if i ever told my friends and family they would all kill me i need advice so bad

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My family and friends don't care really, others at my school do, i live in america so everyones closed minded it seems, i get called a fag a lot, last time someone constantly harassed me i kicked their ass at school. 
 
I haven't exactly come out on the internet though, because I have a music career to worry about, and I'm afraid I would lose a lot of fans. 
 
But I'm extremely thankful to have parents and friends that are so cool with it, my dad makes the occasional gay joke, and so does my grandma, me and my friends, and my bandmates joke around to, it's pretty funny because my friend will say something like "Hey ass-pirate, you like to take it in the ass huh?" and I know he's just kidding, it feels good.

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I'm not out of the closet cus ppl around me allways put me down besause I act differnt they take a gusse and oh you're gay and they don't even know I don't have to know me to hat me sometimes I just want to go to sleep and not wake up... 
 
 
Can some one give me advise?

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I am lucky to go to a really nice school where homophobia is not really an issue...  
 
but I always seem to be kinda left out.. I am an emerging model with a great body and look... greater than most straight guys. but not even that seems to get me any respect since I think it is suspected amongst everyone that I am gay...

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Hey, is there any gay/bi guys who live in sheffield UK?

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I havnt come out yet but I do act (gay) so kids think it's ok 2call me a fag & queer. Girls r really nice about it but the guys act like I'm a disease.(don't catch the gayness)& it's bullshit. I'm beautiful though so I just tell myself they're just jealous. All u homophobes can jus suck it.

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Luckily my school isn't that bad, but on the day of silence I always have tape over my mouth and they tease me a bit. But I've always been very mature and I've always ignored any abuse I got. Thats probably the best way to deal with it, because they get bored if they can't get you to respond, and eventually they give up all together. 
Hope this helps! =]

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Well it's october half term and i've just come out and told friends over facebook, lol. I new i was gay like when i was 13 but just didn't want to tell anyone. The first person i told last year was my best friend and she didn't even move. She already new it but since she's like my best friend then she can deal with it. Then i told a few more people and they began to ask questions like "what kind of guys do you like" and "who do you fancy at school then". It doesn't effect me but just gets on my nerves. Atleast they didn't like turn on me and chase me off, lol.  
well i'm scared of going back to school because i don't know what the reaction will be from friends. 
Parents just told me off for doing it over interet, saying that i had told the whole world!. LOL 
Just my mum who just gives me that guilty look. 
I'm a outgoing and opinionated person so i'll go head strong into the world of unknown. Thats what makes it so fun because you don't know whats gonna happen next! I've always been bullied (been called gay) but now i'm just gonna say "yes, i am, and?" lol. They'll defo shut up then, lol. Love stuart

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my school is full of priks and i get called a fag or poof at least 15 to20 times a day thank god my friends defend me (there straight)bu it still hurts so for all u peplz out there geting teased u r not alone and the only real way to get them to stop and leave u alone is to ignore them just ignore them i no it is hard but evenually they get bored and go away and leave u alone so ignoe them and i hope this helps

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Reading all the comments I guess I'm really lucky - my family and friends are all fine with me being gay. 
 
Twas a bit shocking in my first relationship a few months ago when we held hands in the corridor at college and people were giving us evils - don't come too close you might catch the gayness

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pretty much my whole school knows (they're such gossips) lol and they're like all fine with it. and all the guys will act gay with me (even though they're not) and we'll have a laugh about it. i've had a couple of them being a bit bitchy, but i talked to them about it, and they didn't mean to upset me and didn't really mean it. so everythings fine with that now =). umm out of schools not so great tho. i get called a "cocksucker" and that quite a lot but i just get over it, and realise that if they can't accept what i am, then i don't need them. i do get on with most of the people and they stick up for me. and i feel so sorry for all of you that do go to school with homophobes and things cos i imagine it can't be nice i just hope that it all gets better for you and your true mates will stick with you.

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I came out my freshman year. It was a chain reaction i told my friends and they told theres. i go to a redneck school and i deal with homophobia everyday. All my friends are really protective so really all it gets to is some ass calling me a Queer. it doesn\'t bother me.

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I came out to my friends in my first year of college and they were cool about it yer i was drunk at the time but anyway lol only one person stopped talking to me because she thought i fancied her after my msn account was hacked but it just shows who your friends are and it hasn't affected my life. me and my friends are still as close as we were when they thought i was straight even though i've moved to the otehr side of the world lol hopfully people here are as nice about it x-X-x

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there is this kid dylin 
and he is 17  
we are in the eighth grade 
and unfortunatly he is a jerk 
he picks on me everyday 
... i told my teacher that he is being a jackass (using these words) 
and they did nothin bout it at first cause they didnt belive me 
so the one day i got pushed down the stairs and broke my arm (w.e) 
went to the hospital (stood it out) 
went back to school 3 days later and saw that he was kicked out of the skool! (think godd) but now his friends tell me that he is looking to kill me (w.e) 

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my school is full of pricks. i get call a faggot at least 3 times a day. 
i also get beat up. 
my twin sister loves joining them in tormenting me as well

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my school is full of pricks. i get call a faggot at least 3 times a day. 
i also get beat up. 
my twin sister loves joining them in tormenting me as well

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Im pretty lucky to have an awesome year group that really mix and dont care about what you are 
 
Most people just say its up to you not me ... 
 
But some people do care, eg in other yeargroups. They through comments at me occasionly, but i dont care. Just ignore them they are only saying it to try and act kool. 
 
One person in my year did have a problem with it and they talked about me behind my back. He lost a few friends over that

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heres the thing. in like 4th, 6th, and 7th grade, people called my gay cause I was really polite. In 4th grade I had no idea what gay was so i took no notice. In 6th and 7th grade, ppl called me gay, but i thought i wasnt so i took no offense to it. in 8th and 9th grade (im in 9th now) people dont think im gay cause im masculine acting now. the thing is, i met the most wonderful person ive ever talked to on a gay chat site like this one. im from AZ hes from Ontario. I wasnt to see him more than anything. we talk online all the time, and are gonna talk on the phone soon. at my school, there are a lot of lesbians, but like no gay guys, so im scared to come out. so far, i dont think anyone is bullied but that coulcd change if i come out.

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i hear alot about guys being physically abused cos of being gay  
its sad and horrible

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So far, i have had many thing thrown at me, people shouting things, people asking things, spreading shit, all sorts of stuff. But one day it stopped, because i turned round and told them to "shut the fuck up". One on the guys i told to shut the fuck up came up to me to punch, but three of my friends punched him first.  
 
Loads of my friends know im gay, and they dont mind. Your friends are the people you listen too, not the pricks that say immature comments.  
 
Since i came out, about 5 other people in my school have also had the courage to come out too. So, just think, your probably helping someone. Also remember, dont listen to the pricks:D

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I'm not really out yet; the only one that knows is my best friend, who's a true friend 'cause he's the first to back me up even though he's not huge on the idea, but people still push the accusation on me, and I've never really been bothered by it. I act the straight bit because everyone I know is a homophobe (and by God am I hoping for a companion sometime soon. I'm getting lonely, lol). Even still, nobody should ever take these words to heart. I've been down the whole wanting-to-die, suicidal path, and it's not fun, but if you let people get to you, you might end up there, so it's best to find a loyal friend or family member and talk to them about it. Trust me, once you tell someone, a HUGE weight is lifted off your shoulders and it becomes something you'll be proud of, which is how I feel about it.

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i am from the UK one day at high school (i in year 10 now) i asked my friends if they would hate me for being gay and they said YES. damn the camp gays. anyway i am str8 acting and nobody knows i am gay lol. str8 guys can be so easily fooled. i am looking to make a couple of gay friends and even meet some.

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And I Mean Guys Only Thanks 
 
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hi

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you know no one ever cared that im a lesbian, when i came out most people said "yeah we figured it out" and carried on =/

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I've never been physically bullied, just called 'fag' and 'queer' (in a negitive tone) Plus, there are so many 'fag hags' in my school I have plenty of girls that want to be friends just because I'm gay. There inlies the problem, how do I make guy friends that dont think I am always tring to hit on them? I am really masculine, and its still hard making guy friends. All of my old guy friends 'steer clear of the queer' would this be considered a type of bullying?

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err i remember telling my best friend i was bi, after that we grew really fuking close, i mean really close but 1 day his dad caught on and told him he needed to stop sense then it all ended, i love him to death and have for the last 4 yrs, he is the only guy i have ever felt anything for, ive sense then dated girls but my relationships never last becus when im with some 1 else i feel like utter shit and cant stop thinking about him, he has sense then banned the subject of r passed kissing me only once sense wat his dad said but we where really drunk, we where together for 2 yrs and have remained best friends for the other last 2, i need to move on but its impossible for me, he is everything to me, regardless of how he can act like a dickhead at times, and just drive me to the point of wanting to strangle him, i still love him more then anything in this world combined

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Sigh im gay and i hate it and i hate typing it ,,,, i told 1 guy at school who i thought was my m8, he spread it around and now i hate him but i kinda still have a superiority to him BECAUSE he is the homopho and HE IS SCARED OF ME. Most people think im gay coz i am a bit of an emo but thats the way i wana be, i aint told anyone since and im not in a rush to either i just dont see the point ,, telling my best friends wud just make things arkward between us ,,,,,,,,,, i wana guy irl to LOVE ( no that doesnt meen sex) i am 15 and i liv in newcastle,,, the reason i dnt get problems is coz i go to a public school and u cant get any fights there i duno what else to say,, i am a homopho myselff I THINK coz i always keep away frm gay people and i actualy call peeps gay as an insult,,i duno why i guess im jjust scared of being round out

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hi all

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i am 15 years old male and i am confused idk if i am gay i am startin 2 feel attraction to the same sex and i sometimes hav fantasies of sex wit the same gender am i gay?

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Going to an all boys school was never gonna be easy for a gay lad. 
To date, Ive been spat at, had books, chairs, bricks, scissors, and several other things thrown at me. This doesnt upset me though,what upsets me is how their actions affect other people who see it happening, and are two afraid to admit their own sexuality. 
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I got bullied at school before i even came out, but i think they pretty much geussed it. im from a rural area, and the people there were..sketchy to say the least, and i did find infact that the school was of little help. now i dont mean to slash any chances of school helping you. but i felt like it was me against the school. 
 
now quite why i wazs h8ed i wasnt to knoe. i wasnt cruel or mean, i was just an easy target i surpose. 
 
now had i known it was an offence...criminal, i would have seen the police, but how it was, it had been 2 years of solid bullying, with no help, so as you can imagene what happens as people become helpless and deprest, well things got pretty bad. But thie key is I DIDNT TELL ANYONE. that was the problem. 
 
well bullying was the problem but me not saying anything was from my side. 
 
anyway, my parents did move schools and i got my life back. i havent been able to forgive them for the way i was treated, but i can move on.

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I have been bulllied for being gay when i havent even come out to them yet... i think it is because i kinda act girly but i mean that is not true about all gay people...even though i am gay. when people make fun of me like call me gay i just make a comback like "yeah i am" it shuts them up so quick...i mean i am still a closet gay but i am proud of my sexualiy i just dont want people to hurt me for being myself.

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I've been verbally and physically harassed for my sexuallity, it was pretty scary, the second time i should have gone to the hospital though, cus i could have had a concusion. I think its terrible, and no one should go through that, no matter what the reason, there is no valid reason for physical or verbal abuse.

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In middle school, I was pretty much persecuted for being gay, but the school just sat back and watched. Then, I didn\'t know I dould go to the police and I would have if I knew it was an offence. I ended up with suicidal depression, but the school sat back for two years while anyone \"gay\" or thought to be gay, was beaten. It wasn\'t untill I transfered from the school (after having my ankle slammed in a heavy metal door to humiliate me further) that the schools administrative team noticed anything at all. I think that it is very important for younger people to know that they can tell people other than teachers that they are being harrased. I wish I had.

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i am not gay but i respect them for who they are and i think it is wrong for ppl to treat them diff

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my friend got into a fight last year after a ass hole tried to punch him becuse he was gay.(my friend kicked his but)and it makes me so mad how pple wont except goy bi or lez as normal

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What are we supposed to do if even the police wont help and the bullying gets worse?

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it doesn't seem fair

in my school at least, it seems like people generally leave the "out" gay guys alone (and the lesbians are safe of course). however, if a gay guy is fairly masculine (like me for example), he is not received with the same respect and/or kindness. i think that a lot of the guys at my school probably just try to ignore the effeminate guys, but they probably think the masculine gays are trying to trick them or something. i am just glad that i'll be graduating in june, and that i only had to take P.E. through the tenth grade.

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Im scared for the school to find out! PE changing would be even worse if they all thought i was trying to perv on them (which btw i would never do to them lot) I dont like ther personalitys so i wana keep away but they would prop see it as me wantin to get with every dam girl i see  
 
still my form teacher knows n shes great  
and so are *some* of my mates

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