Well...I'll make it breif...but I knew I was bisexual in year 5 when I fancied my French teacher, and the I just kinda knew...but recently I just dont' fancy guys anymore...so I'm kinda just getting comfortable with being gay.
I told my mate when I was in year 7...and she ditched me...but thats another story...and I told my parents the same night...they were cool about it.
Now...I really want to tell my best friend...but I have no idea how she is going to take it...she has never expressed any negative feelings about gays...not infront of me anyway...but some of my other mates have...like calling people 'lesbos' and using the word 'gay' to describe something they don't like. I think my friends at school(not including my bestmate) know, because I went out with one of them and the others knew, but I think they thought it was a joke, but I am serious, but we split up because she got a boyfriend...
just recently I've been going on other gay chat forums and have bcome friends with some other lesbians which is great because I don't have to pretend while I'm chatting with them, like I do with my friends. I want to be able to talk to my mates like I do with them, you know, like talking about who I have a crush on and stuff like that, because I'm kind of pretending to facy guys, but I don't. And one mate thinks I have a boyfriend, coz I told her because she was calling me a lesbian and she wanted me to prove I'm straight, so I said I've got a boy friend, which infact I dont.

I want to tell a group of friends at school aswell...but one of them keeps calling me a lesbo because they know I fancy a teacher(so i suppose I'm kinda out to them.) and it's up setting me a bit.

I'mg oing to stop now before I bore you...I just want some advice on how to tell them and what to say...please post any suggestions...

I can't say I support the boyfriend decision,but I don't know what I would've done if I were you. By now nobody asked me if I was gay, so I didn't have to find a counter-argument. Lucky me.

Anyway, about people calling things they dislike gay does not mean that thye all have something with gay people. For example my sister just mentioned yesterday a guy in some movie that he dressed very gay (as in eww) but her best friend when she went to work in the USAs was a gay guy. And they hanged along a lot, she told me a lot about me... Oh btw, she doesn't know I'm gay.

I have told only two people by now, my two best friends (guy and girl). The [girl] best friend took it much better, as we now share another thing: guys. Two hours we talked on messenger only about guys. I'm lucky that she is open-minded and I knew that she had nothing with gay people. Well... I guess you should see what people think about gay people, but strictly this subject. Mentioning that something is "gay" doesn't mean that they have something against gay people.

Good luck, and don't make a rushed decision. Wait until you are ready and feel comfortable to come out! It's a decision based on how you, and not the others, feel. Cheers!

-Mihai

The thing you haveto remember, is that the best thing you can do, is to be honest.. With everyone else, and yourself.. The boyfiend thing was not really a good idea, but its done, so no use whining about it now... I'm not saying you should go up to them, and just yell out "I'm gay!" or anyhting like that... but you do need to tell them eventually.. If they won't accept you for who you are, then they aren't really friends..

Take your time, and do it when you are ready.. Not before. But from what I have heard from some of my friends.. The longer you leave it, the harder it is.

Hello. Yes, I think that the most important thing to do in your case is to quit the name-calling, and stop using homophobic terms to cover up who you are. Once you have done that, then you can start by sorting out who you really are. You seem like you care too much about what others may think about you and your sexual orientation. Being openly gay is a lot less worse than you may think, at least that's what I experienced. I too had issues at first with what people thought of me, but the most important thing is to be yourself. I don't know if you are the same, but before I came out, I was scared that I would somehow appear different to people, than before I came out. That is not the case. You are very much you, and if people have an issue with that, they are not worthy of your friendship. And let me clarify the coming out thing (at least the way I did, and still do it); you don't have to go to every single person and tell them you are gay, nor do you have to introduce yourself as gay. Just bring it up when it's relevant, to those people who you don't mind sharing it with. At first it's hard, but it'll be easier and easier as life goes on. It's a very personal thing, and it's entirely your choice with whom you share who you are. You say you are scared about what your good friend may think, bring the issue up casually in conversation. If it seems like your friend is ok with gay people, then bring it up. It may be better than you think.