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| Tuesday, 22 November 2005 | ||||
'You're soooo gay!' In childhood, the term 'gay' is thrown around as a general insult - if something isn't cool, for example. Most of the time it doesn't mean you're homosexual, but it does show how as young innocents people try to be as 'normal' as possible. It doesn't mean you're gay if a few people are calling you that at school.Fantasies and experimentsA lot of people fantasise about the same sex, perhaps while masturbating, although they would never admit it. Many people experience feelings of attraction to the same sex during adolescence - due to hormones, curiosity and because sexuality is fluid; it is not 'black and white' or set in stone. People may experiment with people of their own sex, but this doesn't mean they are gay or that their sexuality is destined to be homosexual.
So - Am I gay?Maybe. There are no hard and fast ways of telling - and it is important not to label yourself and think that's it forever - but you might think seriously about being gay if some or all of the following apply:
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22-07-2009 16:01 hey like ive only told two of my friends and one of them like seen it coming wheni told her but idk what to think cuz im starting to like more than one girl. but i have the same desire for guys still. but i think i might want to be with a girl more than a guy but idk this is all new to me and im freaking out cuz i have no one to talk to.  Registered 18-06-2009 00:31 Well i toled my mom that im gay and my friends have nown but thay are more like ok thats cool. But my mom is like no ur not u like boy when im shur i say a guys cute but im shur i like girls with a burning pashion. Iv had more girl friends -12- thin boy friends-2- Im shur i know myself she just thanks im lieing,  Registered 14-06-2009 18:48 okay. so i like girls. have had 2 girlfriends now. hmm. ive tried to tell my family that i am, and they tell me im not. but im almost positive i am. ug. its driving me insane. Registered 19-05-2009 07:35 I think my thing is I'm just curious, I have always have had a curious mind for anything. I am not afraid of really anything I like to live fast and free, but I catch my self thinking about guys more than girls just wondering what it would be like with a guy. I did grow up with my mom and sister mainly, which might have something to do with the whole guy deal. I'm the oldest of four brothers and I guess I'm just afraid if I like how the "experiment" turns out, how its going to affect my younger brothers. They do look up to me and I just can't relish the thought of them not seeing me they way they used to.... This is my dilema unfortunately. Registered 16-04-2009 05:11 Ugh, I feel as if i've been digging myself into a deeper hole everyday. I've had intentions to be with men since i was about 12 or 13. I grew up in a very strict household, and never really had a father figure in my life. I've pretty muched masked my sexuality by just dating girls from school. I was on the verge of telling someone how I really felt, but I just couldnt bring myself to do it. Now i'm at the point of venturing off into college. I also have a girlfriend who I really do admire, but cant bring myself to break her heart. I'm such a confused state in my life that I really dont know where to turn to anymore. Registered 19-03-2009 23:16 HELLO, when i was reading down some of the comments its seems that alot of people are feeling down which shouldnt be right gay also means happy. when you start growing up you may feel like you want to explore more i know i did and i was very lucky to be able to but if you cant then dont worry there are so many different types of exploration, having sex is just one of them. i found that talking to people really helped and in some cases compleate strangers. the best answer to the question of am i gay is only you know people can give you pointers like you might want to jump on justin timberlake or your lookin at ben strangley when your gettin changed for P.E. what im trying to say is if any of you ever want to talk or just ask advive then your more than welcome to contact me xXX Registered 11-03-2009 17:46 I probaly would like to experament but I'm nervas about meeting online no one I know is willing to  Registered 04-02-2009 22:25 Paducah, Kentucky. please somebody help me out. I want to experiment but I dont have a guinea pig. lol Registered 25-01-2009 09:01 I've known I was gay since I was only 11. I'm 15 now, and I know for sure, because my current attraction to girls, is a 1 on a scale of 1-10. Guys on the other-hand is a 10, on a good day :P. I've never experienced sex period, and I plan on not doing that until I'm sure of someone. But coming out would not be the best choice for me in my situation, because of my school being full of homophobes, and racists, it's almost impenetrable. :D Registered 31-12-2008 07:02 I know im gay and have come out to most of my true friends( the ones i kno i can trust). When i was about 7, me and another guy had kissed each other on accident and we jus started goin at it over the years.... sadly, he's turned out to be straight and won't even speak to me. I feel like he used me and it just seems unfair that we used to share feelings for each other and he drops it. I feel like a pawn. Registered 23-12-2008 16:28 Hello I'm 16 and i'm bi or gay or something (but i think) but i don't really know. it makes it even harder when no one knows and i got some girls that like be... oh anyone from Europe in finland or somewhere wanna talk, hitme up...  Registered 22-12-2008 05:33 If you're really gay- trust me, you'll know. Give it time, though. Allow yourself to experience the opposite sex (not sexually, I mean). Even if it just means going on some dates with amazing people you have a lot in common with.. I've struggled since I was 7.. now I'm almost 16. I KNOW that I'm gay, but don't expect to force the lifestyle upon myself. I haven't "came out"- kinda.. (that's a different story), but just when you "know" that you are- don't feel obligated to tell the world. It may just hurt you more. If it's one person you adore- tell them. PLEASE TRUST ME. TELL THEM. U never know, they may have been waiting to hear it all this time. Just be cautious and patient. Sexuality really is nothing to have a mental breakdown about. We all blossom sooner or later. Yeah, I'm gettin' there.. Registered 23-11-2008 13:26 I'm quite sure that I'm gay. I actually never really fancied girls and already experimented with some other men (it wawsn't sex but anyway) and I liked it... but I don't really dare to come out yet because I think the others will just see me as some homosexual... Registered 12-11-2008 01:55 I am comfortable with myself.. almost. I still wish that I could be entirely straight so that my parents and family would be happy. But I have come to terms with the fact that I can and will love both guys and girls. message me if you want!Registered 31-10-2008 10:29 well, i've just come out and i feel fine with it. A big weight lifted off my sholders. But it would have been easier for god to bring gays out 100's of years ago so then it would be easier for us. lol Registered 09-10-2008 03:59 i'm very open to the fact i like girls, it just pisses me off that i can't just be gay or straight. i find it would be easier if i was a guy just for the fact that its easier to find straight girls and still be excepted both socially and by my self. i just dont know what to do with my self. Registered 07-10-2008 17:36 hi im 14 i think i am gay i think i know im definately not striaght but i worry i might be bi not that anything is wrong with it no but its cos sometimes when i think of sex sometimes its like a girl and i boy hsving it im scard cos i dont really want to fancy girls because sometimes for me it just sounds sick im worried im not gay enough anyone know how i feel i use to think of myself as fully gay but now im confused bi or gay anyone know how i feel  Registered 06-09-2008 14:29 27-08-2008 05:37 Heya I'm 15 and i'm gay (i think) but i don't really know. it makes it even harder when no 1 knows and i got some girls that like be... oh anyone from AUS and wanna talk, hitme up... Registered 21-08-2008 01:32 im done with puberty and i always find myself dreaming about other girls and i dont know what to do? Registered 20-08-2008 09:15 well im starting to give up looking for another guy. ive tried everywhere on the net and this is my last resort i just want love so if anyone finds this just go to my profile look at my stats first and my location then if you meet even one of the criteria (preferably location) then kool... message me and i'll take it from there Registered 01-08-2008 00:41 I don't really know what I am, I'm not going through puberty anymore and I just can't picture myself with a guy, I've had boyfriends but something just never felt right. Registered 22-07-2008 02:48 i fantasise about having a relationship with another guy everyday. both sexually, and emotionally. however, i have been taught that it is so wrong, even though i disagree. so my biggest struggle is accepting the fact that i might be gay. i just don't kno yet because i won't have an opportunity to be with another guy until i leave my parent's house. Registered 22-07-2008 02:47 i fantasise about having a relationship with another guy everyday. both sexually, and emotionally. however, i have been taught that it is so wrong, even though i disagree. so my biggest sruggle is accepting the fact that i might be gay. i just don't kno yet because i won't have an opportunity to be with another guy until i leave my parent's house. Registered 22-06-2008 05:59 21-05-2008 23:28 Well in Jamaica it is horrible being gay, because here they can kill you just for that. But i truly don't care, i just live my life, and stay happy. Registered 15-04-2008 22:05 I'm just admitting to myself that i am bisexual. All my life i've been told that its bad to like girls because i'm a girl. My dads a preacher so it's way hard for me. he crushes me everytime he mentions homos or heteros he just hates them. But I say it's time to stand up for myself, eventhough im not telling him i'm bisexual yet i do stand up for L,G,B, T because it's wrong to bash people for their feeling. I also found out that two of my close girlfriends are bisexual to. So i have some people to talk to. Thanks for making this website. It's a big help lots of times! Registered 30-01-2008 18:40 let me set the scene for you. i surround myself with the highest G.P,A students in the school. all of them are completely fine with someone being gay. yet i can't find it in myself to come out to any of them. i knew a boy i met in 7th grade who imeddiately caught my eye for some strange reason i didnt undertand at the time. well 3 years later after i moved to another surrounding community i, still think this guy is the greatest thing ever to happen to me. by this time i have started to have gay fantasies about this boy. there were severeal signs that he himself might have been gay as well, but he has never to this day after several tries on my part, admitted to such a truth. but anywaya, by 10th grade i was strugaling with my feelings for this boy, so after a few bad things happened in our friendship, we "split up" for that whole year. well during this time is when i found out i gay for him. i dropped out of high school because of a sleeping disorder i developed as a cause of the depression not being around the boy i loved caused me. so i had to have his friendship back. and i did up untill about 3 weeks ago. i find that this gay love of mine will always go unfulfilled so i told him never to speak to me again. well more like i slept with the girl he was trying to date at the time. oh well now that i know i cant ever ever ever have him i feel completely fine now. but in the near future i believe i will still crave his smell, and beautiful eyes and hair, and his lovely body. i know in time my weakness will be to strong for me to keep a secret. Registered 30-01-2008 18:40 let me set the scene for you. i surround myself with the highest G.P,A students in the school. all of them are completely fine with someone being gay. yet i can't find it in myself to come out to any of them. i knew a boy i met in 7th grade who imeddiately caught my eye for some strange reason i didnt undertand at the time. well 3 years later after i moved to another surrounding community i, still think this guy is the greatest thing ever to happen to me. by this time i have started to have gay fantasies about this boy. there were severeal signs that he himself might have been gay as well, but he has never to this day after several tries on my part, admitted to such a truth. but anywaya, by 10th grade i was strugaling with my feelings for this boy, so after a few bad things happened in our friendship, we "split up" for that whole year. well during this time is when i found out i gay for him. i dropped out of high school because of a sleeping disorder i developed as a cause of the depression not being around the boy i loved caused me. so i had to have his friendship back. and i did up untill about 3 weeks ago. i find that this gay love of mine will always go unfulfilled so i told him never to speak to me again. well more like i slept with the girl he was trying to date at the time. oh well now that i know i cant ever ever ever have him i feel completely fine now. but in the near future i believe i will still crave his smell, and beautiful eyes and hair, and his lovely body. i know in time my weakness will be to strong for me to keep a secret. Registered 14-01-2008 07:24 I think that sexuality changes over time, for some people at least. I knew I was gay from the age of about 14, but only came out when I was 17 because I noticed that my fantasies and desires tended to swing to girls, then guys. Once they started being mostly about guys, I came out. but even now I wonder if I really am gay...it's hard to talk to my friends about this because I don't want to have gone through the pain of comming out only to say "whoops! Sorry, my bad" and be straight. I guess that means i'm bi-sexual, but I love boys and only find girls sexually attractive. Maybe i'm just like every other horny teenager out there... Registered 12-01-2008 02:32 06-11-2007 17:31 i think its very black and white if you like the same gender in a sexual way you are gay. if you like both you're bisexual and some people like one more then the other Registered 24-09-2007 20:49 am i the only person hu wnts 2 b circumsised? i think am gay bt stil like girls awel Registered 19-09-2007 13:42 04-08-2007 21:31 22-07-2007 09:00 some ppl dont even like to label themselves as l.g.b anymore. they just like what they are attracted to...the term would be "bisexual" but im trying to find the right person...not the right sex...  Registered 11-07-2007 09:18 i do agree with this article, alot. i am myself, a 19yr old Gay Male. i live in Brisbane City in Australia, anyways to my point, being a teenager isn't the easiest time of your life, trying to learn how to cope with stress of school, friends, family and most importantly your hormones, hormones can mess with almost everything. especially when you have grown up in a family that expects you to be straight. its not easy, if you have a urge to see what its like to kiss a guy or a girl or well.... yea (i've leave the rest to the imagination lol) if you have the urge to do so, DO IT. you only live once. my eldest sister Leeanne had always told me, don't knock it, till you try it. and yes, i have had sex with a girl a couple of times it really didnt interest me, because i've known that i was always attracted to guys i really could ramble on about this. if you want to talk more on this feel free to msg me. Edi. Registered 03-07-2007 03:21 will sum 1 pleez help me i know im gay but i still think sum boiz are gorgeous i cant imagine miself wit 1 but omg its juss crazy!!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Registered 25-06-2007 22:05 to clarify most heterosexuals are misimformed so there use of the word gay is completely out of place and almost irrelevant. also i think that the information here only is imformative and thank you for it, but also i think that i shows that people's use of the word gay is so wrong the things that might apply to someone who thinks they are just shows that other people's use of the word gay as an insult is stupid. slightly blunt but i think that it is mostly accurate. Registered 25-06-2007 07:06 I know that its hard to be like this but i dont care but its not even going to be a shock for any of them cause they know it dont want to say anything to me but i guess thats kinda good... and this web site is so helpfull and full of great people i love it Registered Powered by AkoComment Tweaked Special Edition v.1.4.6 |
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