I know plenty of people in real life who are religious and they don't have an iota of hate or distaste for gays. That being me, and my parents, as it so happens
We have plenty of people in our village who are good friends with us. Not all know I'm gay yet, but they probably wouldn't give a damn anyway. It's only people who abuse the religion and misinterpret it I think that then use it as an excuse to be homophobic.
I'm not religious myself, and I don't really agree with Christianity, but I highly doubt God hates gay people, and I certainly don't think you're gonna go to hell. Someone who says that is probably more likely to go to hell themselves for twisting God's words. And yes, I know the bible is full of contradictions but what some people say is taking it too far.