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 To live a life where you have to hide the very person you are is to some people unacceptable. Other people become tired of others guessing and talking behind their backs. It’s really a matter of personal choice. One thing is for sure though, and I can’t stress this enough…tell nobody until you are sure yourself. As a kid I would often participate in sexual play with other lads. As a teenager I had other homosexual experiences. BUT you must realise that such activities occur in the adolescent lives of nearly all people, gay and straight alike. It’s a natural process of discovering sexuality.
Even if you feel that your parents already know you are gay, there is sometimes a need to put it into words, because by doing this, you force them to face the truth. This may sound like a brutal thing to force your parents into, but if it’s not done, it’s possible that they are not accepting you for what you are – like living a lie. At the age of 17 I think I was pretty much certain I was gay, as I had no attraction to girls in an emotional way. It was another year before I told my parents after this realisation. For me I felt that it was unfair to my parents to keep my sexuality hidden because I was staying out ‘til past midnight most nights with my boyfriend. This was causing them concern because I’d never tell them where I was (a gay bar) or who I was with. Being in a very close family, I felt that I had to tell them. If you feel you must tell your parents about your sexuality, then I wish you all success, but to those who are unsure, I recommend that you wait until you are certain before you say anything. Many people never tell their parents. It’s your life and it’s your decision. In the end, you know your parents better than anybody else, so you know how they’ll react most likely. If things are fine as they are, and you are happy to hide your sexuality, then you may feel that there is no reason to tell anybody. That’s fine and it’s your decision – don’t let anybody else make it for you. One final point I would like to mention is that during the 1960’s thousands of gay people came out in public, which is one of the major events which has given us the more liberal world we have today. If we then sit back and say nothing, then things will never get better and may even deteriorate. But coming out is a big step, and is not always made by everyone. It is, in the end, a personal choice. See the coming out to friends article via. Advice and information for further information on WHY to come out. Only registered users can write comments.
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