Ok i most definetly can NOT come out. Some schools out there are accepting and stuff but mine is not. The other day my mom saw my screen name gayteen1113 on mail or something on the computer and completely flipped out. She said she didnt want me to be gay and that i shouldnt be- so what did i do- i told her of course im not mom thats from someone else. School is another important factor. We have those kids out there that are "cool" and they i am gonna say are 1/2 the cause of this (and adults are the other half) but how can you come out in an enviroment that wont accept you. Its so hard trying not even to act gay let alone be gay! Tell me what you guys think and i want to here your problems and your coming out stories- i would appreciate it greatly

-Mike

if i were you, i would've used that opportunity to come out, beacuse your mom already had a small inital shock/worry that you were gay, so it wouldn't be completely out of no where. And i'm pretty sure now she suspects you're gay, because no matter how hard you try and play off that 'gayteen1113' was somebody else's, i think as a mother, she will still be suspicious about the whole thing. anyways, taht's what I would've done, you may not be ready to do that yet. you can read my coming out stories in my blogs thru my profile, i just posted them last night. no matter what the circumstances are, coming out is tough and you just have to gather up the courage to do it. good luck.

btw your cute

Hey,
I understand totaly what you are saying.....i was in the same place about a year and a half ago. I to live in a very close minded town....and my rents where "against" homosexuality (not sure exactly what that means). Anywyas before i came out....lets just say i was not a happy camper....all the comments that people...both adults and guys my age made all the time about "fags".....and well...youve heard em all im sure. Nobody had even the littlest clue that i was gay....i was involved in sports....hung out with all the "right people"....said all the "right things" bla bla bla. The problem was....that i knew damn well i was gay....and the thought of going through life playing and pretending i was someone i am not just didnt seem the best way to go about it. Ultimatly i came to the disicion that i would rather go through the rest of HS without friends....and getting shit all the time rather than playing stupid games. My coming out story is long....and im going to spare you the details so i dont put u to sleep. But basicaly....i came out...went through some pretty bad shit....but now things are awsome....not perfect....but i couldnt have ever imagined my life could be so good....i thought it wouldnt be till i went to college that things would be good....i have all new friends....a bf.....and believe it or not, finnaly, my rents not only accept me...but i actualy think they respect me more (that one blows me away still). If youve read any of my post youve probly read this one quote....but i give it to anyone, like you, that is concidering coming out. I not only believe it...but i live it........
"Its Better to be Hated for what You are than Loved for What your Not. "
Anyways dude....hope it all works out for ya....the only advise i would give is NOT to wait to long before coming out....life will just pass you by.
Jordan

look when i told my mom i thought she would hate me.But when i told her she gave me a hug and said good im happy for u and then she told me i hope your happy in life.Now i don't know how your mom is but i think she should be happy for u no matter what. I was like who the hell cares what people think. People should love u for who u are i mean u look like a nice guy and every thing and if u were my kid i would not really care if your gay or not.I don't really care now that your gay well i guess thats cuz im gay myself.You look really nice and your really cute i say tell her and get your self a nice guy.

Hey gayteen1113 I chatted with you the other day

Well it seems you are in quite a predicament...your mother obviously hates gays. The best thing that would work in your case would be to just upfront tell her but be strong and be normal.

If you feel that she will REALLY (liek OMG RLY RLY) hate you, then just don't tell her. Its as simple as that.

Good luck, report back to HQ ASAP.

Ok. You think your Mum flip. Well I recently came to my parents and they were cool with it. I also thought that my Mum would flip out cos she is really religious and also when she caught me on porn she almost kicked me out. but she was totally cool and said that she would always love me. Moral is that if ur mum loves u (which i guess she does) then she will accept u for who u r.
BTW ur really cute

For me what is most important is that different people have different levels of pressure that they can take and some people just buckle under pressure. So in some instances our stories will give you hope or strength but hopefully not stupidity because everyones circumstance is different and hence people deal with different things in different ways

So try do whats the best for you in this situation and also what guarentees your safety. Some of my friends got kicked out the house when they came out or raped by people in the community. So do what feels right to you!

Gayteen want to talk on msn? If you do PM me

ok, here is my stand on this. I think that you should just get it over with and tell JUST your parents. Then later on friends and ect. no rush with them. Or if you don't trust your parents to handle it, tell a trusted friend that won't open their mouth first. By doing this you will make the whole process thingy that much easier in the future. But, it has to happen sometime or other. I live in the same enviroment sorta. We have lezs everywhere!!!!!!!!!!!! People are ok with them, but here is lil ol' me, bi guy, and the world is falling apart. It won't be easy staring ppl down, but you must do it and not let them gain way on you. As to your peers, how much longer will you be with them? If you can go to a different school, like a trade school, go to it. It actually works. It is what I ended up doing, and I don't look at it as running, it was a compromise between me and my peers. But, anyways....let them talk, it's all ppl are good for. Your mom will love you no matter what too. You just have to let them know, and believe me it will work out evintually. and if ya wanna talk more and want my msn pm me, k?
Hammy

hey,
im in the exact same position. at my school im very popular. i varsity in football and wrestling. my older brother is a varsity lineman in collage, my parents were both bodybuilders. i know that they wouldnt understand if i were to tell them that i am gay. if i were to tell my friends they would flip, i would become the talk of the school, and who knows what my coach would end up thinking about me. if you were to ask me what to do, i would say dont come out. its just better that way.
- jacob