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 How did I feel when I found out my daughter was a lesbian? It's hard to say. It was a mixture of feelings. My first thought was that life will be difficult for her. She is different and so therefore she would suffer the consequences of being different: suspicion, fear and rejection by the so-called normal world....She would carry a label: dangerous and contagious, stay away, protect yourself! This made me feel sad at first, then angry, then protective. How could I help my daughter? I decided to learn more about homosexuality. Why does it happen? Can it be cured? I later found out that the first question, to date, has no answer, the second is a fallacious one, because it is not a disease. I read a lot, and that confused me. The opinions expressed by various authors, in some cases, differed drastically, based on their backgrounds and what they were trying to prove. It was my daughter who directed my wife and me to Parents of Gays. It was then that I realized that I was not alone. The same feelings of guilt, inadequacy, and sorrow were shared by many. There was one feeling I did not share. Some people were angry at their children for being homosexuals, since they felt that it had brought shame on them. Since my daughter has told us she's a lesbian and my wife and I have learned more about sexual orientation, we have become much closer to our daughter. Prior to this, there were times when she seemed distant, unhappy, at times impatient with us. This has all changed. I could go on with many more details, but I think the statement my daughter made recently sums it all up: "Dad, I have never been as happy and relaxed as I am now that you know and understand". Only registered users can write comments.  Add as favourites (42) |  Quote this article on your site
21-07-2009 15:06 hey every1 i just wanted 2 let u all know that i found this site that really lets u earn money doing just about nothing. now we all know that most of these sites r nothing more then scams, but this 1 isnt i swear! all u have 2 do is sign up and thats it. they even give u a free 7 day trial! so please check it out, what do u have 2 loose except making well deserved money! www.website.ws/journey2moon Registered 28-05-2009 18:16 My mom would go freakin crazy if I told her I was bi! So, I will probably never tell her=( Registered 24-03-2009 08:35 I cant understand why some parents react badly when there daughters reveal there lesbian or bi. Its good that your a understanding dad and loves his daughter no matter what lifestyle she choses. For women in same sex relationships there is less chance of std's, being cheated on and hurt psychially. It does happen but in lesbian/bi relationships dosent happen often as it does in straight relationships. And to all the lesbian or bi girls in here, hello Registered 07-03-2009 18:29 well my father kinda knows..he saw my browsing history  . he just said that i am too ypung for that. but after that every thing was back to normal. he still LOVES his little devil  Registered 11-08-2008 10:51 02-12-2007 03:22 im bi and if i ever tell my parents imma tell them imonly %50 gay. then it'll make a joke and hopefully they'll see im still me. i hope my dad is like you. i dont want him to think any less of me. Registered 02-12-2007 02:52 06-03-2007 21:54 Hats Off To You If only everyone had parents as supportive of you. Im bisexual and very unsure of telling my dad as he is very religious. x Guest 31-12-2006 08:35 Dear Sir I am a 15 yrold lesbian and I knoww for a fact that I can never tell my dad or my family because they would disown me but I want to say thanks for being there for your doughter and being an understanding parent.  Guest 31-12-2006 08:34 Dear Sir I am a 15 yrold lesbian and I knoww for a fact that I can never tell my dad or my family because they would disown me but I want to say thanks for being there for your doughter and being an understanding parent. Guest 24-09-2006 10:59 Dear Sir u kno as i read this story over and over i wish to this day that my parents could understand the change in my life i ahve tooken was best for me and not just for heck of it ! But i mean if they dont except to the day they creal over i still will be happy with my decision i made! Guest 21-09-2006 05:10 14-08-2006 07:37 I agree... Dear Sir, Your daughter is lucky to have someone to support her, my dad yelled you cant be gay until i die, so I am, just not with him knowing... It is an awful feeling that many feel, I just wish that we shouldnt have to... I thank you for understanding that it is not a simple thing to have a different S.O. (Sexual Orientation) Than the "normal-world". Thanks for being an understanding parent, Chas Guest 16-07-2006 11:56 thankyou Dear Sir, You give me hope, I am a 16yr old lesbian yet to tell my parents. Thankyou for supporting your daughter and publishing your story, I hope that one day I can recieve the same support from my father, thankyou Guest 16-07-2006 11:56 thankyou Dear Sir, You give me hope, I am a 16yr old lesbian yet to tell my parents. Thankyou for supporting your daughter and publishing your story, I hope that one day I can recieve the same support from my father, thankyou Guest 06-11-2005 00:44 Powered by AkoComment Tweaked Special Edition v.1.4.6 |
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