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Meeting People from the Internet

Monday, 26 July 2004

Meeting people from the Internet can be both an enjoyable experience and also a frightening one. It is not uncommon for two people to fall in love over the Internet. In fact it’s completely normal. But before you decide to meet someone for the first time, think about safety!

Before you decide to meet

• Make sure you have spoken to the person you are going to meet and that you have his/her number
• Make sure you have a picture of the other person
• It is also a good idea if you use a web cam to double check that the person you are talking to is actually who they say they are.

OK now you’re sure that it is the correct person and there is no funny business going on. If you are having doubts or the other person has not provided the evidence you want it is probably a BAD idea to meet this person.

Before you meet

• Decide to meet in a public area. Never go directly to someone’s house.
• Tell a friend that you are meeting someone and give him or her essential details Where/When/Who. It is also a good idea to give this friend the other person’s number in case of emergencies.

Meeting

• If you are still unsure or nervous, a great tip is to sit across the road from where you are supposed to meet and wait for the person to turn up. This way you can truly check to see if the person is genuine.
• It is a bad idea to go to someone’s house straight away. Wait until you have met a couple of times.

Scenarios

You meet and the other person doesn't seem to be into you.. If you feel this is the case don't worry or panic, it could simply be due to the fact that the person you have met is nervous. Why not ask them if everything is OK? When the other person doesn't like you or you don't know, do not ask or enquire. Basically don't push your luck, simply try and enjoy your day as much as you can!

If you meet and it turns out the person is not who they had claimed to be, leave as soon as you can. This is where you see the benefit of meeting in a public place. if you d not want to rudely dash off, say that you need to leave with 15 minutes because you are wanted elsewhere (perhaps say at work or at home).

if you do not fancy or do not like the person that you have met, think of an excuse to cut your day short. There is no point in feeling bad for not being into the person you have met, nor any reason why you should effectively waist time. Do not be rude by leading the person on, flirting however naturally it may come to you should be avoided to ensure upset does not pursue.

Remember you meet people at your own risk and there are people out there who will try to deceive and trick you.

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29-11-2008 12:17

i would say never meet anyone from the internet alone, i went to meet a lad who told me he was younger then he was just to talk and to be friends but he thought something different. he thought he could kiss me and then have sex with me which was something i was never looking for because i was only 14 but i never thought anyone would be like that with a 14 year old so i say never meet anyone new alone because most people won`t do anything to someone who is not alone

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