I think that like half the people on here that age is just a number. Agreed. You have to be careful and half the time quite secretive?? but if you both love each other age should not come between it

I think that if you truly love someone and your motives are pure then age doesn't really matter. At the same time though seems like there's a lot of older people out there that jus wanna perv on someone young and that seems really creepy.

I don't think people should be penalized for going out with someone older/younger than they are simply because we do not understand their desires. I personally do not understand why you would be attracted to someone 5-10 years younger or older than yourself, yet many people would not understand why I would be attracted to members of the same sex and feel that I should be penalized for their lack of understanding. As long as everything in their relationship in consensual I don't see a problem.

The age issue is a big one. Large age gaps are NOT GOOD--at all. Sure, there are times when it works (although I admit I have never seen one, gay or straight), but age difference is a good indication that there's something wrong with somebody.

Think about it. Why would a much older man want to date someone who is so less mature, less settled, less able to fend for himself in the world? It's typically a sign of an emotional developmental problem (This I have seen in both gay and straight relationships numerous times).

Likewise, why would a much younger guy want to date the older man? To some degree, a heightened level of maturity might be there. But you have to be careful that the younger man isn't trying to "act grown up."

Age CAN be just a number, but it's highly unlikely. I'm not saying it's impossible; I'm saying it's something to watch out for.

As for the age of consent laws, I barely see the difference between an 18-year-old having sex with the 60-year-old and the 16-year-old having sex with him. Both are likely to be screwed up situations.

am 16 and i think i would say my limmit would be a 19 year old.

the youngest ive ever liked (i still do) is 14. But thats only because i know him dead well and we get on loads. its was sort of a love at first sight lol.

I think 3 or 4 years is enough, but it seems to be more 'wrong' when you're young.. for some reason!

Like some people's parents are 5 years apart and nobody thinks much of it, but if a 21yr old was dating a 16yr old, there would be uproar!

I think it depends on your place within the "Youth/Middleage/Old" category

Listen sweety, there is no such thing as ''age'' when it comes to relationships.

I know because; the age gap between my lover and I is alot more than that!!! (2 years is nothing) unless he's into things that you are not ready for...(that could be anything you are not confortable with...so don't rush)


Ben

You can't debate whether age gaps are good or bad--the value of any relationship is totally subjective to the people in it. If a 13-year-old wants to date a 25-year-old, so be it. I don't care.
It really puzzles me that gay people are here arguing that certain relationships are immoral because the law forbids them. I mean, don't you know your history? Gay sex among consenting adults was officially recognised as immoral AND illegal by most western governments until the '70s. We can't let the state determine our views regarding sex. Remember, we're supposed to be the enlightened ones when it comes to sex--we've had to liberate ourselves.

Hm, this one can sometimes be a tough one. I mean, i actually preffer older women as they aren't like the young ones, they're settled. And know what they want to do with their life. As gross as it sounds. But to be honest, i don't think it should matter, as long as you both love each other. I mean, look at Ellen DeGeneres and Portia...

i guess that the older you get, the less the age gaps in a relationship matter. like im 15 and what if i went out with a 18 year-old guy. first of all that would be hard...and then people would be like. "damn, WTH." [or say something offensive] what if i went out with a guy thats 14. ok. no big deal right? but around my age group, its like a big "WTF?! you must be desperate". a step forward, a step backwards, people will always think different. but i say, if you're with someone and u love them, forget gaps