I have to agree with john below me. 
It is great you are so accepting after such a thing. 
But you shouldn't stay with him. Or if you two keep the marriage for the kids as a reason, you should at least be looking for someone new.

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As with many before me, I applaud your incredible tolerance. 
 
But I must say, reading your story has deeply worried me. You need to take care of yourself. Your husband\'s needs are secondary to yours in this situation, and your husband (ex-husband, by now, I hope) should understand that. Take care of yourself, scream at him when you need, get it all out! Do whatever you must do (within the bounds of the law, of course). 
 
When I read that you went to gay clubs with him, I almost died. Not even I can stand gay clubs, and I\'m one of \"them.\" 
 
But, hey, I\'m young. I could easily be being naive. 
Please take care.

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Please remember your husband does love you nothing can change that.He also loves his children all he has done his admit his feelings which must of mean absolute agony after all these years.He didnt married you to hide himself, he married you because he love you and in your heart you know he does. Love is crazy, you can love one person but want something else.

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Well, I must say, its very nice of you  
others would have taken it differently. it would hsve been bad for the kids. you made a good decision.

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I think that you are amazing and very good for having taken the news so well. While it is noble and admirable that you accept your husband and care about his feelings, I hope also that you are considerate of your feelings and needs as well. If I were in your shoes, I would get out and start my own life. I know that it will be difficult, but you both will be happier for it. You can continue seeing eachother and you may become the best of friends, but don't sacrifice your heart and your life for his.

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awwwwwwwwww i really feel for you, as long as he still loves his children and is really relieved he has told you at last but all you hav to do is help him, even if h is gay he will still love his children and you. he might not love you in the sexual way anymore but i bet he luks up to you as hs soul mate and he will still stand by you, tell him wot you are feeling because its the only way you can sort it out, Hope i have been of help xxx

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salut sex

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hi

hey i got a qustion its about ur husbent hey is you husbend lover living in the house i thing u should stay maried but get a boyfriend go to the clubs how did ur husbend meet his lover if i may ask

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well...

what i don't get about this story is, why didn't he tell you he was gay, but not his parents, i understand the whole catholic ubringing , but how did he manage to have sex with you, and have 7 kids, sorry for saying that, but im just curious sorry, i just don't get how he could, well at least you showed compasion towards him

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You are amazing!

OMG! Your amazing, being that supportive and completely selfless. All you seem to have done is make sure that he is happy, make sure you look after youself and try to keep smiling. 
You are so, so brave and i have to say i admire you. 
Ben

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You are amazing!

OMG! Your amazing, being that supportive and completely selfless. All you seem to have done is make sure that he is happy, make sure you look after youself and try to keep smiling. 
You are so, so brave and i have to say i admire you. 
Ben

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WOW!!!

I have not known such bravery and understanding in a long time, i thik it is amazing that you can stick by your husband through this. He is a very very lucky man

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WOW!!!

I have not known such bravery and understanding in a long time, i thik it is amazing that you can stick by your husband through this. He is a very very lucky man

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awwwww

thats really sweet, well done for sticking by him, to say some women would kick him out for it, you shown a brill personality, and you also deserve a great man sorry bit too far but she does

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awwwww

i know congratulating you on the kind of person won't help you much, but he is so lucky to have you, keep on going and things will be alright

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well done

i think you are a great person by sticking by ur husband. well done 
 
-shaun

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well done

You have done so much for your husband. More than any wife should be expected to do. Your testiment shows true love, and its people like you that still make marriage in our world, worth it. 
 
You must however take stock of your own feelings as well. Have you any friends or family that you can surround yourself with in this tough time? You and your husband (and children) are at the moment living on the never never. Sooner or later the pendulem will sway. It's up to you to decide which way. The best that can come out of this, is a deep, close and ever lasting friendship. Surely, thats what marriage is all about, when sex is taken out of the equation? Make it clear to your husband (and yourself) that you are no longer 'together'. You are free to meet a new man, as is he. You will always both be there for your children, and each other. But not in the traditional sense. In this situation you have to bite the bullet. And you've well and truely swallowed it. It's up to your husband now to honour that duty, and give something back to your happiness. If you, (or anyone that is reading this and is in a similar situation) wants to talk to me, just look up my profile on the GYC, and PM me. I will be happy to speak anytime.

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