never been insecure about my sexuality. I've never been straight-ever. My mom doesn't look TOOOOOOOO angry. She's mighty calm. But she had a really hard time wrapping her head around the fact that I was gay. See, apparently, she has had friends that were gay with eachother during college. She says that now, they're married and have children, so OF COURSE THEY'RE NOT GAY ANYMORE. Ugh.

She told me to "wait and make sure that this is something that you want to do for the rest of your life". She says that life will be hard on me. And look, I know that it will be. I am, in no way trying to say that I'm just going to go scott free and no one will ever bother me but.....I've always been ME. People talk about me, sure, but I've never been threatend or anything. HELL. I'm pretty tall, pretty large and i'm black-YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT I COULD DO. lol. So people don't bother me about it. I haven't QUITE left the nest so I don't really know....but.....I JUST KNOW....that it'll be okay.

She still isn't sure that I'm sure that I'm gay. I'm sure I am. i'm very sure. I mean, I wouldn't have made the choice to be gay if I could. I just AM gay. I'm sorry, but I am. I don't want it to hurt my parents, but I AM gay. Females disgust me when thinking of them in a sexual manner. She doesn't quite understand that yet.

My mother is an open-minded person for the most part. Hell, i walked in on my mom watching Bareback Mountain one time. And when we were in west hollywood, she totally seemed buddy buddy with all the gay guys. LOL. I don't think that she'll have a problem with me being gay. I think she'll have a problem understand how I've ALWAYS been gay, but not that i"m gay. My dad on the other hand. He's constantly asking whether or not I'm gay and it bother me sometimes. He's told me that if I WERE gay that he'd support me...but I somehow don't believe that. My dad comes from a very religious background. and I just know that if I came out to him, he'd totally try to sign me up for some Men's Christian camp. Where I'd probably find a guy, fall in love with them and we'll cheat the system. (lol, like that one movie). It's kinda...UGH.

I WANT my parents to know and support me. Another one of my senior goals is to take a guy to prom. Honestly. That would MAKE MY FUCKING DAY. Because when i go to prom, I can already hear myself bitching and moaning about the heterosexuals. LOL. I'm so twisted sometimes. lol.

I want my dad to support me but I"m not sure that he would. He changes his mind...alot.

And the sad thing is that I'm MOSTLY worried about how much he'll support me in college.

meh, i'll just become a stripper. "

OK i have come out to 2 people so far.(other then you lovely people) The first was a friend of mine. She thought i was joking and it took me 10 min to convince her. Then she got very excited. The second person was a good friend of my family, he is gay and accepted it at once. He talked to me about what he went through and gave me some advice. I think that im happy with who knows now so it will be a while before i tell anyone else.

My story is fairly simple.

I came out at 13 to my sister closest in age to me and my mother at the same time. At first I told them I was bisexual when I came out. I told them I had something to tell them, and then it came out. They were pretty melancholy and not very happy for me at all. I told my dad in an argument, which presumably did not turn out well. My mom told my other two sisters, which was fine. Over the years my family has grown to accept that I'm gay (I stopped saying I was bi not too long after I came out and realized I didn't like girls at all). They've adapted fairly well, and it's what I could have hoped for. I think it'll be a new ball game when I begin to date.

Hey I sent a story in a few months ago for my 8th grade coming out experience so this is my other coming out story its more bizare.

I was on my way to the locker rooms with my friend. We were taking a summer camp together and we became friends. We took soccer camp together so at the end of the day we would be all sweaty and we had to shower before we could go eat. We were talking until I realized that I would have to shower with all the guys. My friend I was walking with, I had a crush on him since I first saw him. When I saw him take off his clothes I was sent into over drive and started to have a panic attack. I delt with it though and took a shower. Luckly they were divided into sections and usually 2-3 people were in a section. Me and my friend were in the same section and we just started talking. Eventually he saw my boner I was trying to hide and he asked me if I was gay straight out. I started to cry a bit and told him that I was gay and that I liked him and wouldn't blame him if he wanted to hate me from there on.

I turned around when I felt him put his hand on my shoulder and then he did something I hadn't expected. HE KISSED ME!!!!! I was shocked at first, but my lips reacted before I could and kissed back. It was awsome and then he told me that he liked me since we bacame friends, but was too afraid to talk to me about it. We went out for awhile, but decided to break up when we realized that we had different interests, but we still wanted to stay friends and that maybe we would go out again.

Well I have told my mum and my 3 best mates and they were all ok they just said we still love you but just that tad more now as you can take us shopping lol and that was it lol nuffin special