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Tuesday, 22 November 2005

Meeting gay peopleYou're probably not the only gay in the village. It seems to be the case that around one in twenty to thirty people are gay. That doesn't mean you're going to fancy the boy in 9E just because he's gay too, but it can be nice to know he's there!

Finding other gay people can depend on where you live. If you're in rural parts, it's not impossible, but can be harder to find other like-minded individuals. This is partly because the pressure not to reveal non-straight sexuality tends to be greater. It's also because there are fewer people around.

In urban areas, there will probably be more obviously gay people. Still, in both cases, if you can't yet go to the bars, or even if you can, for that matter, it can be tricky finding other gay people you'll get on with, become friends with - or even fancy. But it can be done.

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12-05-2008 09:55
i live in ilford essex and i havent meat anther gay or bi person i whould be sow happy to to find a gay friend and lover my msn add is This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it and my number is 07903259117 :) :?
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01-05-2008 23:32
I know many gay people 
We're real good friends 
Shame... 
 
Anyway 
I won't abandon hope
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19-04-2008 16:47
I REALLY want to find a gay friend! :cry
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18-04-2008 23:33
I'm finding it really hard to find anyone anywhere :sigh .  
It's really hard im a 14 year old boy in Kent, England. if anyone else lives in south east england please can you contact me on This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it
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16-04-2008 00:03
The problem for me is living in the country, and going to a school on the brink of city :( 
 
And the only gay or bi guys there want sex, not relationships! GAH!
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14-04-2008 08:59
my problem is trying to find a nice gay guy (hard enough for me) that doesn't just want sex with me (seeing how all the gay ppl i've ever been interested in have asked about sex) :( :? help if u live in bridgend area of south wales please!
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31-03-2008 22:59
c n my case findin lesbian or bi gurls iz no prob. now finding single ones iz tricky. :sigh
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29-03-2008 03:57
I live in a relatively big city, but everyone in my neighborhood went to the same elementary, middle school, and now highschool. Because of this, I'm kind of afraid to come out at school. My closer friends know, but we don't talk about it during school. 
My school has SAGA (straight and gay alliance), but 95% of the people in it are straight girls who want to be friends with gay boys. 
I'm not old enough to go to the bars, so I'm finding it difficult to meet other lesbians. 
I live in Edmonton, if you know anything/ anywhere that might help, give me a shout? =)
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16-03-2008 20:43
i live in a small town in northern Pennsylvania. I find that it's really very difficult to be gay, lesbian, or bisexual here, because its not something that we are brought up to accept. There are quite a few lesbian / bisexual girls here, but it seems to be more okay for a girl to be gay or bisexual, than a boy. The straight guys think two girls making out is hot, but when it comes to boys getting physical in any way, neither gender seems to accept it very well. There is one gay boy that goes to my school, but he either gets picked on a lot or is totally ignored because guys are afraid that he will like them. He is an extrememly open and feminine (flaming) gay person. A lot of other gay / bisexual guys (like me) are afraid to come out, because everyone at my school seems to think that all gay men are like him, and i dont want to be ridiculed. and at the same time, it is very difficult for me to find another guy because i dont know who they are because they are afraid to come out too... :sigh
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09-03-2008 04:53
I've been bi for a long time, not even knowing what the term was until 13.. And I'm 15 now. It's hard...extremely hard to find people in my town..X_x
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07-03-2008 13:38
Hey im gay and 16 i live in Woking add me on msn and get in touch xx: 
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02-03-2008 21:15
hi im bi im 13 and live in basildon if there any bi or gay ppl between 12-15 add me on msn at  
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23-02-2008 18:28
hard for me to in middlesborough :cry
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18-02-2008 07:24
I'm gay and I live in Minnesota too! I'm out to everyone and everyone is okay with it. It's great.
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24-01-2008 19:46
Yea im having a hard time i live in Minnesota in a small town where being gay is something not brought up :sigh
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12-01-2008 22:48
I really don't know where all the dykes are hiding!! I live in Toronto; biggest city in Canada, and yet I can barely find any other girls who like girls....
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12-01-2008 22:48
I really don't know where all the dykes are hiding!! I live in Toronto; biggest city in Canada, and yet I can barely find any other girls who like girls....
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11-01-2008 04:21
i live in a small farming town in wisconsin with like a population of 5,000 which is nothing when like not even 1/4 of that are teens my age :cry
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24-12-2007 01:33
I live in between L.A. and Vegas. 
It's a small town so there's like no one who's gay.
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23-12-2007 22:00
any one near la or glendora california it is really hard to find gay guys i am 13 and my name is cory if you live near or wahere ever emale me at This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it :zzz
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13-12-2007 02:24
i find it really hard to find gay ppl i cant find any1 at school or any where alse :cry
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01-12-2007 20:30
It's so damn hard to find gblt people where I live :cry if there's anyone here in northern Ireland I'd love to hear from you! (in a friendly way that is =P)
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29-11-2007 13:47
any gay guys near linlthgow, maybe falkirk? cos i cant find any1 at all, preferably around the age 15 like me :) cos i just cant find any1 :sigh
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27-11-2007 02:41
yeah im brian and live in richmond va and its hard because there are no gay/bi boys around here
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23-11-2007 07:35
Hey I'm travis, and it's really hard for me to find gay/bi ppl...like cincy ohio it's really conservative S:...i'm looking for someone who lives round blue ash (ohio)...it suxs that meet ppl its really diff, specially when ur not out
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05-11-2007 16:10
Hi my name is Zane I am 15 16 in Jan. I live in Colorado and I am like the only gay guy in my town!! :cry :( :x :sigh HELP
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31-10-2007 21:21
i am looking for some1 who lives near liverpool who is male and is 14 years old but i can't seem to find eny1 and part of maghull is homophobic (especially maghull high school which I GO TO!!!!).
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28-10-2007 20:45
Realy, I Doubt This Article Like So MAny ppl. i Have Only Foud About 12 PPL In Suffolk. And Suffolk Is Getting Bigger Each Day. I Feal Like The Only GAy In The Villiage1 
 
Plz Contact me If You Live In Suffolk  
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28-10-2007 20:45
Realy, I Doubt This Article Like So MAny ppl. i Have Only Foud About 12 PPL In Suffolk. And Suffolk Is Getting Bigger Each Day. I Feal Like The Only GAy In The Villiage1 
 
Plz Contact me If You Live In Suffolk  
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21-10-2007 23:01
anyone around harrisburg pa????? there are a couple guys in my school that i like(one of thems my neighbor :grin:) but i dont know if anybody is gay!!!!!!!!! torturous :(
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12-10-2007 18:45
OMG I WANT TO FIND SOMNEONE!!!! ITS SO HARD!!!! :cry
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10-10-2007 18:57
lol im in 9E :grin
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27-09-2007 07:07
I can't find anyone! that I fancy that is. It's lonely
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22-09-2007 16:35
I just want to find love. Why is it so difficult?
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19-08-2007 16:17
hmm well that article, like the others, was both very useful and informative. However statistics I saw on tv, suggested that not 1 in 20, or indeed 1 in 30 people are gay, but 1 in 10.
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13-08-2007 01:50
hi i was reading you artical and found it interseting 
i was wondering i you could answer this question 
did you think it is harder to find love if you are gay because i just want to fall in love but i cant find anyone and i knoe it sounds stupid but it just want love
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12-08-2007 21:58
:grin  
Hey Dave 
I live in Loughor if that's any help. Would you like to meet up for some fun, frolics n friendship sometime? Maybe we could meet in the Reverand James pub for a drink or something? That's halfway between Gorseinon n Loughor. How bout next Saturday night. I'll be wearing a bright pink top.
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Ivor Hardy
12-08-2007 21:49
:cry  
I'm the only gay in the village and I think i'll die of sexual frustration if I don't get laid soon. What shall I do? Do any of you live near a small village called Gorseinon in Wales (a very homophobic country)?
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dave gomes
09-08-2007 22:31
Im 15 and lonely constantly, never even met another gay guy (or at least an out gay or bi guy) and i go to an all boys school with 1300 pupils!! Quite a few people know I'm gay, but im not really out. Everyone in my year at school calls me gay and makes fun of me, its upsetting. Im in Bucks, england, and can be funny when not upset lol.
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06-08-2007 13:03
But that doesn't actualy awnser the question: 
" Finding Other Gay People" 
does it. Lol
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