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Tuesday, 22 November 2005

Meeting gay peopleYou're probably not the only gay in the village. It seems to be the case that around one in twenty to thirty people are gay. That doesn't mean you're going to fancy the boy in 9E just because he's gay too, but it can be nice to know he's there!

Finding other gay people can depend on where you live. If you're in rural parts, it's not impossible, but can be harder to find other like-minded individuals. This is partly because the pressure not to reveal non-straight sexuality tends to be greater. It's also because there are fewer people around.

In urban areas, there will probably be more obviously gay people. Still, in both cases, if you can't yet go to the bars, or even if you can, for that matter, it can be tricky finding other gay people you'll get on with, become friends with - or even fancy. But it can be done.

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26-11-2008 10:23
I go to a pretty small school in Alaska, and I found that if you ask girls if they know anyone they'll prolly tell you, I've found like 3 guys that way, but noone I'm attracted to...
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21-11-2008 23:18
I live in a medium size area Douglasville and there are soc call "gay" teens but i'm no really sure who
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12-11-2008 02:44
Hey!! 
 
I am sixteen! :) and I live in New Zealand, I have been unlucky in that I go to a boys school and fall for people I know, but I have confessed to around 3 people that I like them and it went really well. I am closer to some of them and more distant with others it doesn't matter. 
 
I felt really great when I had told them the truth you could say it was liberating.
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27-10-2008 08:41
I live in the middle of California (Fresno)and yeah theres same gay guys out there but I can't seem to find them,so if your out there send me a message.
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19-09-2008 23:09
i'm 16, and live in Oldham, n i feel it impossible findin another guy who's gay/bi. 
I confessed to one of my friends tht i lyked him, and it threw us apart, and now i feel theres nobody left in Oldham! 
 
So if there is anyone reading this from Oldham, thn plz msg me xxx
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10-09-2008 22:45
dont think that just cause u leve school means everyone is open and diferent its all the same no matter where u go collage is the same as high school when it comes to sexual orientation even if they say that they are open to all
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10-09-2008 22:12
i live in a town with about 65,000 people in and theres only around 300 my age and i know one of them is bi but he never really loved me propperly he just wanted the sex :( :( :cry
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31-08-2008 22:02
I forgot that typing an eight then ) makes a smiley face on that last comment. but im 18
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31-08-2008 21:59
I live in Dallas, TX and im looking for other gay guys around my age (18) to hang out with and have fun with. I just joined so i dont have a picture but i promise i look normal. send me a message.
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26-08-2008 12:11
hey ppl im bi girl who lives in essex looking for friends off all types and ages look me up :grin
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26-08-2008 00:28
I live in Rural Northern New York and the nearest hamlet has 250 people which is 1 mile away, and the nearest village has 9,000 people which is 8 miles away. There are probably other gays in the village(Potsdam) because it has SUNY Potsdam and Clarkson University, but they would all be way older than me. I actually know another person in my school who is gay, but he doesn't know I know, and going up and saying, "I know you're gay!" is not a good thing to do. That's why I hope to move somewhere where there are actually people.
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19-08-2008 20:42
any gay or bi guys around the age of 16 who live somewhere near worthing, west sussex??
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12-08-2008 22:14
anyone near watford, herts
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05-08-2008 23:11
Im so sad, live in Texas, in a suburb near Dallas, and no one here is gay I swear, I would come out, but Texans are probably the most homophobic people u will meet, and some guys get beat up and its horrible, wish i knew some gays around here, if ur near by give me a hollar
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05-08-2008 23:11
Im so sad, live in Texas, in a suburb near Dallas, and no one here is gay I swear, I would come out, but Texans are probably the most homophobic people u will meet, and some guys get beat up and its horrible, wish i knew some gays around here, if ur near by give me a hollar
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05-08-2008 23:11
Im so sad, live in Texas, in a suburb near Dallas, and no one here is gay I swear, I would come out, but Texans are probably the most homophobic people u will meet, and some guys get beat up and its horrible, wish i knew some gays around here, if ur near by give me a hollar
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05-08-2008 23:11
Im so sad, live in Texas, in a suburb near Dallas, and no one here is gay I swear, I would come out, but Texans are probably the most homophobic people u will meet, and some guys get beat up and its horrible, wish i knew some gays around here, if ur near by give me a hollar
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18-07-2008 16:18
anyone in west yorkshire? 
just another lonesome bi girl lol
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16-07-2008 18:08
If it's 1 in 10 I want t o know where they're hiding! 
 
I just broke up with like the only other gay guy I know :'( Cornwall's so empty...
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12-07-2008 06:39
anyone around bloomington, indiana? 
im 15 and am a little curious about all this.. 
message me sometime..
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28-06-2008 14:42
omg i wana find a guy for fun times loll 
haha i have a friend i like 
but he has a partner :( which suks 
but he says hes open to doing things 
cuz he says he likes me lol, so yeh we both think each is hot 
now i just gotta hook up with or somthing lol, and hpe his bf aint fin out 
i dont think his bf cares anwyays, but still!
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19-06-2008 07:40
I live in a small suburb in northern California. I wasn't out during high school, so I really didn't get an opportunity to get to know any gay people in my town. And sadly, I don't have a car to drive any ware. I'm a day trip away from gay mecca but I'm bound to the lonely world that is the biking distance around my house :sigh.
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08-06-2008 02:19
if u live in the uk try the space youth project or conextons they are happy to help u find people like u :) :zzz
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05-06-2008 19:57
ugh. 
im 16 and i live in louisville ky (close to it anyway more in shepherdsville) and there are like no gay/bi guys anywhere. it sucks so bad. 
i like a guy, that i met on myspace and we've kinda had a thing going for a while but he lives in florida. 
hes gonna try to come down here soon. but idk if we'll be able to actually get any privacy hes 18 and im only 16-and idk if my mom would really let us spend time together. 
=[ 
ive only come out to a few ppl. 
and it was hard. but i go to a christian school so its gonna suck when i do. 
-www.myspace.com/jonathanpatric
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04-06-2008 02:05
its really hard for me to find anyone from schools because most guys are too afraid to be different but im leaving school after my exams which i am sitting now and i hope to meet some people then but right now if anyone lives in London i don't mind traveling just pm me
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02-06-2008 19:34
:sigh I live in a rural area and I can't find another gay or bi guy. It is so BORING! Anybody in cumbria and around 15 please PM me, ok?
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30-05-2008 00:00
I Live In Northren Ireland...And Like I Know No Other Gay Guys Or Girls...So If Youu Live In The Belfast/Lisburn Area...Give Us An E-maill...x
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25-05-2008 01:25
lol my best friend is gay, but oh well 8)
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24-05-2008 04:39
its hard to find other gay guys and it does not help that i live in a small town outside london ont, in the middle of no were :sigh and my parents do not no that im gay. im 15 if any lives in london pm me
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21-05-2008 00:49
I've been out of the closet since September of 2007 but it still seems impossible to find any gay/bi guys. I live in KC which is a fairly large, somewhat liberal city, but I have yet to encounter any other gay/bi guys. Gay/bi girls are EVERYWHERE, but there are no guys. :?
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14-05-2008 01:42
i live in the US 
and i also live in new hampshire, in a SUPER RURAL area, like the best way i can describe it to you is that i can smell the manuer fromt he corn feilds that are 3 MILES AWAY FROM MY HOUSE! 
i know, not exactly high class, but you get the point. 
anyways, i really wanna meet some guys. i mean i keep falling for these straight guys, and i've talked to them about it and they just say "dude, i'm 100% straight (which i really doubt) but whatever. 
seriously, it sucks, my entire sex life consists of my right hand and a magazine =[
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02-05-2008 00:32
I know many gay people 
We're real good friends 
Shame... 
 
Anyway 
I won't abandon hope
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19-04-2008 17:47
I REALLY want to find a gay friend! :cry
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16-04-2008 01:03
The problem for me is living in the country, and going to a school on the brink of city :( 
 
And the only gay or bi guys there want sex, not relationships! GAH!
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14-04-2008 09:59
my problem is trying to find a nice gay guy (hard enough for me) that doesn't just want sex with me (seeing how all the gay ppl i've ever been interested in have asked about sex) :( :? help if u live in bridgend area of south wales please!
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31-03-2008 23:59
c n my case findin lesbian or bi gurls iz no prob. now finding single ones iz tricky. :sigh
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29-03-2008 04:57
I live in a relatively big city, but everyone in my neighborhood went to the same elementary, middle school, and now highschool. Because of this, I'm kind of afraid to come out at school. My closer friends know, but we don't talk about it during school. 
My school has SAGA (straight and gay alliance), but 95% of the people in it are straight girls who want to be friends with gay boys. 
I'm not old enough to go to the bars, so I'm finding it difficult to meet other lesbians. 
I live in Edmonton, if you know anything/ anywhere that might help, give me a shout? =)
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16-03-2008 21:43
i live in a small town in northern Pennsylvania. I find that it's really very difficult to be gay, lesbian, or bisexual here, because its not something that we are brought up to accept. There are quite a few lesbian / bisexual girls here, but it seems to be more okay for a girl to be gay or bisexual, than a boy. The straight guys think two girls making out is hot, but when it comes to boys getting physical in any way, neither gender seems to accept it very well. There is one gay boy that goes to my school, but he either gets picked on a lot or is totally ignored because guys are afraid that he will like them. He is an extrememly open and feminine (flaming) gay person. A lot of other gay / bisexual guys (like me) are afraid to come out, because everyone at my school seems to think that all gay men are like him, and i dont want to be ridiculed. and at the same time, it is very difficult for me to find another guy because i dont know who they are because they are afraid to come out too... :sigh
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09-03-2008 05:53
I've been bi for a long time, not even knowing what the term was until 13.. And I'm 15 now. It's hard...extremely hard to find people in my town..X_x
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23-02-2008 19:28
hard for me to in middlesborough :cry
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