Hi, well I need some advice. I mean I came out to pretty much most of my friends and almost to my whole school and my sister. But there's only one group of people I can't come out to. My parents. I love parents to death, but I don't know how much they love me. Everyone says parents are gonna love you no matter what. But my parents hate anyone that's different. Especially gay people. When I told them I was going to do Day of Silence, they totally got pissed at me and wanted to know why I was "sticking up for gay people." So should I come out to them? I feel like I'm lieing to them every time they ask if one of my friends is my girlfriends. I mean they all say don't tell them till you're sure and you're ok with it. Well I am, I just don't know when I should tell them, if at all. Can anyone help me?

just sit them down one day, have someone there for support, and then tell them that your gay.

I think the "parents will love you no matter what" line is actually pretty accurate. They haven't given their blood, sweat and tears to raise you for I don't know how long only to cast you aside because you don't like girls.

To give you an example, I was somewhat terrified of coming out to my mother on account of the fact she and her family had some religious leanings. Whilst my mother over a number of years slowly turned away from religion for a number of reasons, the one thing she always believed in was that homosexuality was wrong and wasn't "natural". And despite some initial shock and the typical "well I want you to get an AIDS test" she is fine with it now. She accepts that I am still her son and that nothing about my personality has changed - the person she has come to love is still here, just she won't be getting any grandkids out of me.

i was walking up stairs last night and i have recently thought about comong out to my rents so last night im walking upstairs and hear from my moms voice thank god we dont have a gay child

I think more than anything there is no textbook answer for coming out to your parents and we have heard alot of them. The thing is that we are all individuals and all of our scenarios are different and we must respect that and make judgements in accordance with that. I have a frriend who came out to his parents and they are really waelthy and they absolutely flipped to the extent of getting divorced. Another friends father was abusive and conservative and when he found out he nearly killed him.

So you need to do what makes you happy and safe. If it means coming out to them then go for it but if it means keeping quite then do it.

Just remember that your sexuality makes up a part of you not all of you,

This is a topic that i can fully relate to. I've told everyone EXCEPT my parents. My dads got this thing going where he really wants kids, and i really dunno if i can give them to him. And my mum always been like i have nothing against gays, but your not one. And i just can't tell them, i could never just say it to them.....

i haven't come out all the way, i have only told a few of my closest friends. they understand what i am going through. Seriously, my dad is a pastor, what will people think when they hear that a pastors son is gay?what will become of him? I don't know if i could ever tell my parents, but i don't want to break their hearts and i don't want them to find out when i am like thirty and not dating girls. It's a tough decision that one must make on the way their family operates. that's all i can say. sorry if i wasn't much help

just one day when u and ur parents are alone jus tell them u have some news and tell them, but ease into it though.

ya my parents found out the hard way with me... i was on this site and gave a few people my e-mail address and they e-mailed me... my parents logged on to my e-mail (dont know how) and found these guys... they questioned me to the point where i was breaking down... my parents seem in denial at times but they're accepting and try to understand...
Parents are the hardest people to tell... I have told like my whole school pretty much... I gave a speech on gay and equal rights and then i was showing people a hot picture of my friend Robbie (met him here) and they all sortof guessed i havent confirmed their thoughts
If your hiding tell your parents it will help