ok ok before i tell u why ive posted im crap at selling so i am sorry for that, any way. i meet this guy online about a year and a hafe ago and we got talking. we talked about stuff ie me coming out and stuff like that but i have always felt something eals when i talk to him i dont know how to exsplan it i just fill all good in side, the only problem is that he lives in anouther state , so i have mixed fillings im happy when i talk to him but at the same time im sad becaues i can not be with him.

i ges what i wont to know is it love or is it lust. seeings as i never had a boyfrend but i chat to heeps of other guys and thay dont fill like this i dont know im so confuesed pleas help i dont know how much more i can tack

*Is in the exact same boat*
Feel for you mate, its hard.
Hope you work it out.
xxx

i think my mane prob is that i had badf thorts of jumping of a cliff becaues i wonted to be with him so much and im herting becaues i cant i do need help

-<br /><br />Post edited by: Bnkk, at: 2007/05/21 11:41

I think that people almost set themselves up for failure when they start relationships with people who live in a different continent, country,state and anything else that's completly unattainable to get to. I usually try to only chat it up with people who at least live in the same state as me, so if we eventually get to the &quot; i want to meet u&quot; or &quot; i think i love you&quot; stage i will actually be able to say o.. me too.. when/where. Don't set your self up for failure like that, its like drunk driving intentionally, it can't end well babe..

been there...but yes you are in love. if its fate, you will end up with that person no matter what. I once fell for someone while on vacation but he was insecure so...well, I couldnt deal with it anymore. I think it would be best to end it or if you want to try and make it work...plan for the future. just a warning...both of your &quot;needs&quot; might get the best of you so someone might get hurt. Be careful.

Ready4Luv09 wrote:

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I think that people almost set themselves up for failure when they start relationships with people who live in a different continent, country,state and anything else that's completly unattainable to get to. I usually try to only chat it up with people who at least live in the same state as me, so if we eventually get to the &quot; i want to meet u&quot; or &quot; i think i love you&quot; stage i will actually be able to say o..:blush: me too.. when/where. Don't set your self up for failure like that, its like drunk driving intentionally, it can't end well babe..:ohmy:

true love will stop at nothing

well yesterday i told him that i dont think i could do it pack up and leve australia to be with him so i brok it off very hard but we are still frends so at least that is somthink well thort i would let u guys know

Talking entirely objectively, I don't know you or the details of the relationship you described, but there's only so much you can learn about someone online.

Based on what you wrote, I would say you're in lust. You've obviously talked a lot with this person, about things that are personal and important to you. And maybe in your case, they're things that you haven't discussed with anyone else, so of course you're going to feel like you have a deeper connection. But you can't love someone, genuinely love someone, until you've had the chance to meet them, and spend time with them, and fit into their life.

Now I'm not going so far as to say that it's impossible, but the chances of it happening and ending in a productive, healthy relationship are pretty slim.

Only you know what this person means to you. If you can imagine spending all your time with them, and taking them out for dinner with friends, or weekends with relatives, then maybe it's something you should pursue.